The Covenant of the Blessing
The Covenant of the Blessing
3-Day Ceremony, Absolute Sex life, Love & Respect
Alright, guys! I want you to relax! Don't worry about it! Yes, it's a Blessing of marriage, but you know the Blessing of marriage is supposed to be full of joy unspeakable, okay? So everybody just relax! It's a beautiful day; all right, take a deep breath. You are all doing well; you look beautiful! All right, but we're going to talk about the Covenant of the Blessing today!
Let's look at this: we're going to talk about things in this preparation for the Blessing- the Blessing will commence at 11:00 or around that time, okay - but we're going to do something that absolutely has not been done, which is, we're going to talk about the inner workings of marriage absolutely clearly today. We're going to talk about the 3-Day Ceremony publicly today
This is a ceremony that many, even blessed children, have never heard of. Many of us who have grown up in the Church have not heard what the 3-Day Ceremony comprises of; and a lot of people in the church who have undergone the 3-Day Ceremony have almost become shy of it. Amen, right?
And this is what is so important in this hour; as Father has now ascended, and the Holy Spirit is dwelling with us, we must not be like the children of Noah, who when they saw their father’s nakedness were ashamed, amen, and tried to cover him. So, as the hierarchical Church, that is following a false covenant, is ashamed of Father, ashamed of the different ceremonies that we have had, it is so important that the children of God be not ashamed of their Father. Amen!
It is so important! That is the right heartistic posture that we must have before God, and this is what's so important. That's why we need to today, clearly talk, about things such as the 3-Day Ceremony. We're going to actually go through the 3-Day Ceremony, each one of the steps of the 3-Day Ceremony, the significance of the 3-Day Ceremony. We're also going to talk about food today; how many know that in marriage food is a very important thing? Food is a very important thing.
And then we're also going to talk about what? Sex! We're going to talk about sex, because in the Church, the body of Christ does not talk about the holiness of sexuality. It does not! It has become shamed by the fallen culture, and that is why our fallen culture is educating our children on sex, where it should be the parents in a godly home, and it should be the pulpit, where we also can teach about the sanctity of marriage and the sanctity of intimacy in marriage. Amen!
This is something of course, which is core to the Principle, and it is core to Father’s teaching. How many know that when you were in the presence of Father, he would talk so openly about intimacy in marriage? Even if there were grandchildren around, he had no shame, because God prepared the Covenant of marriage; that's where the grandchildren came from. How many know that's where the grand- children came from? Right! But we have become ashamed because we have become dominated by the satanic culture and fallen culture around us, and thus we cannot talk in the Churches about the sanctity of sexuality in the Covenant of marriage. Amen! So, we're going to get into that today, okay? So, we're going to talk about those things.
Summary
Lineage and Spiritual Positions
Day Ceremony!
Food (Barbecues, and Recipes)
Sex!
We're going to talk about the lineage and spiritual positions, the 3-Day Ceremony for the first time in public. What a glorious day! The archangels cannot try to hide this anymore! See, as blessed children we didn't have to go through it, but when I was studying it to teach it, it was so powerful; it was so beautiful to see this! I mean even just to understand this as a blessed child! We, as blessed children, we don't have to participate in it, but to understand it; the incredible ceremony that the 3-Day Ceremony is! I was so moved looking and studying through this ceremony.
We're also going to cover barbecue and recipes today; but it's not what you think, it's not what you think. And we're going to talk about the importance of sexuality in marriage. How critical that is to your Blessing! Amen!
All right, let's look at the 3-Day Ceremony! Let’s read this together!
3- Day Ceremony
Due to the Fall, God's blood lineage was lost to the dominion of Satan. Mankind must be restored unto God the Father and Christ, the Son of God. The Messiah is the Bridegroom, and must meet his Bride. A Blessed Couple is in the position of a bride who has been wed to Christ. Specifically, the wife stands in the position of Fallen woman or Eve, and the husband stands in the position of Fallen Archangel. Christ stands in the position of the Perfect Man and Perfect Adam.
Through the 3-Day Ceremony, the wife is reborn in Christ, as the restored Bride of Christ, and is bestowed to the husband as a princess in the Kingdom of God. The husband is reborn in Christ, as a Son of God, a prince of the Kingdom of God. After the completion of these holy consecrations, the husband and wife will stand as a prince and princess of God's Kingdom, to glorify and honor Him forever. Amen!
Let's give God some praise for that! This is the engrafting into the royalty, the royalty of God. Amen! The royal family! Those who are first getting blessed and are going to do the 3-Day Ceremony, if you are what we call first generation, if you're receiving the Blessing for the first time, we're encouraging you to do a 40-day celibacy separation period. 40 days! You have to hold, have dominion over the 3 flesh for 40 days. This is a symbolic offering; it's like a fast, right. This does not purify us, but it gets us out of the way, so God can prepare us. Amen!
40- Day Victory over Satan
40 days of celibacy after Blessing
Receiving prayer from Pastor after 40 days celibacy.
In the Old Testament, when God destroyed the earth with water, He caused it to rain 40 days and 40 nights (Genesis 7:12). ü
After Moses killed the Egyptian, he fled to Median, where he spent 40 years in the desert tending flocks (Acts 7:30) ü
Moses was on Mount Sinai for 40 days and 40 nights (Exodus 24:18) ü
Moses interceded on Israel’s behalf for 40 days and 40 nights (Deuteronomy 9:18,25) ü
The Law specified a maximum number of lashes a man could receive for a crime, setting the limit at 40 (Deuteronomy 25:3) ü
The Israelite spies took 40 days to spy out Canaan (Numbers 13:25) ü
The Israelites wondered for 40 years (Deuteronomy 8:2-5) ü
Before Samson’s deliverance, Israel served the Philistines for 40 years (Judge 13:1) ü
Goliath taunted Saul’s army for 40 days before David arrived to slay him (1 Samuel 17:16) ü
When Elijah fled from Jezebel, he travelled 40 days and 40 nights to Mt. Horeb (1.King 19:8) The number 40 also appears in the prophecies of Ezekiel (4: 6, 29:11-13) and Jonah (3:4)
In the New Testament, Jesus was tempted for 40 days and 40 nights (Matthew 4:2). There were 40 days between Jesus’ resurrection and ascension (Acts 1:3)
The 40- day period is a separation from Satan period; it's like a time of spiritual fasting, where we are internally separating from Satan's covenant. The 3-Day Ceremony will then commence after the 40 - day period; so after the 40-day period of purity, the 3-Day Ceremony will commence after receiving a prayer for the 40- days victory of separation over Satan, and then you will enter into the 3-Day Ceremony.
And I want to go through this in great details with you, because those who have done the ceremony, you will remember it, but those who have never heard of this, like blessed children, it's so powerful to understand what type of Covenant we exist under.
Umma, if I can ask you to come!
1 st Day
3-Day Ceremony
1st Day
Holy salt bedroom
Place True Parents’ picture in an appropriate location in bedroom
Light holy candle
Holy Washing Ceremony
Husband and wife take bath
Wet a clean towel (designated as Holy Towel) and symbolically clean body –
Dry body with dry towel
Wear clean clothes and bow to True Parents
Recite Family Pledge
Husband bows to wife three times symbolizing Fallen Archangel
Wife, in position of Fallen Eve, prays for husband to be reborn as a son of God
Husband and wife have sexual intercourse with wife in top position
After, put on clothes and husband bows to wife once
Wife reports to God and prays of success of 1st Day Restoration of Old Testament
So, this is the 3-Day Ceremony. The three days symbolize the Old, the New, and Completed Testaments. The three days also symbolize formation, growth and perfection, the stage of growth at which Adam and Eve had fallen, and lost perfection, lost God's ideal in the kingdom.
So, on the first day there is preparation before the actual ceremony commences, and that would be holy salting the bedroom, purifying it with prayer, also with a holy song; we’ll place True Parents’ picture in appropriate location in the bedroom, and we will light the holy candle before that. Then there will be a holy washing ceremony where the couple, husband and wife will bathe, clean their bodies, and then they will use a clean towel or their holy kerchief; you will use that to symbolically wipe your body -something like this (showing it) - and then you'll symbolically wash your body. There will be a separate towel, and then you will dry your body with a regular towel; but that holy kerchief will remain for the three days. After that point of washing we will put on our clothes and formal clothes, we will bow to True Parents and we will recite the Family Pledge. So you can then recite the Family Pledge which is pledging our families to the building of the Kingdom.
Now here is where powerful things happen! On the first day, look at this, the first day the husband will do three full bows to his wife. How many knew that? How many are hearing this for the first time? Okay! On the first day the husband will do three full bows. What is a full bow? A full bow is about like this on the knees (demonstrating) and to the ground; that's a full bow. Three full bows symbolizing the different levels of growth within formation stage; in the formation stage, there is formation, growth and perfection stages within that one stage.
So, on the first day the husband will bow three times to his wife. In this posture the husband will realize that he represents the fallen archangel. He is the fallen archangel and he has to humble himself to Eve, because in the Garden he seduced Eve and fully beguiled her, and brought her and Adam under his yoke of slavery. This is the path of breaking that bond with Satan, not only with spiritual salvation but, as Paul prophesied, that when the Lord returns- we are waiting for the adoption of the body- that God must also claim the physical body or the resurrected body, and that must be totally pure and separated from Satan.
So, the husband will bow to the wife three times, full bows symbolizing the fallen archangel, and the wife in the position of fallen Eve prays for the husband to be reborn. She has to pray in the position of fallen Eve to ask God that her husband would be reborn, that the archangelic dominion would leave him, and that he would be reborn as a son of God. So, we'll pray together like that (demonstrating): right hand over the left, and my wife's right hand over my left.
On that first day, the wife will pray, after she has received the three bows from her husband. And then the husband and wife will have sexual intercourse with the wife in the top position. How many heard this for the first time? In the top position, because what happened? In the fall Eve came under the dominion of Satan and she became his object or she became his slave; she came under him. So, in the restoration of the formation stage and the Old Covenant, Eve must stand as the victor, so she must stand in a position above the archangel. And that's, why in that first night of intimacy, the wife will be on the top position, symbolizing the restoration of that fallen process.
After that is completed the husband and wife will put on their clothes and bow; the husband then again bows to the wife. You see? On the first day as the archangel, he has to show subjugation to the child of God. And people thought Father was a chauvinist! What fools! How many times you’ve got to bow to your wife? Right! And then the husband will bow to the wife again, and then the wife will report to God and will pray, thanking Him for the success of the first- day restoration, symbolically of the formation stage or the Old Testament Age era.
So, all of Providence, all of the 6,000 years of biblical history, are coming to culmination in your Blessing, in your marriage! It's not just: ‘boy meets girl, girl meets boy, boy likes girl, and they live happily ever after and fight every day.’ That's not what it's about! All of Providence is condensed into this initial stage.
2 nd, 3rd Day
2nd Day
Repeat 1st Day (but this time symbolizing the indemnity of Jesus not obtaining his bride)
3rd Day (Symbolizing full and completed restoration of Man and Woman)
On this day, the husband symbolically walks the path of True Father restoring the dominion of fallen man
Holy Washing Ceremony
Husband and wife take bath
Wet the Holy Towel and symbolically clean body
Dry body with dry towel
Wear clean clothes and bow to True Parents
Recite Family Pledge
Husband and wife face each other and offer 3 bows
Husband prays thanking God for restoration of manhood
Wife prays thanking God for restoration of man
Husband and wife have sexual intercourse with man in top position
After, clean body with holy towel and preserve as your family treasure
Put on clean clothes and wife bows to husband
Husband prays to God, thanking for completing 3-Day Ceremony, and vowing absolute fidelity to God, wife and family.
The second day is a repeating of the first day, but this time it is symbolizing the indemnity of Jesus not obtaining his bride because of the faithlessness of the people; they murdered him. The second day will be a repeat of the first day, but now in a different position, symbolizing that indemnity that must be paid of the archangelic peoples who killed Jesus; so this will symbolize the New Testament age.
The third day will be symbolizing the full and completed restoration of what man and woman were supposed to be; the full restoration of man and woman. Now on the third day, the husband will symbolically walk the path of True Father, restoring the dominion of fallen man. Now, husbands on the third day you are walking in the symbolic footsteps of True Father, restoring fallen man. You see? You will do the holy washing ceremony, as done on the second and first day. You'll again repeat: wear clean clothes and bow to True Parents, recite Family Pledge.
On the third day, the husband and wife will face each other; on the previous two days the husband is bowing to the wife, right? On the third day manhood, true manhood, the subject position, is being restored. So they will bow to each other on the third day, facing each other, three bows to each other. And then on the third day the husband will pray; the husband will pray thanking God for restoration of manhood, true manhood, a manhood that has accepted the responsibility and has repented for the sin. Amen! The wife prays after him thanking God for the restoration of man; in this position the wife is also praying in repentance of her sin, and at the same time thanking God for restoring her husband.
After that, husband and wife will have sexual intimacy again, but on the third day the man will be in the top position, symbolizing the restoration of man, and the restoration of the subject position. After this, the body will be cleaned with the same holy towel that you have been using throughout the three days, and this will be preserved as family treasure. This will be preserved because this signifies the new ancestry. We may think family treasures are this or that, but this - your original ancestors and what they passed down, how they now birthed you, and upon what Covenant you are birthed- is the treasure. Amen!
So, we cannot just look at it from a ‘boy meets girl’ perspective. We got to look deep into the historical context, how the descendants will be impacted by the Covenant, by the Blessing, by the removal of Satan and the total dominion of God, being wed to Christ as a bride.
The husband and wife will put on clean clothes, and on the third day the wife will bow to the husband; the wife will do a full bow to the husband, and then the husband will pray to God thanking God for completing the 3 -Day Ceremony, and both of them vowing absolute fidelity, loyalty and faith. Amen!
Now, even though you're second generation, and you don't have to do this, do you see how deep this is? Do you see how much you can learn from the posture? There's so much depth in our Blessing! So that's the first stage; that's the first 3-Day Ceremony. We will have that up for you on the website and different social media, so you can download that and have those things, so that when you actually do the 3-Day Ceremony after the 40- day separation period you will be victorious in the ceremony.
Note
If for any physical reason the couple is NOT able to accomplish this 3- Day Ceremony within three consecutive days, they may try again as they are physically capable. Couples should NOT try to complete this ceremony in less than three consecutive days.
We get that question all the time. Father said we must do it on three different days, so don't try to just rush it. If you are healthy, you can try to get it done in one day; but don't try that, okay! Three consecutive days representing the three stages, formation, growth and perfection!
Love & Respect:
Now we're going to go also to the Scripture, and this scripture makes people mad but we got to deal with it because it's the Word of God. Amen! We can't just ignore it. So I'm going to read this whole scripture; we're going to read from 21 and we're going to go to 33, but let's read together:
Ephesians 5:21-27
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the Church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her, 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the Word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant Church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. Amen!
Now, before all the men start celebrating and say, “Woo-hoo! Submit!” No! Before you start doing that, look at what the Scripture says, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. “That's the key! We submit to one another out of reverence for Christ; what you do not want in your Blessing, in your marriage, is a power struggle. Amen! A power struggle will destroy your marriage, because the devil will get in it and tear you apart. That's why God sets up the structure and that's why God already gives us the model for what He intends.
Wives, we're supposed to submit to our husbands as we do to Christ, how the Church submits to Christ, and at the same time husbands, we are to love our wives just as Christ loved the Church. Well, how much did he love the Church? So much that he died! You're talking about absolute sacrifice, going to the death. That is what we're called to do as husbands, real men and husbands.
Now look at this verse 24; this is very important. Many husbands like the Scripture, “As the Church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything” Yeah! Bring out the football” and whatever! No! Look what the Scripture says, men? How are you to be real men? “You are to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with the water, but through the Word” How many of you men are studying the Scripture daily? How many? Real men have to be studying the Scripture; you are called to be the priest of your household. If you are not studying the Scripture you're not a real man; you have to study the Scripture, you have to be the priest of the house.
Look at what it says; you have to “wash her through the Word.” We're supposed to wash our spouse in the Word; this is not a message of condemnation. Amen! Right! You guys see it “in the Word”. You're supposed to be the priest. So, men, this is our calling; we have to be the priest of the household. We have to walk with her, deal with her, with the Word; not just our opinions or our feelings, but we have to deal with our wife with the Scripture; we have to lead the household. Amen!
So, this is an important part of manhood restored in the Blessing and in marriage. Husbands are called to be the priest; you're called to study and to wash your spouse in the Word. Isn't that beautiful? Isn't it beautiful? That's what we're called to do; we're called to love her by the Word of God. Okay? So, we have to study our Bibles; we have to study the Principle, the Cheon Seong Gyeong. We have to study the Scripture, and we have to encourage especially our wife with the Word of God. It's not only about beautiful, romantic words that we say to her. Our marriage is not only ‘a boy and a girl love each other.’ That's not what marriage is about, folks! Right! It's not about you, right; it's not about you!
Your marriage is about God! But how many of us want to get married for us, and you won't have a lot of preachers tell you that it's not about you. Marriage is not about you. It is about the everlasting Covenant with God! That's what it's about! So I want to challenge you to get this on the inside of you, because if this challenges you, that's good, because that's the Holy Spirit convicting you, in a good way; this is a good thing.
So, we want to wash her, we want to be the priests of the house; we have to wash her with water, encourage her through the Word, strengthen her with the Word. Just as we would strengthen our congregation with the Word, we also have to strengthen, encourage, enable, increase, empower, our wife with the Word of God. Okay? That is so important!
Let's read from 28:
28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body just as Christ does the Church 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”32 This is a profound mystery - but I am talking about Christ and the Church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
There's the key to marriage, folks! There's the key right there in the Word of God! It's right there, right there at the end. Paul is talking to the husbands; we are supposed to love our wife. Look at this: does it say, “I recommend that you love your wife?” Does it say, “I would hope you love your wife?” Does it say that? What does it say? “You must love your wife” You know what? In the Greek this is agape love; this is unconditional love. Because when you get married you'll quickly realize that sometimes your wife is unlovable. How many can say ‘amen’ to that? Don't lie, don't lie, repent right now; rebuke that devil right now! Sometimes your wife can be unlovable, but you are called to unconditionally love her.
Now before the ladies start celebrating, what is the end of that Scripture? “And the wife must respect the husband.” This, in the Greek is the word which also means ‘unconditional respect.’ How many know that when you get married sometimes your husband is unrespectable? You will feel like, “I cannot respect this man!” You will sometimes face a man in your house, and he is your husband who is totally unrespectable in your view, just like he will also face a woman who is his wife, who is at some times totally unlovable. Amen!
Now, usually before we do the Blessing, or you hear marriage counseling before marriage, you'll only hear the first part. You will only hear “Men, you have to love your wife unconditionally!” right? “And we have to, as husband and wife, love each other unconditionally.”
There is great teaching on this by Pastor Emerson Eggerich, and he shows studies that have proven that women need love to feel respected and they need love to feel valuable. How many women can agree with that? Right! Now, it doesn't mean they don't need respect, but they need love as their primary source of food. Now there are other studies that show men care not necessarily to be loved. Men desire respect; they desire respect!
In a study where men were asked, “Would you rather be alone and not disrespected, or would you rather be disrespected in a relationship? What would you choose?” They chose, “I'd rather be alone.” They chose, “I'd rather be alone.” Men in their created being need to feel respect, in order to feel loved. See how different that is, folks! It's different, isn't it? Women need to feel loved to feel respected; men need to feel respected to feel loved!
So, in your Blessing, in your marriage, it is so critical to hang on these words ‘love and respect.’ It's all about loving and respecting. That is why we're not suggested to do that; we are commanded to do that by God! Amen! We're commanded to do that!
That means when a husband is in his shorts or in his boxers, eating popcorn, watching football, screaming at the TV, he looks totally unrespectable, okay! You can say, “What is that fool doing? We got so many things to do around this house; what is he doing?”You may feel that this man is unrespectable but the Word of God commands you to have unconditional respect, to approach him with respect. Amen! Not to approach him, “You, good-for-nothing fool!” and pull out the TV and throw it out the window. That's not how you're called to behave.
When your wife is nagging you about something and it doesn't stop, and you already did it, but it still continues on - I can see some of you smiling- you are called to unconditionally love her. You don't change her by shouting out. Or what men usually do is ignore her; they will ignore her because it's driving them crazy, and they will just go out of the house. They will say, “I can't handle this!”They will just leave the house. Okay?
So, this is the crazy cycle in our marriages; this is what I call “the hell cycle.” How many know that your Blessing can build either the Kingdom of Heaven or the kingdom of hell? I know so many people who have received the Covenant of the Blessing, yet their marriages are hell. They are hell because they are not told about the Scripture, and they don't obey the Scripture. God gives us the pattern of how to create success in our marriage, power, anointing, greatness, in our marriage, but we have to obey the Word. Amen! Not our feelings; not our emotions! We have to obey the Word!
This is the hell cycle folks! You see? Because if our wife does not feel loved, she will react without respect; if she doesn't feel like we value her and she doesn't feel like she's loved, she will act disrespectfully. She will start seeing us as a child which needs to be disciplined. Why are you laughing, men? She will see you as a child to be disciplined! And what godly man wants to be treated like a child who is to be disciplined by his wife? Who likes that? Do you like that, men? You can be honest; we're all bald here! No godly man likes that! No godly man likes that! We do not like to be treated like children; we are grown men, even though sometimes, you know, they watch sports in their boxers and they scream at the TV, ok? Love covers all sin! If we love our spouse those sins are covered.
Look at this: without love she reacts without respect; he feels disrespected, he's going to react without love; he's going to ignore her.
It's your third book of “ways to improve your marriage,” the third one. Now you're saying, “You know Jimmy, we should read this; it's really going to be exciting to read this!” And he will say, “Okay, leave it right on his coffee table,” next to his couch on the TV. And he will just watch the TV and the book will be sitting right there, right. And the whole time he knows the wife is watching him thinking, “Why aren't you reading that book?” He can feel her judgment. It's now the third book! So, every time he's turning on the TV, he is grinding his teeth, because he knows he has to read that book, otherwise there is going to be trouble. But he's not going to read the book because what happened? The last two times he read the book, it got worse; the last two times he read the book they got in a fight. How many have experienced this one? Oh! You guys are bad liars!
So, when in that cycle, the husband is ignoring her and this book, because he feels it as a condemnation upon him. That he is an unloving man, when he is out breaking his back to serve her, when he is out breaking his back to provide for the family, and when if an intruder comes he will fight that intruder to the death. He will go risk his life to kill that man who was trying to kill his wife.
How many women forget about that, that your husband has the actual scary responsibility that if there's an intrusion on your house, he risks his life to protect you? How many know that? Okay, I know here we got ladies with firearms; almost all the ladies are armed here. But the man also, that weigh on his shoulder. You know when your husband is not at home and now you have the weight on your shoulder, what if an intruder comes in and now you have to fight that man; you have to now fight that man? You understand that is a stress load on you. You understand that, right?
A husband has that at all times because he loves you, because he cherishes the family. Even though he doesn't look like he's thinking about it, he has that in the back of his head all the time, to protect you. It is a godly instinct, but he is actively trying to do that because he loves you. So, we have to give him credit for that. Amen! We have to give the man credit for that. He will risk his life for you, so give him credit; respect him.
This is the hell cycle:
Without love, she reacts without respect; without respect, he reacts without love! Without love, she reacts without respect; without respect, he reacts without love! Without love, she reacts without respect; without respect, he reacts without love!
And this cycle will continue, and your marriage will break down, and you will be living in a hell! I have seen so many marriages that are living in literal hell, because they continue this cycle. So, as you are now commencing your marriages, it is so important that you do not fall into this cycle, and when you do, you fall out of it as fast as you can. Amen! Get out of it as fast as you can! This will destroy your marriage. It is the primary tool of Satan to kill you, to maim you, and to destroy you. Right, that's what the Scripture says that Satan is out to do; he is like a roaring lion, to kill, maim, and destroy you, and he will be after your marriage.
This is the heavenly cycle or the energizing cycle:
If she feels loved, his love will motivate her respect, and her respect will motivate his love! His love will motivate her respect; her respect will motivate his love! His love will motivate her respect; her respect will motivate his love!
This is the energizing cycle; this is the heavenly cycle! This is a cycle we want to get on. In our daily lives, all we have to do, remember is love and respect. There are no five steps or five ways to rebuke the devil; you got the Word of God right there! Love your wife; wife, respect your husband! It's literally that simple, and it will be nuanced in every facet of your life as you live together, but that's the Principle: husbands unconditionally love your wife; wives unconditionally respect your husband! Husband, even though your wife is unlovable, love her! That's how you change her!
Especially when there is no money, men need to feel your respect, ladies! If he has no money and he feels like a loser and everybody is condemning him in the world, and he comes home and feels condemned, he is dying; the man is dying! It is in that time when the wife can come to his rescue! You can come to your man's rescue; you can save his life. You can come to him and say, “I believe in you! You are my man. We went through hurdles and obstacles together and we will get through this one because God is willing, and God is able!” Especially when you have no money!
When I got kicked out the palace I got no money either! You understand? But my wife believed in me; she believed in me and she stood by my side.
Love and Respect
Husbands, change your wife lovingly
Husbands change your wife with “Love Barbecue”
Wives, change your husband respectfully
Women confront your husband with “Respectful Recipes”
So, husbands, we change our wife lovingly, with love; that's how we change her. We don't change her like how you change another guy, you know, like your boys. You don't change your wife like you try to change your boys! Amen! You don't go up to her, and say, “Look man! I think this is totally screwed up! You don't do that; you don't do that to me! That's messed up; you don't do that to me! You don't speak like that to me!” That's not the way to work it out with your wife! That's how you work it out with your guys, amen!
You work it out lovingly! I like to say, “You have to love barbecue.” Who likes barbecue? What do you do when you barbecue some baby back ribs? You’ve got to lather it in barbecue sauce; you're using a steel brush or a bristle brush, a soft brush? You’re using a soft brush. Are you just throwing it in, or are you lathering it? Then when you cook it, are you cooking it fast or are you doing a slow cook?
Okay! You understand what I'm saying, men! You’ve got to do the love barbecue. You know how to make some baby back ribs, that's how you’ve got to make some baby back rib for your wife; she is the greatest baby back rib for you from heaven. Amen! So you got to cook it slow; you got to lather it, you got to smother it in that Sugar Ray citrus sweet barbecue! Whoo! Right, now I got the Holy Ghost!
Okay! Wives, change your husband respectfully! Don't go to your man and talk to him like you talk to your girlfriends! You will drive him crazy; he will run from you. Do not go to him and talk to him like you do to your girlfriends. He doesn't want to hear about the mother-in-law, and the auntie and the problem with this car, and that issue and that, and Maria is going through that; he doesn't want to hear that. You got to get to the point, right ladies?
This is what I call ‘the respectful recipe’. When you make a recipe list it doesn't go on for fifty pages, right; when you're trying to explain a recipe to somebody, you don't give them fifty pages of recipe! Amen! You certainly do not talk about Maria's problems or Martha's problems; you talk about the ingredients that you're going to use in that recipe, right. And you can't just say, “Throw some beans in there,” What kind of beans? We're going to use pinto beans, black beans? What other kinds of beans are there; kidney beans, navy beans? What are we going to use? Tell me specific! Amen! Be specific; be specific!
When you try to change your man with respect, think about the recipe ladies, the recipe. Keep it short, clear, very lucid, so he knows what you're talking about, he knows what to identify. He can go and buy the red kidney beans; he doesn't have to stand in front of the bean aisle and say, “Which beans do I have to buy?” He can go to the red kidney beans, pick them out, and get the next ingredient. Amen! Why are you laughing, ladies?
I tell you what my wife does to show me respect. When she has something I need to change, that she feels pulled on her spirit, she comes to me and she says, “Can I speak with you tomorrow at nine o'clock, and it will be ten minutes.” She tells me when, and then I'll say, “Oh! Sure, yeah; we can meet at nine o'clock tomorrow.”
We're working on stuff. See, when men are working on things, even though it looks like they're watching football or playing video and whatever it is, they're actually thinking about other things. If they have to get a job done, they're thinking about that; but they're just trying to rest their brain for a couple of seconds before they get back to it.
Mark Unger says,”Men in their head have many boxes, and the most important box is the do-nothing box.”’What are you doing?” “Nothing” What do you think about?” “Nothing!” Men have a donothing box! You’ve got to respect it! “What are you doing?””Nothing!” “Okay! I can respect that!” He's going to be like, “Wow! Praise God! ”
So, this is what my wife does: she comes to me, she doesn't say, “I need to talk to you now!” I'm in the middle of something, right. How many men have encountered this? “We need to talk now!” I'm in the middle of something; I'm answering an email, or I'm doing this. Or you know, I don't play video games, but some men love video games; some men love video games, and maybe they're resting their head because they've been all day cramming their brain on something, so just let them play the video game. It's not a big deal! Let them play a little bit!
Ask them,”Honey, can we talk tomorrow, or can we talk tonight at nine for ten minutes?” That's what my wife does; she shows me that respect. And when she meets me you know what she does? She sets up her clock, she puts the clock in front of us; she puts the timer on ten minutes. Isn't that amazing? Isn't that amazing? How many men would love that?
You cannot promise a man, “I'm only going to go ten minutes, and go two hours,” because now he can't trust you. He can't trust when you make that promise. So if the ladies do, as my wife does, she will set the time, set the date, and she will show me that she's serious about this issue, serious about my time as well. Amen! That's what she does! I am so grateful that my anointed wife does that to me, that she will respect me in that manner.
So there are small things we can do, but in the end it is the respect cycle. It is: loving our wife unconditionally, being the priest of the household, studying the Scripture, being the leader of the house, spiritual leader as well, going and covering your spouse with the Word of God, watering; it says, “ Wash with water with the Word of God”.
And in the other way, wives, also to unconditionally respect their husbands. This is what we do not hear in this third wave, postmodern, feminist- saturated ideological world. We never hear that. But the Scripture shows us the true answer to creating strong marriages, if we obey it. We have the answer right there.
Absolute Sex:
This is the most coveted and precious gift God gives to you as husband and wife.
Your Absolute Sex life should be glorious and abundant!!!
Your Absolute Sex life is the full expression of oneness in Christ
Your joyous Absolute Sex life and the romantic and positive energy it creates in the home will be THE GREATEST blessing you can give your descendants!
The third thing that we need to talk about quickly is Absolute Sex in marriage; your sexuality in marriage is critical to your marriage. How many know your children will come from your sexuality in marriage; your descendants will come from that sexuality in marriage? But we have become so conditioned by Satan’s kingdom that we cannot talk about the sanctity of sexuality in marriage, even in the churches; we have become so weak as the body of Christ that we're not even able to instruct families on the importance of sexuality in their marriage. In fact it is the greatest gift, it is the most coveted and precious gift God gives us. Amen!
It is a grace as well; it's not something we deserve or we earn. It is something God gives us to our marriage, to unite us. What did the Scripture say? “The two will become one flesh.” That is the mystery of God! That’s what Paul said; isn’t that what he said? There is a power there, there is an anointing there. Your Absolute Sex life should be strong, it should be abundant; there should be prosperity there. It should not be barren; if it's barren something's wrong, folks! Right, something is wrong. We got to get off some cycles, and get onto the heavenly cycle to build up the abundance in that marriage. Amen!
This is so important; I think it's underestimated how important your Absolute Sex life is. For men it is the primary place; it is the greatest way that we feel totally loved, totally accepted, and totally embraced. It is the greatest way that we feel like we are living as a son of God. It is that powerful as the glue to your marriage. However at the same time I see so many people try to use the Scripture or Father's words to say, “We have to do it three times a week, and that's the Law!”
God freed us from the Law; we're not trying to force the health of our Absolute Sex life, right? We are trying to create that, and manifest the environment where the Holy Spirit and God can be present when we come together as husband and wife. How many know there is the Holy Spirit, the presence of God is there when husband and wife come together of one mind, one heart, one accord and in one body, one flesh. Amen!
There is a Holy Spirit anointing that you will find nowhere else. I don't care what church you go to; when you are with your spouse in the embrace of full trust, love and vulnerability, and when Absolute Sex life is powerful and abundant, there is no more powerful anointing, no more powerful motivator for you to go out and defeat Satan. Amen!
Ladies, stop thinking men are perverts! They are not perverts; that's how much they want you! That's how much they want you. Amen! God made men that way, so we can chase you, so we can hunt you, not to kill you but to love you with everything we have.
Your Absolute Sex life is the gift from God to your marriage. After the Blessing, after the 3-Day Ceremony, Satan has no claim on your marriage; he has no claim on your intimacy. It is totally separated and it is in the presence of God. So our Absolute Sex life is the full expression of oneness in Christ, and your joyous Absolute Sex life and the romantic positive energy that that will create in your family will be the greatest gift you give to your descendants. It is the greatest gift!
When you have a powerful Absolute Sex marriage, you are giving your children the greatest blessing, the greatest blessing! How many know that teenage suicide and all those things with psychological diseases are related primarily, mostly, to parental dysfunction, right? But when you have a powerful, anointed man and woman of God, who are coming together, who are powerful in their abundance, in their Absolute Sex life, which is powerful in creating that energy of intimacy and joy unspeakable, your children will reap the blessings of that. They will want to get blessed; they will have a model in their head to work off of when they get married. Amen!
We saw in the Scripture this weekend: we don't fight for the victory, we fight from the victory; we fight from the victory! If your children have victorious parents who are powerful in their Absolute Sex marriage, they're fighting from a victory! You've already made them empowered, and they already have the victory of you, so that now when they get blessed and they get faced by Satan's attack, now they can fight from the victory, not for their own victory; they're fighting from your victory. Amen! That's how powerful your marriage is! That's how powerful your intimacy is! It will have impact on your children; it will absolutely have impact on your children!
We talk about Absolute Sex all the time with our children, openly because we don't want some progressive teaching them about sexuality, right? We want them to learn from their parents, and the gift that God has given us in marriage. We don't want to wait until they're learning it from MTV and who else, these stars, Lady Gaga, or wherever they're learning it. We want to root it in God. Amen! And this joyous life of the Absolute Sex marriage, the power that it creates and the joy that it creates!
Husbands, as you romance your wife, as you chase after her, you will create an incredible energy that your children will be fed off of, and strengthened in when now they are getting blessed. It has repercussions beyond your personal relationship with your spouse, because you are fulfilling the Word of God in life. And because you are standing obedient to the Word of God, God is blessing your generations. Amen! That's what the Word said; He is “blessing your generations and your children will be blessed.”
Umma, you want to say something quickly about that, real quickly?
Yeon Ah Nim:
Thank you so much! Let us give one more round of applause to my husband! Thank you so much! You know he bragged about me too much! I don't know if I can live up to that expectation. I have to think and pray about that.
You know I just want to make a quick point about the crazy cycle: without love she reacts without respect; without respect he reacts without love. That cycle, that crazy cycle!
You know, women, we nag because we care actually; that is absolutely true. I mean I know men don't understand this, but we nag because we care. If we don't care we're not going to nag okay? “Who are you? I don't care about you,” But we nag because we care, and most of our ladies here can agree with that. So, men, when your wife nags, please understand that's a clue, “Oh, she needs love, okay?” That's a very important cue that she's giving to you.
But another side is: when women nag men, men actually think that's a sign of contempt, right, hatred, “Oh, she hates me! Oh, here it goes again. She doesn't trust me; that's why she nags. She thinks I'm a kid or something, that's why she nags!” But about that point, we really have to understand where man is coming from, where woman is coming from. It is actually so true.
You know my husband said I make an appointment with him for ten minutes, and I do ten minutes; actually it's thirty minutes okay? So he's giving me a clue that I have to reduce it to ten minutes! I got it; I got it! But I do actually do that. I take out my iPhone, I make a schedule with him, I put it in my iPhone schedule list, and I put out my iPhone for thirty minutes, and then I press the start; and I try to finish it within thirty minutes. Okay, I'll work on that!
Another thing I do with my husband is I actually email to him. Because we do ministry together there's not only the family matter but also there's ministry matter; okay, this person wants to make an appointment, there is something that needs to be done, so I actually email to him. He's right there; he's right in front of me. He’s right in front of me doing something, but I make a list and I email him, and that's how he responds to me in terms of ministry work. The reason I do that is that it's more effective, and I don't have to get into him emotionally or, “How can you be so careless about this person? This person is in the hospital, and how can you just do something else?” I don't have to get into that; I simply get to the point, and that's the respect recipe right- we just talked about it.
And men, you know what? I know you guys have something that you want to fix about your wife, something that is not really lovable, but you know the barbecue has to be between the sandwich buns, right, you know you have to prepare your wife that something is coming; the bun has to be soft, right, and if it's butter, that’s even nicer, with a little bit of seasoning on top of it!
So brothers and sisters, you know we talked about many things, but you know I really believe our Blessing comes from God. I think that's the most important point you know. Our Blessing, we have to hold on to it, and center on God, and whenever you struggle, go back to the Scripture and what the Scripture told you. We have to respect our husband unconditionally, and the husband loves his wife unconditionally.
And handsome husband, it's your turn to close it!
Rev. Hyung Jin Sean Moon
Amen! Thank you Umma! Let’s give her a big round of applause, everybody! We want to start the Holy Wine Ceremony so please, attendants, can you prepare the Holy Wine now? Let's prepare the Holy Wine now.
And you know one thing that is so important is, as husband and wife to pray together. Please pray together! When you're going through stuff, and you can't work it out, we’re the priest of the household, men; we go to our wife and say, “Honey, let's pray about this! We can't seem to break through, we can't seem to communicate” or, “You can't understand what I'm saying, I can’t understand you. Let's pray about it! Let's pray together!” Bring God in! This is God's Covenant! Amen! This is God's marriage! Lead your wife to prayer, right; stand in prayer with her. Stand in prayer with her, you will see a tremendous shift; a tremendous shift in the spirit. Yes can we pray? Having prayer in our life is so important!
We're going to, now take the Holy Wine. I'm going to have the attendants come down. Let's prepare the Holy Wine Ceremony, please attendants; they will help you with the Holy Wine and everything else.
What a beautiful day! Let's give our couples one more time a great round of applause as they stand now and prepare for the Covenant. Amen! Amen! Give your spouse a hug, guys; give your spouse a hug! Tell them, “We are one in God!” Amen!
Please bring the Holy Wine; let's have the couples take the Holy Wine! The Holy Wine is the transferring of our blood lineage, the lineage that was lost at the Fall of man, when the children of God became the children of the devil, of Satan. So, the Holy Wine represents the blood of Christ, to engraft us back onto the blood of Christ, so that the blood of Christ is not only covering you, but the blood of Christ is within you; the blood of Christ, which is what? It is the blood of God; it is the lineage of God. And that is what we become as we take the Holy Wine!
Holy Wine Ceremony:
So, please take the Holy Wine in your hands now. Please face each other. The wife will have half of the cup. If you're alone and you have your wife there in the spirit with you, or she's participating from a different country, the husband will take half on her behalf, first in that position. So the wife now may proceed to take half of the Holy Wine please.
Praise God! Let's give them a big round of applause everybody! Come on; let's give God some praise! Now please transfer the cup to your husband; give it to him now, and the husband will take the rest of the Holy Wine, the blood of Christ, the blood of Christ! Amen and Aju! Amen!
Let's give God some praise everybody! Let's give Him some praise! Whoo! Soon we will begin the Blessing. God bless you! God bless you! Beautiful! Beautiful!