Patterns of Recovery from Codependence

Awareness Patterns

I am able to identify what I am feeling.
I value, respect, and accept how I truly feel.
I perceive myself as appropriately selfish, and dedicated to my own well-being.
I have empathy for the feelings and needs of others.
I accept my negative traits, and avoid projecting them onto others.
I take care of myself with the help of others.
I express my pain in various healthy ways.
I express negativity and anger in active and direct ways.
I recognize unavailable individuals, and do not act on attraction I may feel toward them.

I am able to make decisions.
I evaluate what I think, say, and do compassionately, as good enough.
I am grateful to receive recognition, praise, or gifts.
I value self-approval of my thinking, feelings, and behavior over the approval of others.
I perceive myself as a loveable and worthwhile person.
I seek recognition when appropriate.
I am able to admit when I make a mistake.
It doesn’t matter whether I appear to be right or wrong in the eyes of others, and I tell the truth regardless of how it may make me look.
I am able to ask others to meet my needs and desires.
I perceive myself as equal to others.
I look to my Higher Power and my self to provide my sense of safety.
I am able to get started, meet deadlines, and complete projects.
I am able to set healthy priorities.

I am loyal, but also willing to remove myself from harmful situations and relationships.
I uphold my own values and integrity, despite rejection or anger from others.
I balance honoring my own interests with respecting what others want.
I am aware of the feelings of others while having my own separate feelings.
I express my beliefs, opinions, and feelings, even when they differ from those of others.
When I want love I accept no substitutes.
I make decisions with regard to the consequences.
I uphold my truth regardless of the approval of others, or if it will cause change

I believe most people are capable of taking care of themselves.
I accept what others think, do, and feel.
I offer advice or directions only when asked.
I am accepting when others decline my help or reject my advice.
I give gifts and perform favors without ulterior motives.
I use sexual attention in healthy and appropriate ways.
People want to be in a relationship with me simply because of who I am.
I ask if others can meet my needs.
I show others that I am caring and compassionate in sincere ways.
I use respect and care to emotionally honor others.
I am able to cooperate, compromise, and negotiate.
I adopt an attitude of surrender to help me accept outcomes.
I use terms of recovery appropriately when interacting with others.
I agree or disagree with others authentically, regardless of my will for the outcome.

I act in ways that invite others to accept, respect, and express positivity toward me.
I evaluate what others think, say, and do compassionately.
I engage in emotional, physical, or sexual intimacy appropriately, as a means of enhancing my relationships.
I allow my recovery from my addiction(s) to help me focus on achieving intimacy in relationships.
I use direct and straightforward communication to assist with conflicts or confrontations.
I enhance my capacity to have healthy relationships by being willing to use all the tools of recovery.
I express my feelings and needs, even if doing so will lead to feeling vulnerable.
I am able to maintain a balance between closeness and separateness in my relationships.
I turn over my self-will and surrender to a power greater than myself.
I believe displays of emotion are a sign of strength.
I am able to engage in expressions of appreciation.