ICE BREAKER : Getting to know you - Each person must answer the following questions one by one; What’s your name, your favorite color, favourite car, video game, movie & food? After this we use a ball to play a game. It’s a simple game of close up catch but when you throw the ball you say (for example) your name and the name of the person you’re throwing to. If you stuff it up (either by a bad throw, dropped ball or mixed up their sentence) you do 5 push-ups. Once this becomes easy you can change it up and instead use any of the answers above such as, favourite movies (so while throwing you’d say your favourite movie and theirs) or favorite car. This builds a good sense of togetherness while expressing individuality and leads perfectly into the discussion of significance.

• What does significance mean? Rare, one of a kind, unique

• Everyone here has a different collection of names, interests, gifts and strengths (as the above Icebreaker shows us).

• Watch this YouTube clip.

• You are significant because there is no one else like you in all the world - you’re unique - and that means only you can give to the world what you are uniquely gifted to do. Some will invent new technology, while some will cure people and or help people. All gifts and interests are important (significant) and the world can’t do this without you.

• Embrace who you are - your uniqueness makes you special and therefore significant to this world.

FRIENDSHIPS

• Your significance is the reason you should choose good friends because they will influence whether or not you will fully realise your potential and will encourage you to be the best YOU, you can be.

• Saying “One rotten apple spoils the barrel.” Meaning - One bad influence can ruin what would otherwise remain good.

• ILLUSTRATIVE GAME : 3 legged race - The significance of good partners (friends) in life. Choose friends who will influence/help you go in the right direction and become the best YOU, you can be.

• ILLUSTRATIVE GAME : Planking - see who can do it for the longest and use a timer to help them set goals to help them endure. Watch carefully who gives up and who perseveres. Game Illustrates resilience really well - we need resilience to succeed in life and to overcome the difficulties that are sure to come with it. Resilience against struggle and pain to win is a lesson we need to apply in all areas of life. (Friendships, obeying parents and teachers when we don’t feel like it, owning up to mistakes - people who can never see when they're in the wrong, finishing uni, achieving time frames in future job, training to be the best athlete in a particular sphere of sport)

• What does resilience mean? “The quality of being able to withstand adversity and overcome it.”

• What’s adversity? Trial, opposition, hardship.

• Activity : Chopstick M&M game do this activity with a slight difference. Do the challenge till you have moved all the m&ms across. You can time yourself and see how long it took you. Discuss the activity with someone and the resilience required. What did you observe about yourself? Was it difficult or not?

• Where have you been and not been resilient?

• Life can get tough, people can run you down, and you can fail or not measure up. But you must decide to overcome and not be overcome by it.

• Resilience is an internal battle - to overcome both external and internal adversities (winning a rugby game, being bullied & completing assignments - confidence, fear & doubt)

• Resilience helps us achieve and overcome things we once thought impossible to overcome. Can you think of any movie examples where people display resilience? : Rocky 4 (facing drago - the perfect fighter), Spiderman homecoming (facing the situation and digging deep - the, crushed by concrete scene).

Watch: Rocky Speech

What are your thoughts about this speech? How does it relate to you?

Illustration -Watch : Bear Grylls' story

HOW WE MEET THE STORMS OF LIFE WILL DETERMINE THE EFFECT THEY HAVE ON US

• ILLUSTRATION : Balloon Pop - This will require a red balloon and a blue balloon. Very simply, the red balloon represents an unhealthy response to anger, while the blue represents a healthy response to anger. The red balloon is blown up to the point of it bursting, illustrating what happens when we don’t control or deal with our anger effectively before the point of eruption. There’s a mess on the ground (bits and pieces of balloon everywhere) and there's been some serious damage done to the balloon.

  • • What are some examples of dealing with anger the wrong way? (Screaming and yelling, violence towards self and others, sulking, manipulation, controlling others, bullying, emotional blackmail, etc)

• The blue balloon is blown up to a certain level and then the air is released back down again so that the balloon returns to its original state. This Illustrates what happens when we control and deal with our anger effectively. We’re intact, stable and got it together.

  • • What are some examples of dealing with anger the right way? (Taking deep breaths, walking away, exercising, running, kicking a ball, drawing, etc)

    • We have the choice to control our anger and are capable of doing so.

• Who likes being controlled? (no one does)

• Are you controlled by your anger? Can you control your anger? How?

• What are some effective ways you can control anger?

• Responding and not Reacting - ‘Who’s the real strong man?’ Illustration.

• Anger is natural, Violence is not.

What defines a man? - Explore difference between a male and a man.

Should men use their strength to serve others? How?

• ILLUSTRATIVE GAME : Team Hula Hoop Race - Team has to stand in a line, holding hands, with one person at the start holding a hula hoop. They have to figure out how to keep hands linked and pass through the hula hoop together and be timed doing it. Lesson : When there is no respect for one another, there’s disorder and chaos. When people respect one another, they can work together and achieve more together.

• What makes someone worthy of respect in your opinion? Why?

• Do you think you have respect? What are you respected for?

• Should we respect others even if they’re disrespectful to us and/or to others? Why?/Why not?

• When should you stop respecting someone? (answer : never - all people deserve respect no matter how different they are)

• Define ‘Courage’ : The quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty; bravery.

• Define ‘Conviction’ : A fixed or firm, strong belief.

• SCENARIO : Say there’s a person in your grade everyone picks on because they’re a bit strange or they do things that annoy everyone. When people start picking on that person, do you join in or watch it happen? We need to be the kind of people that don’t do either but instead stand up for respect in our school and in life.

• Having the courage to not do what everyone else is doing but to stand up for respecting others.

• How should girls be treated by men? (Refer to or reuse last week’s question - “Should men use their strength to serve others?” Why?)

• What is okay and not okay?

THINGS NOT OKAY

• Teasing

• Emailing

• Swearing

• Physically assaulting them

Do you treat girls with respect? How can you improve?

• ILLUSTRATIVE GAME : Risk Taking Game - This game will require some white masking tape, a permanent marker, a basket and 3 paper balls. Place the basket on one end of the area you’re playing on. Place a strip of white masking tape a meter from the basket and then place 4 more, each of them a foot away from the last, until there’s 5 lines marked out, each going further and further away from the basket. Each line represents a different place a player can throw the paper balls from so that it may land in the basket. Mark, with a permanent marker, on each line the number of points a person gets for getting a paper ball into the basket, throwing from that line. The points should get higher as they throw from further away from the basket. Each team member gets three shots. They may choose which line they throw from at any time during their three shots. The game focuses on both goal setting & risk. Goals because there is a goal; to get the most points. Risks because there's risk involved; The closer you are to the basket, the lower the points if you get it in and the lower the risk of failure but you also risk losing because of a lack of points. The further away you are from the basket, the higher the points if you get it in, but the risk of missing is higher too. The choice of which risk to take is on each team and each team member. From this game we will launch the discussion…

GOAL SETTING

• What is the point in having goals? Goals drive us towards our vision/dreams for the future. They’re stepping stones and guide points towards the future

• Goals aren’t unattainable without hard work and courage - Arnie Schwarzenegger - had goal to be (1) Mr. Universe, (2) A Successful Movie Star, (3) A politician - He achieved all three goals but it took him some hard work and courage to not only set them but to go out and achieve them.

RISK TAKING

• Are risks good or bad? (Answer : Risks can be both depending on what they are)

• What are some examples of healthy risk taking? What are the consequences of them? Can the outcome of this type of risk impact others negatively?

• What are some examples of unhealthy risk taking? What are the consequences of them? Can the outcome of this type of risk impact others positively?

• Why do we need to take risks?

• What are the consequences of not taking risks in life?

• ILLUSTRATION : A race car track has boundaries to protect the driver and the crowd. What boundaries can you put in place to ensure your risk taking protects you and other people? (asking; “Is it safe?”, “Will this have a negative outcome?”, “Does this go against my morals and beliefs?”)

• Use game illustration above to illustrate how risks help us achieve these goals, and how some goals may be impossible to achieve without risk (going to uni, starting up a business, trying out/investing time into a sport to make it to the big leagues, getting an apprenticeship, giving it a go, etc - all are risks - choose examples that suit grade 5).