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Using Stop, Walk, Talk is a sign that someone is getting in the yellow or red. Please give them space!
Using Stop, Walk, Talk is a sign that someone is getting in the yellow or red. Please give them space!
You can (kindly but firmly) tell/ask someone to please stop.
You can (kindly but firmly) tell/ask someone to please stop.
If someone is asking you to stop, please stop.
STOP MEANS STOP.
If someone is asking you to stop, please stop.
STOP MEANS STOP.
You coach people on what you will allow or how to treat you by what you say or don't say. Let them know if you are not okay with something.
You coach people on what you will allow or how to treat you by what you say or don't say. Let them know if you are not okay with something.
1080p.MOVThis Intro Video is for the Youngest Grades
More direct videos after having learned Stop, Walk, Talk.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T9GF42SixD4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GuBMHzrI83E
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AKED5P-PGmM
If you are around people you get bugged by someone, it happens. They can't read your mind or maybe they are in the mood to bug. Maybe they are overusing their strength of Humor or Zest or under-using their strength of Self-Control or Social Intelligence.
I have heard students say "at home my brother or sister won't stop when I tell them to."
I am sorry that happened. AT OUR SCHOOL, we want to make sure that STOP MEANS STOP. Not one more time, not but it didn't hurt, not you started it. STOP MEANS STOP.
We can tell each other to "Please stop" to coach them how to treat us.
Telling someone to "Please stop" gives them a chance to know you are becoming irritated with what they are doing (in the yellow). So you don't need to 'blow up' (in the red).
If you hear "Please stop" - then, STOP. I am sure you have your side, but that was your clear communication that this is not the way to proceed. The other person is telling you you will need to find a different time and way to solve the situation.
You walking away sends a clear signal too. You are not putting up with this. You are demonstrating you need to self-manage, or you do not want to be associated with what is going on.
You walking away sends a clear signal too. You are not putting up with this. You are demonstrating you need to self-manage, or you do not want to be associated with what is going on.
My tip: Be careful what you say when you walk away. If you say something that further antagonizes someone then they might follow you- which is what you are trying to avoid!
My tip: Be careful what you say when you walk away. If you say something that further antagonizes someone then they might follow you- which is what you are trying to avoid!
Another tip: A little different than Stop, Walk, Talk - you may want to tell an adult you are working with that you need some space or am going to take a couple minutes instead of storming off without saying anything. That way they know you are trying to work with yourself. If you walk away several times and are not willing to talk about it later, then walking away may not become a helpful way to handle situations - it becomes avoiding what may need to be addressed.
Another tip: A little different than Stop, Walk, Talk - you may want to tell an adult you are working with that you need some space or am going to take a couple minutes instead of storming off without saying anything. That way they know you are trying to work with yourself. If you walk away several times and are not willing to talk about it later, then walking away may not become a helpful way to handle situations - it becomes avoiding what may need to be addressed.
Versions of Stop, Walk, Talk can be used for older ages too.
Versions of Stop, Walk, Talk can be used for older ages too.
- You can coach some one what not to do to you-or speak up for someone.
- You can walk away and take yourself out of a situation, or help your friend exit a situation.
- If the other person persists, come to a trusted adult for help.
Other videos from the strength of self-control, and social intelligence that might be a helpful reminder:
Other videos from the strength of self-control, and social intelligence that might be a helpful reminder:
1080p.movGiving personal space
1080p.movUsing self-control when lining up.
Project 84.movRemembering the stoplight to work something out.
Project 120.movRemembering not trying to control someone, and sometimes if it's not working out we might let a relationship go for now.
Project 62.movRemembering sometimes trying to use the strength of Humor can be hurtful. You have the power to tell someone to stop or walk away.
Project 76.movRemembering to use the strength of Forgivness when you learned to do something different.
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