Recovery is the process of taking something broken and making it whole again.
As a parent, we are to be providing training in the truth so that our children can learn obedience.
When our child acts out in defiance of our direction and instruction this is a break in the relationship between child and parent.
There is a process of recovery.
Defiance is generally a rejection of the parent's role as the child's authority.
The first step in response is for the parent to stop activity and any distractions and take a moment with the child of reflection on their behavior. We should ask the question, "what did you do?"
Speak to the child and recall the truth of what you have taught them. This may include recalling previous instruction and truth from scripture.
Recognition of the truth by the child is important that they acknowledge the truth and we should check for understanding so they cannot be or claim ignorance.
Repentance by the child is the recognition and acknowledgement of what they have done is wrong. This requires them to look directly in your eyes and acknowledge that they committed the offence.
If they won't acknowledge what they have done is wrong, then the discipline may require restricting their being involved in free social interaction (time out), or may if the behavior is boldly defiant, require corporal punishment (thoughtful, calm correction, not reactive) to bring them to repentance.
Once they demonstrate repentance, then they can be asked to seek restoration. This includes saying they are sorry to the person offended for the specific offence they did and asking for forgiveness.
And with the offended person providing forgiveness, then this is the final step in recovery and restoration of the relationship.
Now in the midst of busy life we cannot always be this reflective and take this time, but we should seek to do this as often as possible when conflicts come to reinforce obedience. You will find that when you do this at times at home, it makes conflicts in public be resolved more expediently.
The goal is not perfection here but teaching your children the pattern of recognizing their behavior that hurts others (which is sin,) repenting, and recoverying relationships.