One of the defining traits of being human is the ability to feel shame, especially when a personal trait or action is suddenly placed under the spotlight. At our core, we fear being judged by others and worry about how they perceive us.

Social anxiety often stems from self-consciousness, which can create discomfort and manifest in various ways—shyness, difficulty connecting with others, or overwhelming anxiety in social settings. But what causes self-consciousness in the first place?

Often, it's the result of entering a new environment without proper (psychological or self) preparation—whether it’s the first day of school, a first date where you’re significantly overdressed, or a house party to which your social glue is yet to be present .

But let’s shift perspectives for a moment. The things we overanalyse and stress over are often seen very differently by others. That sparkly skirt you worry is "too much" might actually be a statement piece that someone admires. Your partner might find your weird laugh endearing. And chances are, no one has even noticed that pimple you’re fixating on.

In the end, it’s all about perspective. While we may be overly critical of ourselves, others might not see any flaws at all—in fact, they might even see something admirable instead.