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Speaker 1 0:21

All right good morning March 2 2021 You're listening to ask the neighbor we're gonna go to a song for you life is so wonderful magic is singing so happy watching me then they send me away me how to be responsible practical in the show me your world calling or writing respecting Ebola?

All right all right who do we have there DJ Chaka Supertramp with a logical song. All right. Thank you for that. You're listening to ask the neighbor. I'm your host Danko Souter offski. With us today. We have Jennifer Draper. Hi, Jennifer.

Unknown Speaker 4:47

Good morning. Thanks. So how are you?

Speaker 1 4:50

Excellent, excellent. How are you doing today?

Unknown Speaker 4:53

Good. I'm great. Thank you. Nice tune.

Speaker 1 4:55

Hey, well, you know it's kind of deep but you know why? Not it's 9am. It's the Motor City. We're broadcasting from 690 am WNZK Why not some Supertramp?

Unknown Speaker 5:11

Exactly.

Speaker 1 5:12

So what does that does that song remind you of anything for you?

Unknown Speaker 5:16

Yes, it does. It reminds me of my dad driving me to high school. Ah, and I remember listening to that song and just, you know, the micro and the macro and all of it. And so yeah, that was funny. That was a great choice.

Speaker 1 5:34

Oh, well, I know you're a music kind of sewer. Jennifer's so thanks for that. You know, yesterday was our first show as the neighbor. We had a great show. We talked with many different people. We had some Collins that called in. I want to let everybody know, ask the neighbor is a show that takes calls in we answer questions about home improvement. Food. What else Jennifer.

Unknown Speaker 6:05

I'm really what strikes our listeners fancy. I think the show is, you know, roughly set out by you Danko. But I think it's kind of a show for your listeners. Yeah, fair to say.

Speaker 1 6:17

Yeah, I think so. I mean, we, I feel, you know, the show is organic, because people will be calling in, and the number to call in is 248-557-3300. In between that we're talking. We're talking about issues that are relevant in today's world. I want to dedicate this show today to my cousin who has passed away deffo, Nicole offski. Rest in peace, my brother. This show is dedicated to you. And the world we live in is sometimes challenging. And it happens. You know, sometimes the world gets the best of us and we go. So especially in this time in this world that we're living in today. You know, it feels like death is every second word. And, you know, we're trying to get away from that we're trying to live in the world of the future and to be present with what's happening. So shout out to my cousin's deffo Nicole offski, who passed away. We love you, brother. Rest in peace. So our show today should be kind of interesting. We've got a Casey's gonna be calling us in a little bit. We've got Jennifer Draper on the line right now. I'm your host Danko Sutter. offski. We're taking calls, folks, if there's any questions about some home improvements, I know this spring is coming fast. Jennifer, we mentioned some stuff yesterday. And you're probably taking an evaluation every day of your house because I know how you are.

Unknown Speaker 8:01

Think it should be more proactive. I think you're giving me credit. But I would say that my concern is growing every day. Yeah. You know, think about heading out into the backyard and looking at my I've got a lot of windows in my home. And I've been looking at my heat bills. And I think it's time for me to realize that maybe I've got to do something about these windows. So I wanted to thank you again for having the guest yesterday, Robert Gilbert, that he was really helpful. And I've reached out to him and I've got him coming over to look at my windows and look at my the outdoor spigot I was talking about yesterday and some of those French drains and stuff. So that was really helpful. Yeah, thank you for having him on.

Speaker 1 8:50

Yeah. Nice guy, great company. Michigan's Michigan's handyman. right.com. Yeah. Yeah. So Robert was on yesterday, we were talking a little bit about all kinds of different things. You know, I have a question for you today. I know it's not home repair. But before we get going, I wanted to talk a little bit about kombucha high No, I know. I know. A lot of folks might not know what Kombucha is. Let's say let's let's first describe what is kombucha?

Unknown Speaker 9:28

Okay, I'm gonna invite people to call in and add because I don't know that I necessarily know

Speaker 1 9:33

okay. Yeah, please, folks, if you know anything about kombucha let's let's talk a little kombucha right now.

Unknown Speaker 9:41

I make it Yeah, but I don't I'm not you know, really schooled in all the science behind it. I know that I ordered something called a SCOBY which is an acronym, which I will look up shortly when I'm not talking but it's a living. I don't know I've got a lot of weird growing things. To my house. I've got sourdough starter that I finally succeeded with, as I talked about yesterday, but kombucha I've been, you know, growing, I guess it's the right word. It's a beverage and it's fermented. And you start it with the scoby, which is the bacteria component. And what does that look black T and it looks really unique. It looks like a science experiment. So Scobey just a leap of faith.

Speaker 1 10:35

It's, it's like a growing a soft, kinda not so soft jello kind of looking kind of floating thing. That's a living organism that's inside this. Kombucha?

Unknown Speaker 10:51

Yeah, no, that's exactly what it is. It's a bacteria component. And it grows, if it's being treated well. And, you know, I keep it in a in my laundry room, which is somewhat dark and warm, and feed it sugar and black tea and keep adding water to it. And what it generates is a lightly carbonated beverage, and then I put that into bottles. And then I add fruit or herbs or spices, you know, whatever kind of strikes me. And then I seal that up for a few more days to increase the carbonation, and then I drink it, and I give it to as many people who will agree to drink it with me. And I think it's very healthy.

Speaker 1 11:36

What is the like, from what I understand it acts like a probiotic.

Unknown Speaker 11:44

Yeah, that's a really key component up key point. Thank you for bringing that up. So what that means in layman's terms is it puts good bacteria back into your gut. So it's completely unprocessed food, which is the antithesis of you know, what many of us eat, which is highly processed food. So that's an important thing to bear in mind when you first start drinking kombucha, to have a little bit at first, before you build up your tolerance to have say, a full bottle, right? Because it is introducing different components into your gastrointestinal tract.

Speaker 1 12:28

Yeah, and, you know, this is a good time to do that. Right. I think with Corona amidst us. Having a good gut is important. Quite important, actually, from what everything I've read, and everything that I've heard. If there's any experts, or anybody that's out there that wants to contribute, we're talking about kombucha and the health benefits to it. You may be out there thinking, Well, gosh, maybe I want to try this kombucha, I want to know a little bit more about it, or how to even make it. We've got a kombucha maker on the line here, Jennifer Draper, maker of kombucha. And you can give us a call at 248557 3300, you're listening to ask the neighbor.com radio, we're broadcasting from 690 Am w NZK. And we're talking about the gut. And what we need to do about it, especially since Corona is amidst us. And Kombucha is a product that is got living organisms in there to help you digest and process and make a better gut. And isn't that where all of the immune system kind of happens is in our digestive system.

Unknown Speaker 13:46

I would not even call myself a remote, remotely knowledgeable person about that, but it just, you know, I think of the body as a series of interconnected systems. So I think if your stomach and gastrointestinal system are strong, and you're feeding your body, you know, things that I think, you know, raw food and what I would call real food, which would be veggies that you're cooking, or eating raw and fruits that you're eating raw and just moving away from processed foods, so anything that doesn't come from a box and doesn't come from a package, anything that you have to cook and I think to some people that sounds onerous, but really cooking is can be as simple as putting three ingredients in a pot, and you'd be amazed with what how good dinner is gonna be three ingredients later. I think you kind of ascribed to that as well. Right? Well,

Speaker 1 14:55

you know, you always want I think you want to eat products that are Your body can process in some way and doesn't just disregard I feel like you know, if you're processing food in your body that is real food, it will always help you and, and more science has come out about the micro nutrients that are in the food. Like, you know, there was talk before that, just the vitamins out of there we can squeeze out and taking a pill. Well, science has come up with other things that are showing that micronutrients that are in leafy greens and what have you create such good things for your body that we're just getting to know what that is. And kombucha I think falls in that category of a living organism that a society our societies probably have been taking for a long time. Fermented basically, it's a fermented drink that helps you digest and helps you process food but I think there's other health benefits along the way with that. And you know, what's cool about it is it creates it actually like a fizzy made right, it gives you a almost like a carbonated drink. It's carbonated.

Unknown Speaker 16:16

Yeah, oh, no, absolutely. It's um, it's a combination of bacteria and yeast. It turns out so when you're feeding the the tea or the base of it sugar, that's what keeps growing and keeps. It keeps going. The acronym SCOBY that I used earlier is an acronym for symbiotic culture of bacteria and yeast. So now I understand why we call it SCOBY instead of all those words.

Speaker 1 16:49

Interesting that's been around for

Unknown Speaker 16:51

literally hundreds of 1000s of years, like multiple cultures. It's been sourced in multiple cultures. China, Russia, Eastern Europe, is typically where it's, it's credited and haven't been, you know, originated but here I am making it in my laundry room in Troy, Michigan. Look at that.

Speaker 1 17:13

So it's possible to make it anywhere. If you're making it in Troy, Michigan. You can make it anywhere, folks. And if you have any questions about that, please feel free to give us a call. 248557 3300 You're listening to ask the neighbor. I'm your host Danko. Souter offski, Jennifer Draper's co hosting with me. Thank you, Jennifer. So right now we've got a caller Casey's calling in? Hello, Casey. Hi, how are you? Oh, great. I'm great. How are you doing today?

Unknown Speaker 17:48

Wonderful. The sun is shining.

Speaker 1 17:50

Oh, we got we've got Jennifer Draper on the phone. The sun is shining. Hey,

Unknown Speaker 17:57

how are you Casey?

Unknown Speaker 17:58

I'm great.

Speaker 1 18:00

We're talking today we were just talking about nutritional health. Casey, and we're talking about kombucha and Jennifer is a kombucha maker. And we just Yeah, I don't know how much you know about kombucha but that's what we've been talking about. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 18:16

Okay, yeah, I have one. It's a pineapple kombucha. It is so good.

Speaker 1 18:22

Ah, so are you just a drinker or a maker? Casey, what are you?

Unknown Speaker 18:27

No, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 1 18:32

Just a drinker. All right, Casey, we have a new customer for you. I mean, Jennifer, we have a new customer for homemade.

Unknown Speaker 18:41

Interesting.

Unknown Speaker 18:43

Yeah, what flavors do you make?

Unknown Speaker 18:47

So I have been sticking with. I put ginger in it often. And I've got a bunch of I put lavender in it from my garden. I put cayenne in one batch, but that was a hot mess. No pun intended. Yeah, that just was yucky.

Speaker 1 19:08

Good idea. I like that idea. I like the idea of that spice in

Unknown Speaker 19:12

there. Yeah, the concept was good. The reality was really bad. But I've put dried fruit in them too, like dried apricots and blackberries and blueberries. And that was

Unknown Speaker 19:25

okay, I liked the lab and dried but

Unknown Speaker 19:29

yeah, lavender was great. I like the pineapple idea. So I will make my next I'll call it Casey

Speaker 1 19:47

Casey batch that'll be the case. Yeah,

Unknown Speaker 19:50

that's great. I've got a batch that I've got a batch I'm literally about to bottle up. So I'll hop out and get some pineapple and make it for you.

Speaker 1 19:58

Wow, okay, great. connection made on Ask the neighbor folks, that connection was just made on Ask the neighbor, we are now. Go ahead.

Unknown Speaker 20:10

Now how long does it take to make the condenser?

Unknown Speaker 20:15

It's it depends on the makers taste. So that would be me. It can take a week or two. And it gets harder the longer I wait. So I like things tart. So to answer your question, it takes two weeks to create that kind of tea with the scoby. And it's technically ready as soon as you know, I find it hard enough, but then I do that second bottle in. And that's when I will put in, for instance, the pineapple or the lavender or the ginger or what have you. And then I let that ferment in individual bottles for you know, anywhere from three to five days. Because that that will control the amount of fizziness or carbonation it generates. And then I kind of drink it, try to get my kids to drink it, give it to my brave friends.

Speaker 1 21:10

Yeah, well, hey, I mean, you know, drinking, drinking the right stuff, putting the stuff in your body. And that's kind of like where we might take this show today is about what we're putting in our body and the ramifications of that. And, you know, we can we can choose to put good stuff in our body, or we can choose to put junk in our body and buy junk, I mean, any sugary products or drinks, folks, you should not be drinking period. If you look at any studies about soda pop, obviously, they're not one of our sponsors, so we're not worried. And if they were, I wouldn't care because it's just terrible for you. And we've been fed a bunch of lies from media. And it affects everybody, every single day, because you see a Coca Cola commercial, and you think that it's a good thing for you based on the advertisement. But it is bad. It is bad for you. The sugar industry, the sugar industry 50 years ago identified that cancer that cancer was caused by sugar, yet, they don't talk about that. They don't label that on the can of Coke. You know. So, folks, you know, we're we're here because we're a show that's concerned about our neighbors. And it's called Ask the neighbor because we're talking about things that are relevant in our society. We're talking about things that we're putting in our body. And thanks for that explanation, Jennifer, because, you know, just going through that process of what it takes to make something your own and creating it and giving yourself that good health is is a little bit of a process, but man, is it worth it. In the end. You feel different.

Unknown Speaker 22:55

Yeah, it is. Danko or Casey Do you want to guess as to how many grams of sugar are in a 12 ounce can of Coca Cola?

Unknown Speaker 23:10

I don't know. It's a lot. I know that.

Speaker 1 23:14

Yeah, I'm gonna, I'm gonna say 50 5050 grams. Well, I'm gonna

Unknown Speaker 23:21

think a way to overshoot.

Unknown Speaker 23:25

1510 to 15. But

Unknown Speaker 23:28

yeah, okay, good. Thank you. Thank you for undershooting Casey is actually 39 grams of sugar, oh, in a can of Coke, okay. And to give you your listeners a sense of what a gram is, think of like a sugar packet, you know, like one of the fake sugars or a real sugar packet that's about a gram. Or you can think of it as a sugar cube. And 40 grams of sugars 10 sugar cubes. That just makes my that makes my spine twitch. That's just gross.

Speaker 1 24:05

Yeah, they got a new product. Now it's Coca Cola. Now they got a product called Coca Cola with coffee. And it's like, why we're just literally trying to kill people. We're trying to kill people. Yeah, and

Unknown Speaker 24:24

it's difficult. It's difficult for children to stop drinking it. I mean, you go to parties, they always offer to pop right? cheaper, but my kids now I know that I can't prevent them from having sugar all the time. But at my house, I do not buy juices. We can make juice because we have a juicer and they have to drink water so we have tons of water. And a lot of my my kid friends don't like that. You're like you don't have time. Right? Don't have anything bottled. No, we do not right. Good, good. And they go to your house. They get the sugar, you know, and then they come back and then they're crazy.

Speaker 1 25:05

Yeah, well, yeah, make sure they stay away from the Mountain Dews.

Unknown Speaker 25:12

Oh my goodness, I used to drink that in college.

Speaker 1 25:17

For days, yeah. Oh my gosh, you know, this show, we're talking about things that are relevant to us and to our neighbors. You're listening to 690 am, I'm your host Danko, Sutter offski. And we're talking about things that we drink things that we put in our body. And we're going to make a little shift to this right after this song. I want to thank first of all, Spacelab, Detroit, and one mag.tv and also very detroit.com, for making this show possible. Actually, all these have been like a trigger a step by step progression of where we have come. Right, Casey. Absolutely. You know, we were doing only a half an hour show once a week, a one hour show once a week. We began almost three years ago this year on very Detroit, sharing community stories. And this is an extension of that. We're an extension of what our mission is, and that's to convey good positive community vibes around our city and around our neighborhoods, and around our community, being positive towards one another, and treating each other respectfully and with kindness. So I want to thank both of you for calling in today and being with me and supporting ask the neighbor we appreciate that we're going to go to a song really quick and then after that, we're going to switch it up a little bit. The call in number folks is 248557 3300 give us a ring we're gonna go to a song from bad bunny right now.

Unknown Speaker 27:10

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Speaker 1 31:52

some bad bunny coming at you early in the morning, this is Danko Souter. AUSkey you're listening to ask the neighbor. Good bunny bad bunny. We've got it. Uh, Casey, are you still there? Ah, Jennifer, are you still there? Hello, Jennifer.

Unknown Speaker 32:10

In spite of the bad bunny, I am still here.

Speaker 1 32:15

Oh, all right. All right.

Unknown Speaker 32:17

That was good. That was interesting. Well, interesting. I took me back to high school Spanish class.

Speaker 1 32:23

Okay. Well, there's some words you knew.

Unknown Speaker 32:29

Yes. All right.

Speaker 1 32:30

Good, good. Good. So your Spanish paid off? If Spanish paid off? Yeah. Well, we're took a little little a shift in the show. We were talking about drinking, it's still in that realm. We were talking about drinking good stuff for you, kombucha. And Casey is back on the line with us. We have Jennifer Draper with us. And we're talking about what we put in our body. And what we should be putting in our body. We just talked about stuff that we might not want to put in our body. And I want to take it to the next step. Casey, tell us a little bit about, um, what bad things people are putting in their body right now. Because I know in your in your world, you help people that are experiencing substance abuse?

Unknown Speaker 33:20

Oh, yeah, they're taking? Well, most of them are abusing alcohol. Because of COVID

Speaker 1 33:26

because we so because of COVID You're saying alcohol has gone up?

Unknown Speaker 33:32

Absolutely. There's definitely been an increase in alcohol. So we're getting more clients into the center. Because of that. They're taking all sorts of pills naturally, and there's been an increase of sales at the dispensaries for like gummy. CVD

Speaker 1 33:59

boiboi So like, I don't even know where to start with this one. But I want to start. It's like, alright, we talk about COVID We talk about the pills, we talk about cannabis, what are we talking about, but I want to focus in on alcohol because I think it's like a stimulator of issues. And especially now obviously, we are all tracking like we know that all Kahal sales in Michigan are up like millions of dollars this year. They're probably having a field day loving it, you know, but those our society is paying the price and it's our neighbors that are paying the price and it's just not okay to drink so much because it really destroys you. And Casey tell us your your role that you that you are currently in that you help substance abusers.

Unknown Speaker 34:59

Oh, I facilitate a group for women who have been either sanctioned by the court or they're walking because their lives have become unmanageable, totally unmanageable. And the last facilitate group for them, encouraging them to be more positive how to rewire their brain? And things like that. Yeah.

Speaker 1 35:30

Not not easy to do, right? I mean, like rewiring our brain is kind of crazy. Yeah. And I look at like, what I feel are stimulators to drinking and other substance abuse is, you know, our general society and acceptance of the culture of drinking, and how even movies and media and all these things have like really primed us to say, you know, it's alright, if you drink no big deal, you know, whatever. It's okay to have another one. Right. And that's just not okay. Obviously, you know, some things happen in the brain and in our body that makes it addictive. And, I mean, is it easy to come off alcohol, Casey, when you're on it?

Unknown Speaker 36:18

No, it isn't. But it's even more difficult for women. Oh, why is that I'm thinking are really difficult for women to kick the habit? Yeah, just any drug and alcohol is considered a drug. But yeah, it is more difficult for women than men.

Speaker 1 36:38

I don't know why. I mean, it's a great question. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 36:43

Yeah, I'm we're not sure about that. There's just research going both ways. You know, they're saying it's the chemical in our brain. And it affects that, which makes it more addicting than there's other things. I mean, there's just so much out there. I don't know, I haven't decided which way I'm going to go.

Speaker 1 37:02

Right. Right. No, I mean, but yeah, honorable work that you're doing. I mean, honestly, you know, God bless you for the work that you're doing Casey out there, and helping our neighborhoods and our communities, you know, person by person. And I want you know, I want families to know that there are resources out there guys that, you know, like the substance abuse program that that you're in Casey. And, you know, is there. I feel like there's a lot of different places that people can reach out when they're ready to reach out. Um, you know, and under this COVID situation, right, where it's so bizarre. I mean, some people probably, you know, have left the house very little, some people maybe have gone out more, but, you know, we know liquor sales are way up. And this liquor sales thing is not a joke, because it creates long lasting habits that are very difficult to break. So if you're if you're drinking, like what's, what's a reasonable amount to drink, Casey? I mean, like, what's considered not substance abuser?

Unknown Speaker 38:13

Well, socially, three times a week.

Speaker 1 38:16

Okay. Okay. Okay. If you're

Unknown Speaker 38:19

drinking more than that, and if you're drinking a lot, and maybe you should call somebody.

Speaker 1 38:26

Drinking alone, I think is a sign of big, big issue, right? Because you've kind of gone over the hump of it's not just a social thing. Now. It's a I don't know, physical, physical, I guess you probably get to the physical point at that point. When you're drinking alone. It's a need. Oh, well, please. Go ahead.

Unknown Speaker 38:56

As the drinking has increased, so has irresponsible sex habits. Oh. Yeah. So you're getting folks out here drinking more, and then they're being more risk gay and their sexual behavior, and the STDs STIs have gone up dramatically.

Speaker 1 39:18

I didn't expect that. What's the effect called again?

Unknown Speaker 39:22

Std STD. i

Speaker 1 39:24

Yeah. I thought there was a name. I thought there was a name for the No, no, no. I make sense, though. I mean, like, if you think about it, it's kind of sometimes might go hand in hand. And because of that, you know, alcohol makes us make bad decisions, you know, and, you know, compilation of bad decisions equals a pretty bad life, you know, and the STDs become a part of that life of yours that you start to create. So, folks, is there is there a number that women could call for help? In this area, maybe someone out there might know. Give us a call at 248557 3300 You're listening to WNZ K 690 am. I'm your host, Dan Kosta Roski, ask the neighbor is our program. And we've got Casey and we've got Jennifer on the line. And we're talking about substance abuse, something that our neighbors are probably experiencing. And if you have a neighbor out there that you want to just addressed anonymously and say a couple words, give us a call a 248557 3300. You can give us a call there. So when do when do these things occur? Usually Casey, in someone's psyche that addiction occurs, how does it occur?

Unknown Speaker 40:48

Well, from my clients, they told me that a lot of times it started with stealing their parents alcohol, dealing their parents, their parents are at home. Yeah, they just, you know, they drink their parents alcohol, they get some started. Then there are other ladies who said that their parents gave them drugs. I mean, so it happens very early. The earliest that I've heard about this, like one girl came in, and she said she was five years old. And her mom was stressed out. She was a single parent, and she encouraged her to drink. Oh, wow.

Speaker 1 41:22

Holy moly.

Unknown Speaker 41:24

Yeah, I can't imagine anything like that. But things like this are happening. Well, I

Speaker 1 41:29

mean, I've heard of stuff like, you know, giving, giving children you know, medications to to calm them down so that they don't have to watch them as much and all of that's terrible. But you can't make good decisions. If you're drinking yourself. I mean, you know, you don't know. You don't know what you're doing.

Unknown Speaker 41:46

Yeah, I can't even imagine getting my nerves. Right. Go ahead, Jennifer.

Unknown Speaker 41:53

No, cuz it's poison. Yeah, I was just gonna say, you know, going back to your earlier thread, Denko, of how prevalent it is, across the American culture. You know, Casey, I think we drink, we're encouraged to drink, to celebrate, we're encouraged to drink. When we're sad. We drink at a funeral at awake, we drink. When our kid graduates from high school, we just, it's, it's so prevalent. And I think that, you know, I grew up with watching both of my parents drink wine. And that was deemed socially acceptable, right, you know, oh, they're having wine. Instead of like, you know, Mickey's big mouth or hard alcohol or whatever. Right? So I think it's very insidious. And it's something I've really taken an assessment of in my life, you know, specific to COVID, i Tomorrow will be at 30 days without alcohol. And that's, unfortunately, an almost embarrassingly, like a big statement to make, because I to flit into that, I'm gonna have a glass of wine, because I'm stressed out, I'm going to have a glass of wine because I'm lonely. I'm going to have a glass of wine for whatever reason, I could rationalize it really easily. And then I kind of, like, looked in the mirror and said, Holy heck, I am drinking every day. And

Speaker 1 43:27

not, not according to Casey, that's all Yeah, times a week.

Unknown Speaker 43:31

Exactly.

Unknown Speaker 43:32

Yeah. But this was seven.

Speaker 1 43:37

Yeah, that's

Unknown Speaker 43:38

interesting to kind of look in the mirror and get a hold of it.

Speaker 1 43:42

Well, you're, you're one of the fortunate ones that I think, you know, we're able to identify it and start to wrestle with the issue, you know, because it's so, so overwhelming. And, you know, people are suffering in so many different ways right now, suffering from lack of contact, suffering from, you know, low self esteem. Because, you know, we don't, I think we're stuck inside and we need people and we need interaction for us to get the right feedback back from folks, you know, and without it, we're kind of in this weird spot. And, you know, media hasn't been helping, they've been, you know, really just shoving fear down our throat, and more and more fear causes you to react and I would imagine, okay, well, I'll just go grab the bottle. I feel more fearful now than I did before, you know, and I put I put on the news again, and I'm going to get more drinks because now I feel worse. So has you know, I'm wondering like in my mind what are some things that people what kind of advice do you give for them to start to wean off Casey? Like, what do you how do you just say, Don't drink anymore?

Unknown Speaker 45:01

Well, I don't, because it's past that point, they get to the center, and they see me it's way past. They have to, because they're sanctioned by the court, or they're walking in, and they know their lives are out of control. So once they come into facility, there is no alcohol, there is no pills, there's none of that. So they're very sober.

Speaker 1 45:24

What's the what's the class? No. And I my curiosity is like, what's, what is the, like, comeback rate, you know? Or what is the success rate of the patience that you have there?

Unknown Speaker 45:43

Well, if they take it seriously, and a lot of women don't, the ones who come who are sanctioned by the court, they're just trying to give, not wouldn't prevent trying to prevent themselves from going to jail, right? So they ended up back there a few times, because they're not taking it seriously. Right? Or they end up in jail. And after they're released from jail, then they're in some facility or another, but the walk ins are usually more serious, they have more family support. Okay, and they finish the program. And they don't come back. So it's a higher success rate.

Speaker 1 46:22

Yeah, the lack of family support, I think is a huge piece, you know, and, like, you know, we might not we might brush over that mentioned, but, like, the people around us, right, are, are either how do they say that inhibitors or right? helped me out ladies. It's kind of like, you know, some are, some friends will be, you know, helping us with ourselves, and some will be guiding us into destruction. And the people that are around you, you know, are critical to your success at at this. And having the right family and friends around, you makes all the difference? I would imagine, Jennifer for you. How challenging has it been for the last 30 days for you?

Unknown Speaker 47:10

Um, I think the word you are looking for maybe two as codependency.

Speaker 1 47:16

There you go.

Unknown Speaker 47:19

You know, if you run with the crew that smoke cigarettes, which is something else I've, you know, been able to quit doing. Happily, that was many, many years ago. But like, all my friends smoked, and that's what we did. And, you know, similar similarly, with the cultural prevalence of alcohol, you are always running into alcohol. So I think it's really helpful to have a support group and, you know, close friends and family to understand what you're trying to do, why you're trying to do it, because in the process of quitting, you know, I've, I've tried to educate people around me as well. And how hard was it? Let me You know, I was terrified to try and quit, because I was so afraid I wasn't going to be able to do it. Right. And then I would be, you know, really disappointed in myself. So I used to programs that I found online to help me and one is called the cutback coach. So your listeners could Google that or being that whatever search engine you use the cut back coach, and Casey, I'd be Yeah, I'd be interested in your feedback on this cutback coach, took the approach of giving me the power to define how many drinks I drink over the course of a week. And then to literally scale down from that. So let's say, to pick an even number. Let's say it's five, let's say seven drinks a week for the whole week. So it would suggest like, Okay, John, why don't you have instead of seven drinks this week, five drinks this week, and then scale down from there. And I liked that for a couple of weeks. But then I was I'm more like black and white person. So I found this other program called the alcohol experiments. And they have just turned it in. They've just turned it into an application that you can get in the Microsoft Store, what have you. So T E is the acronym but it is the alcohol experiment. And I have really enjoyed that program because she is a woman who put it together. And she is the much more extreme approach which is no put it down now. But she couches it in you're going to stop drinking for 30 days. You can do anything for 30 days, and she's got daily videos videos and opportunities for you to write privately. So you can journal with yourself, not for public dissemination. And so that's been incredible. And that's really given me a lot of lessons about, you know what you both are touching on just the inherent danger and the poison you're putting into your body. So, I would give more credit to the alcohol experiment in my particular case, but I was ready to stop. I wanted to stop. It wasn't a third party telling me to stop.

Speaker 1 50:37

Right? What? So in the alcohol experiment, program, what is it? What is how is it guiding you in that way to give you the confidence to keep going?

Unknown Speaker 50:54

One of the first exercises was to write down all the reasons we thought we couldn't stop. You know, what and, and then, so she, the woman who makes the videos, who's the founder of the, of the program, took those and anonymize them, and then recorded, you know, has a video of herself reading the reasons of why we think we can't stop, right? And they're all the same. And it's everything I just said, it's like, I'm embarrassed, I won't be able to, I'm afraid I won't be able to, I'll be so disappointed. My wife or husband or children will be so upset with me that I couldn't do it. And then the next week, she asked people who have attended the program to write in how they felt after the first week of not drinking. And it's just incredible that even over the span of seven days, you have such a sense of accomplishment, and you physically feel so much better. So, you know, I wasn't I wasn't probably what would be deemed like a heavy drinker. But even I feel the difference. I mean, I wake up and I'm feeling like a bad bunny didn't go right. Good bunny, do you have a different energy? You have a different energy level, you have a sense of accomplishment just for having not done something? And I don't know. I think my skin looks better. I think I just I feel better.

Speaker 1 52:37

Yeah. I mean, you know, it's kind of like you're putting poison in your body every day, little by little at first, maybe well, you know, one one drink, right might be alright and might be beneficial actually. But once you go over two or three, you're in danger land. We're going to go to a song here really quick. Just to break up our show a little bit. We'd like to throw in a little bit of music. You're listening to ask the neighbor. I'm your host Danko Sutter offski with me, Jennifer Draper and Casey I want to thank one mag.tv ceci Lincoln Spacelab Detroit and I want some folks to check out mood lifters.com Because I think this is a little bit of part of what we're dealing with. There was a a company out of Ann Arbor that is you know, during these pandemic times have virtual way to talk with groups to help yourself if you have issues. So like mood lifters calm is a program of different people that can help you with these kinds of challenges because there's some mental stuff that's happening I think with the alcoholism that it helps to have these kinds of supports. Maybe the program's we're gonna go to the song really quick and we'll be back with Casey and Jennifer here

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Speaker 1 58:28

All right your backhoe with as the neighbor as the neighbor.com If you have any questions or want to submit a question to your neighbors, we are here to serve. My name is Danko Sutter offski Your host we're coming at you from W NZ K 690 AM. We want you to listen to WNZ K every day. So check us out where station of the nation's bringing you a piece of the world every day every week. Check us out W NZ K 690 8pm. With us Casey and Jennifer Draper today. Thank you, ladies for being with our show. We appreciate all the commentary that's been going on. We've been talking about substance abuse, we've been talking about things that are good to put in your body. During COVID We've had issues where alcohol sales have gone through the roof. And I we just played a song by The Rolling Stones miss you. And there was some lyrics in there that kind of promote drinking and partying and this whole kind of essence, and I wanted to touch about that. Jennifer, do you have any comments about that? I don't Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 59:42

Excellent point. I mean, it just goes to show what we've been talking about for a few minutes how prevalent the celebration and acceptance of alcohol is. For any reason. So it is it's amazing if you sort of like you said watch TV Look on media everywhere. It's just you know, it's wine time.

Speaker 1 1:00:07

Right? Listen to the Rolling Stones miss you song that makes you want to go get some booze, right? Like, media in our

Unknown Speaker 1:00:20

Yeah, it's normalized,

Speaker 1 1:00:22

normalized. Yeah. And in through all these things. Casey, do you have anything to add to that? Because, you know, it's like popping a bottle of bubbly, you know, in almost every song, we've got stuff talking about drinking.

Unknown Speaker 1:00:36

Yeah, we do drink a lot of alcohol, and because we're always celebrating something, right. But just like, with my clients, I tried to get them to do more introspection. And if you're really in tune with yourself, then you're not going to drink a lot. I mean, you may have one drink and say, hey, the toes, just to be a part of the group. But then you're gonna make a hey, I really don't need that. So that's where I'm trying to get them to go. And, and, and it's working. Good. You know.

Speaker 1 1:01:22

It's a challenge. It's not easy. I'm sure. It's a battle every day. But doing things like you said, that can tune you in. And I think maybe, you know, cooking can do that. For some people, you know, there's been a rise of cooking. And we've happened to have some a couple ladies on the show here that are avid cookers and bakers. So let's shift a little bit to stuff that we can do in this next half hour that can occupy our times that, you know, that will take us take our minds away from drinking, so maybe cooking a really cool meal. And maybe there's a few recipes that maybe Jennifer Casey want to share. That could do that for us a little bit during this COVID time, Kate, Jennifer, anything that you want to talk about recipe wise.

Unknown Speaker 1:02:13

Um, you know, it's funny, right before I joined the show, I just sliced open a couple of butternut squashes. And I mean, turned on the oven at 375, cut those in half scooped out the seed, put some olive oil on them. And those are roasting as we speak. And once they've cooked, you know, I'm going to peel off the skin, it's really easy to remove the skin or the peel once those are soft and cooked. And then my kids and I are going to eat those for a couple of days. I'll make some soup. I'll put some brown sugar on them. Just yummy. And I'd said great way to get vitamin A and could not be easier.

Speaker 1 1:02:59

Simple, right? I mean, so simple.

Unknown Speaker 1:03:03

Yeah, absolutely. I agree. Yeah. Then have you tried is making the spaghetti? Because I do the spaghetti. The butternut squash? Oh, spaghetti squash? Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 1:03:18

Oh, and I'd love

Unknown Speaker 1:03:21

to. Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:03:24

Well, I mean, that's a good example, that, you know, different types of foods like this can be almost a whole meal. You know, you cut it in half, put it in the oven, take it out, and you have a really healthy meal that you can complement it with something kombucha maybe, right. To help you process. I recommend I you know, I'm gonna throw this out there right now, is I recommend a ton of garlic for everybody. Maybe not a ton, but you do to Casey.

Unknown Speaker 1:03:59

I love garlic, garlic and onions.

Speaker 1 1:04:02

Mm hmm. And, you know, there's so many benefits to garlic. I don't think people understand just by having garlic daily, which is something humans have been eating forever. But yet, you know, our society again, plays these kind of weird games with our minds that you know, all the kind of smells I don't know if I want to be around it pretty soon people aren't eating onions or garlic. And that kind of happened. Like in the you know, these last 2030 years it was this weird. And then stuff kind of shifted, you know, it shifted more into, you know, health as wealth kind of mentality and people are looking at look, my number one thing I want to do is eat right so my body feels good. And what are those components? And those components folks are, you know, the things that you find in the vegetable area of the grocery store, not in the packaged food. Dial, you will not find the good stuff for you there. pre packaged or processed foods, try to look at like, you know, one, one indicator for me is the garbage, You're garbage. If it fills up really quick, that means you're just processing, you know, you're eating a lot of processed foods and or takeout. Yeah, you know, so I measure your garbage. If you're taking your garbage out all the time, that means you're just using boxes and whatever and cans and who knows what else. Not only are you affecting our environment, you're affecting yourself because everything that's processed in package is not good for you, because somehow or another, they had to keep it to stay that long. You know? So try to get out there and get some fresh fruits and vegetables in a great way, you know, simply to bake a great, you know, like a squash is a meal in itself.

Unknown Speaker 1:05:54

Yeah, a great rule of thumb. Danko is when you're at the grocery store, stick to the perimeter. So don't go into the interior of the store because that is where all the packaged goods are. Except, Casey, I know you've got to go to the baking aisle. I know you got to go there. But you can get raw ingredients. Well,

Unknown Speaker 1:06:19

because what I No, no, no, I do everything from scratch. Oh, I have the flour. Yeah, I have my sugar. And I have my butter. So I have the basic thing.

Speaker 1 1:06:33

And from there, you can go anywhere. Absolutely. So um, you're you're coming out with a recipe book soon, Casey, right. Yes, you're talking about your heirloom heirloom recipes that you have that you're not sharing right now. But they will be available in a book format soon. I can't imagine some of the dishes that you're going to have in there. And the recipes that you're going to have in there are going to be something else. But when we are let's say if I'm trying to bake a cake from scratch, right? Um, what are the basic ingredients of like, let's say a yellow cake. If I'm doing it from scratch.

Unknown Speaker 1:07:21

Oh, just the basics. You need your butter. Just sugar. You need your flour. Yeah, Baking Soda Baking powder. couple eggs. Yeah, the eggs. And you need some form of liquid. And lactose intolerant. I don't use milk. Just homogenized milk, cow's milk. I'll use almond milk. Oh, no. Water. Depending on the flavor I want I can use some Kool Aid or Mac Kool Aid. But I've had students use Kool Aid. But you can use juice. Whatever liquid you want to use,

Speaker 1 1:08:02

right? Depending on your your situation. So there's lots of recipes online, that you can find different ways to make cake or bread. You know, we've been we talked a little bit about sourdough being a big thing during this pandemic and you know, people trying to figure out how to make sourdough. how's that coming for you? Jennifer?

Unknown Speaker 1:08:25

is fantastic. I made sourdough pizza crust last night and it was awesome. Oh.

Unknown Speaker 1:08:33

Oh, that sounds delicious.

Unknown Speaker 1:08:36

Yeah, yeah, it was. Yeah. I look forward to having you both over. And we'll have sourdough pizza.

Speaker 1 1:08:44

Oh, I hear that. We're ready to go. Aren't we Casey? Anytime Jennifer, you let us know. We will be there. We will be there

Unknown Speaker 1:08:52

the invite. Yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:08:56

So if there's any recipes out there folks that you want to share with us or things that make us feel good and maybe some comfort food? Putting good stuff in our body is kind of like the name of the show today. You're listening to ask the neighbor. You can reach us at 248557 3300. I've got Casey and I've got Jennifer Draper on the line with me. I'm your host Danko. Swarovski. I want to thank one mag.tv A accessible scannable place where you can get to global magazines. I want to thank Spacelab Detroit, and I want you to check out mood lifters.com They are a it's a it's a internet website that can help you lift your mood by interacting with different folks in a different process that they have. Check them out. There's a lot of resources out there aren't there, Casey for people that need help and could use some assistance in life right?

Unknown Speaker 1:09:55

Absolutely. My buddy is works with quite the crisis center in Oakland County. And a lot of folks, if you having some issues, you can always call the crisis center. And they can direct you to whatever's in your area.

Speaker 1 1:10:16

Because right now, right with the COVID, we're we're experiencing a lot of mental issues, anxiety, stress, fear. And I, I mean, that all comes back to I think, you know, substance abuse, you know, at the end of the day, it's like somebody, we're just trying to cope through this thing. And sometimes it might seem easier to go to the party store instead of the, the vegetable market. And, you know, treat your body to some good stuff. But it is a challenging world out there that we have and trying to navigate it. You know, we need our neighbors. And our neighbors are all around us. And the show, ask the neighbor is about that. It's about trying to help our community, our neighbors around us. And, you know, we're a show that wants to engage with the community. So if you have a question, or if you want to share something with us that has occurred in your life, maybe some things through COVID that have occurred, maybe there's something that you would like to get some advice or an idea about, we're here. Ask your neighbor, dot Ask. Ask the neighbor.com is the show. I'm your host Danko. Souter AUSkey. And we're talking to you, and we're here for you. So give us a call at 248557 3300. We're broadcasting to southeastern Michigan, we're coming at you from 690 Am w NZK. Thank you for tuning in 690 am rocking the airwaves here today. And we might go with a little more bad bunny in a minute. But I wanted to make sure because Jennifer's got to go in a few. And I wanted to say thank you. Is there any last kind of things you want to say for today's show? Jennifer?

Unknown Speaker 1:12:12

Oh, I was just thinking, you know, when you were talking about neighbors, I was thinking to last summer one of my neighbors is not a gardener kills things. Okay. She and I, she's a great Oh, so. So she and I worked out a great deal where I would take her, you know, whatever I harvested that day or that week, which was typically zucchini, every day, zucchini, tomatoes, and cucumbers. And I would end up taking that over to her, you know, at least once a week, and she would cook or make something for me and my kids. So it was a great trade off, right, because my gardens growing no matter what I was working full time. And I'd come home and she'd have like a FedEx tomato cucumber salad made for me or, you know, I showed her how to make tomato pies because we just had too many tomatoes. So just, you know, reaching out to your neighbors just to put that fabric back together of our communities, I find that so many people don't know their neighbors. And those are the people who are going to be right there to help you if you are ever in need. Or if they're in need, you know, if you know them, you're much more inclined to reach out and help and cook them a meal or pick up their mail for them or shovel their sidewalk in the winter, mow their lawn in the summer, you know, helping each other is the best way to move forward in these times, I think

Speaker 1 1:13:42

Yeah. And I just want you know, on that note, I want to say I want to have a shout out right now to my parents, neighbors, Laurie and Dave, they, they, you know, helped my parents with shoveling the snow when they couldn't get out. In this winter, we had some snow. So that's the kind of things neighbors do, you know, they help each other out. And I'm really thankful for that neighbor connection that's at my next to my parents. And I think, you know, there's really great people out there that want to help and if you engage, like our society is seem to be pulling back from engaging, you know, and it's just interesting that our society, we know we need the engagement. And you know, in these COVID Guys, it's challenging.

Unknown Speaker 1:14:32

Yeah, it is, but they're safe way to engage like your parents, neighbors sibling that your parents driveway. They didn't, you know, they didn't interact, but that made a huge difference for your parents. And then I know your mom baked some cookies and took them over. Yeah. So there are so many ways to just keep that contact going and just you don't know what's going on in somebody's house and if you know that somebody is thinking about you and caring for you can make just a world of difference.

Speaker 1 1:15:05

Absolutely. And that's, you know, part of the the premise of the show, ask the neighbor, ask the neighbor calm, folks is what we are. We want you to ask the neighbor, we want you to ask us, we want you to talk to the show. Give us a call. Share your story. Tell us a little bit about what's happening. Heck, even if you've got something to sell, let us know. Maybe your neighbor needs it. 248557 3300 you never know Right? Casey, are you in the need for any you need anything right now, Casey?

Unknown Speaker 1:15:36

Yes, I do. Jennifer, I need some sour pickles.

Speaker 1 1:15:44

Who's got some sour pickles out there?

Unknown Speaker 1:15:48

I know somebody who's Yeah. Can you make so it's not me, but you do. I can hook you Okay. Yep. Yep. Yes.

Unknown Speaker 1:15:59

Oh my God. I pray

Speaker 1 1:16:05

Yeah. And I'm, I'm trying to get some olives harvested soon. I've got an olive tree that I've been working on it almost. Oh. So I know, Casey. Casey loves or come in. You know, olive trees aren't native. They're not native, but we're making them native.

Unknown Speaker 1:16:28

Okay, well,

Speaker 1 1:16:29

it looked great. It was great. This summer this last summer. It was growing perfectly outside. I brought it in because it's not native. And all of a sudden, you know, here we are. It is I brought it in the house, Casey, the olive tree. And then it somehow or another it must have been too hot in the house or didn't like the air. So all of its leaves. were falling off. And then you know, I brought it in. I thought it was gone. You know, my olive tree and I was bummed out. And then then I took it to my basement. And I put a little water on there. I got it in a little cooler spot. And then after all the leaves were gone off the olive tree. I noticed that. You know, I was watering it once a week to see if maybe it can come back to life. And sure enough this winter, it started shooting out a couple leaves. And it's coming back to life Casey so we've got an olive tree in growth. So it's coming back. Right? Yeah, so we we are trying to get you some olives fresh off the olive tree. Another thing. Another thing I love is figs, you know figs and they're not native here either. You know, so having a fig tree. It takes you to you know, you got to put it inside, bring it outside. And it's it's a challenge. Right? But, man, are they good? Fix figs. Do you? Do you do anything with figs Casey?

Unknown Speaker 1:18:04

Yeah, bars. I love food bars.

Speaker 1 1:18:08

Oh, you make those? Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 1:18:11

Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:18:12

Tell us how you make them. Can you share that recipe with us? At least?

Okay, all right. But bars. Fig bars seem like what a treat what a treat.

Unknown Speaker 1:18:28

is so good. Yeah, that's one of my weaknesses. Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:18:33

Yeah. Well, you know, um, there's a lot of weaknesses out there for us folks, you know, but try to make them healthy for you. You know, like, we've got such a opportunity right now to like, rethink what we put in our body. And where we go now is another thing that we always are concerned about. Have you been going out lately, Casey to to any restaurants like that, or?

Unknown Speaker 1:18:59

Well, I've been to a few restaurants that is probably the curbside. But what I do on a daily basis, I go to Starbucks. Oh, I'm still on the coffee.

Speaker 1 1:19:13

So So is coffee. Good for us? That depends on who you talk to you. Right? Right. Isn't that interesting?

Unknown Speaker 1:19:25

Yeah, that depends on who you talk to you. Well, if you have low stomach acid, it's good for you. If you have thyroid issues, it's not so I don't know.

Speaker 1 1:19:36

Interesting. And and I think arthritis it's not good for you if you have arthritis, um, double check that one. Yeah, double check yourself folks. Like you know, yeah, alcohol is a thing but also other things we consume that are addictive, like caffeine. Great mention on that, Casey. So how many cups Do you drink a day?

Unknown Speaker 1:20:00

Drink one cup. What is the short? Oh, you have to request that at Starbucks because you know, they usually start with the tall or was half that size. Okay. It's a special request.

Speaker 1 1:20:12

Is it stronger?

Unknown Speaker 1:20:15

No, no, I just don't want too much caffeine. Yeah, cuz it's like one shot one espresso shot. Okay, and then add water so I drink an Americano. Alright, good shot, and then equal amounts of water.

Speaker 1 1:20:29

I see. So americano sounds like a bad bunny song.

Unknown Speaker 1:20:33

Yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:20:39

So, uh, you know, we want a shout out, you know, distant lovers in Hawaii right now.

Unknown Speaker 1:20:46

I know. He sent me pictures.

Speaker 1 1:20:48

Yeah, he's, uh, he's living the dream. Remember? Last year, he was in all over Asia and the Philippines.

Unknown Speaker 1:20:54

Oh, my goodness. Yes. Yeah, I remember that. Shout out

Speaker 1 1:20:59

to travel over. He's our he's our traveling buddy. And we're living through his adventures. Right? Yeah. Distant lover living vicariously

Unknown Speaker 1:21:07

through him.

Speaker 1 1:21:08

So are you thinking about going on any vacations? Casey, with this COVID at hand or what? What are you thinking?

Unknown Speaker 1:21:15

Yeah, we're spring break. We were thinking about when my daughter wanted to go to Hawaii. So I was gonna get in contact with just with distant lover. Oh. But that didn't work out. Because she was like, I don't want to be on the plane that long. That's too long. It's long. We decided maybe Puerto Rico. Oh, okay. Hey, think about Puerto Rico that we find, right? What do the COVID has going there and coming back. And then if it's negative, then I mean, positive, then you have to stay there and be quarantined for two weeks. So that's the problem.

Speaker 1 1:21:51

Gotcha. And that is a problem, because that's about the time of your vacation is about two weeks, you know, so you're in there. Unless you're going for a month. Yeah, but isn't Puerto Rico? Isn't Puerto Rico in in devastation right now? Like aren't they experiencing issues because of the storms? No, they're good.

Unknown Speaker 1:22:16

Yeah, they're good because I've had a couple of friends who've been there vacation

Speaker 1 1:22:21

I've always wanted to go to Puerto Rico guys. So if anybody knows how to get me to Puerto Rico, let me know without the culture test without the COVID test if you have a boat somewhere located in Miami called Ask the neighbor.com and you know at 248557 3300 Let us get to Puerto Rico maybe there's somebody with a with a special way to get to Puerto Rico never know right Casey never never never really know. We're gonna go to a really quick song here and I hope Casey you can stay with us and we will come back to you after a song we're gonna go from the first song from the bad bunny CD. And just a little more of bad bunny for us

okay buzzer not the oil Jamar Makita Caliente homage Tintin nama oil my boy toy mommy contino do it go into mother in law was not the lawyer Yo yo Maggie the mothers are making no money yo yo Dumbo

All right thank you bad bunny for that song you're listening to 690 ANWNZK Ask the neighbor as the neighbor comm is how you can find us and submit a question. We're taking Collins 248557 3300 We're on. We're live now. I'm your host Danko sinner offski. We've got Casey co hosting with us today. How are you, Casey? I'm Wow. Excellent. Excellent. We appreciate you being on our show and sharing your knowledge of so many things. So many things, right, from cooking to living to entrepreneurial ship. So have you been working on some entrepreneurial things, Casey?

Unknown Speaker 1:27:50

Yeah, the book.

Speaker 1 1:27:52

That's a big deal, right? The book is a big deal. Come on now. So good to have you back on our show. So nice to have you on our show. Your voice is great. We appreciate you for calling in and spending some time with as the neighbor sharing that knowledge about substance abuse and different things that we put in our body every day, folks, watch what you're doing. Listen to your inner voice, not media's voice of fear, and going to get, you know, a sugary drink in your, in your thing or an alcoholic drink. Think before you do stuff, put good stuff in your body. You know, ask the neighbors a little bit about that, too. We're trying to help people understand what we intake and what it does for us. We're a community show, we care about the community, we want you to share stories we want you to call in. We want you to talk about things that might be great, might not be so great. And how we can help the neighbor. Ask the neighbor, that's the show. So I wanted to ask you, Casey, in in the substance abuse, you know, we've been playing some Latino music and some stuff like that, but also some other songs that are kind of talking about different things. And do minorities have a higher rate of substance abuse? That was one of my back thoughts was like do minorities have a higher substance abuse rate?

Unknown Speaker 1:29:31

In Well, at the center, the will at the center that I'm in. That's not the case.

Speaker 1 1:29:38

Okay, so it doesn't matter.

Unknown Speaker 1:29:41

Most of the Yeah, most of the ladies that are there are from up north from the up.

Speaker 1 1:29:48

Ah, okay. Yeah, that's a big change for them.

Unknown Speaker 1:29:54

Oh, yeah, it is. I was totally surprised. Wow. Well, You would think that it would be a minority because of all the disparity in the United States. And they have a harder life and all these things, but that's not the case.

Speaker 1 1:30:13

How interesting. It's out of boredom, maybe or out of lack of things to do. Maybe I don't Yeah, right.

Unknown Speaker 1:30:23

Yeah, I don't know. Um, so I've asked a few of the ladies and they're like, Well, hey, we came down here. You know, with our boyfriends. It's always the guy. Always. Somebody brings them down here.

Speaker 1 1:30:34

Okay, interesting. Oh, yeah. So all the way from the up, shout out to the up, you know, you guys are a part of Michigan, we might even touch a little bit of you guys up from our radio tower, depending on where they're at and how they're listening. But what a fascinating place in the stories that you hear from people from the up? What a different lifestyle?

Unknown Speaker 1:31:01

Yeah, it is, you know, you have to be careful who you choose as a partner, because your partner can get you on drugs?

Speaker 1 1:31:09

Well, I mean, that's part of like, what we're talking about, you know, our whole show, like, around the perimeter of all this is like, Who are you hanging around with? Who is your support system? And are they you know, you know, getting you on drugs or getting you off of drugs? Right? I mean, there's absolutely, so like, the decisions we choose, and the relationships we form people are our from, you know, create our life. So these small decisions, these choices of even like, oh, yeah, I'll hang out with you creates an opportunity to get closer with that person and engage in a relationship. But it's sometimes easier to get into a relationship and get out of a relationship.

Unknown Speaker 1:32:01

Oh, yeah. Right.

Speaker 1 1:32:04

It's absolutely, it's easy to get sometimes into a relationship, but getting out of that relationship. So many parts and pieces very difficult. Especially when it's linked to drinking and other things, right? Where, and maybe you don't have other people around you. So like, it's hard to shift, if you're so used to, or have that need for people to be around you. Right? And it's like, and then if there's no one, that's bad, maybe you drink because there's no one or maybe you drink because there you have these types of people around you. It's it's a challenge. And, you know, getting to that place of Self Realization, self actualization that happens through time of investment into yourself, you know, like looking at who you are, what you're doing, who you're hanging around with. And that part right, right there that you said, like, their boyfriends or whoever they're hanging with are usually the ones that are the inhibitor or the diplomatic, the bad influence. You're like, Hey, you should get it, you should get into the substance abuse program as well. Like, when? But not the last

Unknown Speaker 1:33:27

time they are, yeah, yeah, I've known some ladies that have come in, they will walk in, and their boyfriends have gone as well. That was their pack, hey, you get clean, I get clean. And then we can have healthy relationships.

Speaker 1 1:33:43

Wow. Life is challenging a I mean, you know, it's challenging, finding relationships, finding good people. Defining your life, you know, how you're going to live it, what you're going to put in your body, who you're going to hang around with. But it's all like simple stuff. But it takes time to pull back and understand what you're looking for. Right?

Unknown Speaker 1:34:09

In order to know what you're looking for. You have to

Speaker 1 1:34:11

know yourself. Yes. And there's the investment. Right? You have

Unknown Speaker 1:34:16

to start there. Exactly. So that requires the introspection, and most people are afraid to do that. How do you do that way to go?

Speaker 1 1:34:25

How do you do it? How do you do it

Unknown Speaker 1:34:27

meditation or journaling?

Speaker 1 1:34:31

What was that? Meditation? I know that what was the second one?

Unknown Speaker 1:34:36

Okay, you can do some journaling. Journaling, you can get a coach.

Speaker 1 1:34:40

Okay. Yeah. So those are a couple things. Um, and, you know, I'm gonna throw this out. I'm gonna throw this out, like do some yoga. I think yoga brings you closer to moving to meditation well, because you get in touch with your body. And I think you know, I'm promoting yoga because I think it's one The best things you can do for your body, but it's also one of the best things you can do for your mind folks, like, try to even in, you know, I think the challenge is a lot of times is that, oh, well, you know, I don't have the yoga body that, you know, I should be going into the yoga studio because you know, well, you're not going to have the yoga body, you know, because there is no yoga body or yoga body is what you're working with. And you're trying to elevate to the next place, right? And by simply doing these little things, right, Casey is like, investing in yourself spending that time to, to think about, alright, what am I going to do today? Who am I going to be today? You know, and I think that's where that that yoga can help in that you set some time apart, aside for that. And you know, you can go to YouTube and look for yoga videos, and simple as that through your phone and get instruction. And I, I'm gonna say this, when doing yoga, don't try to push yourself too much. It's important that you give yourself give yourself the permission to be where you're at, and not to over push yourself because like, you know, right, Casey, like you see some people stretching on the videos. Well, if it's my first time stretching, or doing one of a move, I'm not going to be able to do it, like the lady doing it on the video, you know, so be patient with yourself, right? Patience.

Unknown Speaker 1:36:37

Absolutely. have to be patient with yourself. And yoga has to become more complex become more and now more mindful. In this society that we're living in now, oh, my god, everybody's just rushing around even people who are still at home and working remotely everybody's, I just don't have time for this. I don't have time, right? You're at home all day. So why don't you have time,

Speaker 1 1:37:01

because they're probably drinking, they're drinking

takes a lot of time to dry. I mean, come on, it takes time, energy money. You know, I gotta set it up, I gotta get everything ready. You know, I mean, there's a lot there. Things you got to do, right? And I'm busy. Because I'm doing that. Well, folks, be busy for yourself, take some time for yourself. I just wish I could get out there and help everybody right now.

Unknown Speaker 1:37:37

When we were working on, it was gratitude month last month, and I just had the ladies go outside. And they just had to notice all of the things that they saw, you know, just the trees, the leaves falling off the trees just in the moment, right? We don't do that. We don't know how to do that. If we were more conscious, and we could stay in the moment, I don't think we will be doing this drinking and taking all of the drugs or whatever.

Speaker 1 1:38:07

So Right? Well, it kind of like stems right from, again, I'm gonna go at medium and because I feel like media is this evil devil that has been out there kind of like, kind of positioning us to do whatever they want. And, you know, like highlighting the things that aren't good for us to be deemed as good for us. Only in the interest of some type of business, you know, and you know, you can talk about the pharmaceutical industry, you can talk about the Sugar Pop industry, you can talk about the cigarette industry, you can talk about all these industries, that clearly our our world, we're sitting here watching these lies coming through commercials and through the news about how stuff is good for you when it's terrible for you. I mean, when you just listen to what's really being said people and read between the lines, like It cracks me up when I I'm watching a commercial for some kind of new pharmaceutical drug. But the side effects are about, you know, three pages deep for simple kind of solution. I mean, like, why would you do that people? You know, like, it's something simple, eat right. Take care of your body, and stop putting pharmaceutical products in you, you know, like they're just not good for you. Not one of them almost. It seems like it's good for you. Now, obviously, we've got stuff for heart medications and stuff like that. But for the most part, it seems like our whole world is on pharmaceuticals. Like some form it's crazy like you know growing up cases See, there wasn't all these people on, you know, with prescriptions? No, not at all. It seems like everybody's got two three prescriptions

Unknown Speaker 1:40:11

was our medicine and that's my grandmother used to tell me. There you go. Hey, food is your medicine.

Speaker 1 1:40:16

Amen. Amen.

Unknown Speaker 1:40:18

Amen. You go. Okay,

Speaker 1 1:40:22

there you go. Wow, what a smart man. This was your grandfather. My grandmother, grandmother food is the medicine. Yeah. Of course, it's the women. What am I thinking what I'm thinking? Always the women. They make the economy work. They make everything work. I admit, I admit, I admit it. And I know David does, too. Yeah, right. They better, they better.

Unknown Speaker 1:41:01

Will you admit that?

Speaker 1 1:41:04

Because obviously, this world is better because of women. I mean, I admit it. So thank you to all the wonderful women in this world that keep it going. You know, a lot of the men are just, they're doing stuff, but the women kind of keep the whole fabric moving and shaken and the recipes, cooking and the family together. So shout out to all the women out there that have been in my life that are in my life that make my life better and wiser women are wiser. What do you think, Casey?

Unknown Speaker 1:41:39

Absolutely. And I agree. And you know, it's women's month. March is Women's March.

Speaker 1 1:41:45

There we go. We started in March. We're talking about women every single day. It's women's month. Well, it's also my birthday month. Casey. I don't know if you know that or not.

Unknown Speaker 1:41:55

Yes, I know that. Here you go.

Speaker 1 1:42:00

Shout out to all the Pisces out there listening to the show. You know, I'm sure there's quite a few Pisces out there in the southeastern Michigan region. I'm a fellow Pisces my name. Danko. Sutter. offski. What sign are you Casey

Unknown Speaker 1:42:17

Sagittarius.

Speaker 1 1:42:18

Sagittarius? No

Unknown Speaker 1:42:20

one nine.

Speaker 1 1:42:22

Is that a fire sign? Is that a fire sign?

Unknown Speaker 1:42:25

Yes, it is. All right. Yes.

Speaker 1 1:42:27

All right. That when when's your birthday? When's your birthday?

Unknown Speaker 1:42:34

early part of December.

Speaker 1 1:42:36

There you go. Well, you know Jennifer's a Sagittarius to

Unknown Speaker 1:42:42

see. I love her I read.

Speaker 1 1:42:46

So what why do all the Sagittarius stick together? What's going on here? What is that?

Unknown Speaker 1:42:54

Well, we're very honest people.

Speaker 1 1:42:59

Right, right. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 1:43:01

All my Sagittarian friends, we're just really honest. If you want to have a friend who's gonna tell you the truth, go to a Sagittarius. I agree with that. We're gonna tell you the truth, whether you like it or not. Right, right.

Speaker 1 1:43:11

That's a benefit for a lot of people. You know, they need the truth. Yeah, we need now we need,

Unknown Speaker 1:43:21

you know, tiptoeing around issues. Absolutely. We're just not going to get to around the issue. We just got to give it to, you

Speaker 1 1:43:27

know, we're gonna give it to you, just like we're giving it to you at Ask the neighbor, the show, that is connecting the community and sharing stories. You can call us, we're going to be here Monday through Friday, 9am till 11am, every day, Monday through Friday, and we're going to have great people on like Casey and Jennifer that are going to share stories with us. And hopefully we'll have callers calling in to ask questions about their home. Things that are on their mind. You know, this is what the program's about. Ask the neighbor because sometimes it is hard to ask your neighbor directly. Right. And there's maybe ways we can help.

Unknown Speaker 1:44:11

It is difficult, right? It is back in the day. Yeah, I mean for our grandparents. I mean, they could ask their neighbor for anything. They were good friends, but today I'm just like Jennifer mentioned, we don't even know our neighbors. You live there years. And you don't know these

Speaker 1 1:44:28

people. Isn't that bizarre way?

Unknown Speaker 1:44:32

It is.

Speaker 1 1:44:34

Hey, so nothing to do with COVID No, no, no. And it's it's like a separation of the fabric and like we've got to be cautious to make sure we maintain neighborly love. It's important. We've got a caller Hello crystal. Hi, Crystal, how are you? Welcome to the show.

Unknown Speaker 1:44:55

I am fabulous. I am on the air before you ask More time and a cup of joe morning show from six to eight.

Speaker 1 1:45:02

Oh, Crystal, thank you for your show, show fantastic Motown and a cup of joe. That's the best thing you can offer.

Unknown Speaker 1:45:13

And I tell you, I had an opportunity to promote you last week and we will continue to promote you. And I wish you the best over a WMC KU over there with the best people absolutely absolute absolute best, best people including our bar SEMA. Yes, I love SEMA SEMA gave me an opportunity when no one else would listen to me now I'm raising some hex. Oh, yeah, shaking it up.

Speaker 1 1:45:42

That's right, Crystal, we love you for that.

Unknown Speaker 1:45:47

People were telling me they're like when I first wanted in 2016. They're like, Oh, no one you can't go on and just play any kind of music and play with you want to play all the other stations, they have program music and Sima was like, Do you really you love and because we're different. We years, we're shaking it up in the morning, just people want different. But I have a question for you. I'm the type of person who I'm very particular about my lawn. I like the bushes trim. I like to plant flowers. So what do you do? When you have this neighbor, this right next to you. They don't trim their bushes. They don't care about their property. And you know, when you come in, you know, your landscaper has left and you kind of give them the role. And I like Don't you know, I'm over here next to you. You should be trimming your bushes. Do you tell your your landscaper Look, just trim them up a little bit? You know, we're sharing this, this this line of bushes right? For you know, just take care of that side just a little bit? Or do you just roll your eyes at them? And just

Speaker 1 1:46:59

question. I mean, that's

Unknown Speaker 1:47:05

it, you sent him a nice little note in the mail anonymously. You know, you need to, you know, take care of your yard, you know, you don't have to plant flowers. You know?

Speaker 1 1:47:16

What do you do pride, you gotta have a little pride. I think that's the part where we're kind of missing the connection. Like, you know, being a neighbor means all of that, right? Like, I'm, if I'm in a neighborhood, I should be respectful to my neighbors. That's my opinion. And that's part of being PRI having pride about my property, and being where I'm where I'm at. But it's also prized some mental stuff. Casey, what do you think?

Unknown Speaker 1:47:46

Well, we had a similar situation. And we had just moved into our home, our new home. And our neighbor compared us to the previous owner, and said, Hey, I missed them so much, because you guys aren't keeping up things the way they did. We just moved in within a week. Okay. Right. So what we did, since there was this community line, and we shared the bush, just like you're in your case, what we did, we had the landscaper, just trim everything up. And he didn't complain. But in your case, this too. You don't want to offend anybody. You can just tell them, send them a note. Hey, since we shared this property line, I'm just going to take care of it. Don't worry about it. I'm going to pay for the landscaper to handle all of this and you don't have to worry about it. Yeah, because a few little cuts of wishes. It doesn't make that much difference. I'm about a very close like close friend of mine. She lives in like a two family flat. And what she did was the neighbor downstairs refused to shovel the snow. So she would have the person shovel the snow like half of half up the walkway. Up on the porch. I went around like what is what? What is this? Yeah, well, she won't share with her. So I feel good. Come on now. All right. You may have to walk on the other side over there. Isn't that just shuffle it off? Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:49:22

Well, it's about

Unknown Speaker 1:49:24

notify them.

Speaker 1 1:49:27

It's about enter.

Unknown Speaker 1:49:27

Let them know that you're gonna do it. Hey. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. And they don't. Maybe they don't have the money to do it. Right. Yeah, maybe they don't have the money. Thank you. By the way, you don't have to be so careful because some of your actions that you do, can cause ill feelings along the way. You're just setting a problem with with your with your neighbor, you said and you have to live with these people. Right? And you never know when you may need them. Yeah, so my my rule is, it's just to be fair to everybody and take A parry out. Sometimes we get so heavy, right? Until it'll hurt you more than it can help you. And he's trying to prove a point can be so heavy until it gets to be ridiculous. Okay, yeah. Just take the shovel and go to more shovels up and be done with it. Right?

Speaker 1 1:50:17

Well, I mean, you know. Go ahead, Casey.

Unknown Speaker 1:50:23

Did you guys hear about the incident with the neighbor? It just happened and everybody was killed? Well, there was a neighbor, I think they were in Pennsylvania. And the guy was shoveling the snow into his drivers in his neighbor's driveway. The neighbor came out and said, Hey, don't do that, you know, I won't be able to get out. The guy said, Hey, you can't tell me what to do him and his wife. He said, Okay, hold on. He went in the house. Got his shot. Yeah, yes. Danny went in. And he and he shot himself. I mean, the guy should have just said, Okay, guys, you're having a problem. Okay. I won't do it any longer. But he was like, No, I'm gonna make you pay for this. So guess what the guy said, Oh, we're really sorry. I made it right. And now is an orc. Yes. Nicholas, we wanted to get to that point. Yeah, ever. I saw it on Facebook, Facebook. And what happened was the guy whose wife was out there, he was actually being Nothing justifies just for he was being very disrespectful, as well to the guy who was shooting. He was like, I'm gonna come in here, and what I'm gonna do to you, and he was threatening him and they were threatening one another.

Speaker 1 1:51:42

Don't let it get there. Before. Don't let it get there. No,

Unknown Speaker 1:51:46

I mean, it got to the point, you can't threaten people. So the guy just went across the street back into his house, got his gun, came out and stood over the wife and just shot her. Shot the woman. I didn't know that he went back into his house and killed himself. I didn't know that.

Speaker 1 1:52:05

That's, that's out. That's a bad day. But

Unknown Speaker 1:52:10

guess what, but who suffers? Now this child, their their kid who has a disability is going to suffer? Yes. And it's going to be a mental problem as well. Never be able to forget that that happened that that house never you know, it happened right there.

Speaker 1 1:52:32

Oh, it's just scars. You know, I

Unknown Speaker 1:52:34

understand what yeah, we called it that people are going through a lot. And you know, it's a lot of mental stress. Just a lot of stuff going on. But you have to somehow you guys were talking about the earlier you have to just what I do to contain myself and I get angry. I step away. Step away from the situation. If it means that you have to go and your car, you have to go in the bathroom and shut the door and do a whoo sour moment and just breathe. hit your head against the wall. kick a ball, kick a ball down the road or whatever. You have to do some push ups you'll find the ones. Yeah. Just just Russa for a moment, you'll find that your actions will be different than what they would have been when you were angry. And that angry action will get you in some serious trouble. Right? Always take a wool sound mind. Never act on on your actions, reactions. act right away is not a good thing. And I have learned to woo woo.

Speaker 1 1:53:51

Casey, can you do that?

Unknown Speaker 1:53:55

Yes, yes. And I always remember what Michelle Obama said. When they go low. We go high.

Speaker 1 1:54:01

There you go. You go.

Unknown Speaker 1:54:03

Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:54:07

Oh, yeah.

Unknown Speaker 1:54:11

Sometimes they go so doggone low KC until you can go hack sometimes underneath your car, to get yourself and go for a three hour drive and come back home and say, Okay, now. Yes, but my thing is, I say this to people all the time and I live by this. Never let a person take you to their level. Right? Never let that happen. And my grandma used to say this all the time and I live by this. You have to determine what fish you gonna fly today. I'm gonna break that fry. Are you gonna go cat fish? Today or you can go a fresh smells

Unknown Speaker 1:55:03

right if you're gonna try to smell that means that you are Tamblyn things proportionately. This this I can deal with today. But if you're going after that catfish it's over his fighting because I must face right now in this fight you for his life. Hey, you may not want to deal with that, that may be a little bit too much for you. So choose your battles. Smart. Choose your battles carefully. It may save your life

Speaker 1 1:55:38

and check yourself right like you're saying check yourself like what am I prepared for today? Am I prepared for the scope dinner? Am I prepared for the catfish? Check? Check yourself right like man I don't know I might be able to do a couple smell today but maybe not more than that. But

Unknown Speaker 1:55:59

dealing with I'm not ready. We're dealing with all the bones today. I know what I gotta say. We're making

Speaker 1 1:56:06

Yeah, I know for sure you're not ready for that. I just want to say I remember. We used to go to point p li in Canada and pick up smelt they were just everywhere. I don't know if anybody out there remembers port pili but that was the place to get smelly.

Unknown Speaker 1:56:23

Yes

Speaker 1 1:56:23

pili point peeler point P No. Yeah, when you fry them up like that, man there's nothing better than some good smells. Oh yeah. Oh yeah, she can have smell Yeah

Unknown Speaker 1:56:37

No, I haven't heard you doing Oh, I haven't either. But I love smell especially with tartar sauce first mate. Are you going to be doing cook stuff? Like Bob used to do

Speaker 1 1:56:51

Yeah, we're gonna do some on your show. Yeah, I mean Casey is a recipe queen but she's really you know tight tight with them right now but we're gonna try to get some of her recipes out little by little and and we shared earlier some stories about making kombucha you know, a beverage that's good for you. And then we shared a little bit about some baking with some simple ingredients like squash, but okay, you know, and then yesterday we talked a little bit about baking cakes. And today we talked a little bit about baking cakes. I just got the one minute signal from DJ Chubb ca. Just to let everybody know, we're about to round out the show.

Unknown Speaker 1:57:33

Oh, wait, wait me. You know I know about that. You see how he does? It got 30 seconds. Right?

Speaker 1 1:57:42

Crystal takes it right to the crystal is going to take you to the so you're sure you're between six,

Unknown Speaker 1:57:54

six and eight. Yes, right, the best of oldies flavor with that Motown sound. And I'm going to I'm going to continue to promote you thank you and I wish you all the best I wish you all right, Casey, nice talking with you as well.

Speaker 1 1:58:11

Thank you so much, guys. Have a great day. As a neighbor, calm everyone. Have a good day. Take care now.