Intimacy comes as I go from knowing about someone, to knowing how they feel about things in their life, and with the Lord.
Intimacy with God
The first relationship for me to learn about intimacy is with God. As I read scripture, and ask the Holy Spirit to teach me, I learn about what God has done, and what he has said about it, and so I need to continually ask....how does this make God feel?
Only as I gain understanding of how he feels - his deep hatred of sin, because it hurts me and alienates me from Him, his deep passion for the lost, and his great love for me, will I be able to start to have Intimacy with others.
Intimacy with your wife
Intimacy with others