Leader Guide

2nd Tuesday

Welcome to the Tuesday Evening Women’s CODA Group. This meeting is open to all who identify as women.  

I’m ________ and I am your leader for today. 

Before we begin our regular CODA meeting our meeting host will post a link to our readings and will go over Safe Space Guidelines and resources for using Zoom.

[ host goes over puts links to the readings in the chat, Safe Space Guidelines, and Zoom info ]

Will those who care to please join me in the Serenity Prayer.

[ Serenity Prayer ]

Will a volunteer please read the Preamble?

Will a volunteer please read the Welcome?

We request that you keep your video turned on for the majority of the meeting to help maintain an atmosphere of safety, trust, and support. If there is some reason that you cannot turn on your video for the majority of the meeting please let us know during introductions. 

We’ll now go around the room and introduce our selves  by first names only. You have the option to say in 1 or 2 words how you are feeling currently. There will be an opportunity to share more fully later in the meeting. 

My name is _____________ and I am co-dependent.  I am feeling ____________.

[ Introductions ]

Will a volunteer please read the 12 Steps?

Will a volunteer please read the 12 Traditions?

Will a volunteer please read the first section of the Patterns of Codepency?

[ Ask for a volunteer to reach each subsequent section of the Patterns of Co-Dependency ]

I will now turn the meeting over to our Secretary __________.

[ Secretary’s report ]

[ Back to Leader ]

We are about to lock the meeting please copy the host contact from the chat in case you get disconnected 

[ host locks meeting ]

On the 2nd Tuesday of the month we set aside the last part of the meeting for our business meeting.

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In a few minutes, the meeting will be open for individual sharing.  As a reminder, we request that you keep your video turned on for the majority of the meeting to help maintain an atmosphere of safety, trust, and support. 

The last 5 minutes of sharing will be reserved for newcomers and people who have questions about this meeting or about the CODA program. However,  newcomers may share at any time during normal sharing if they wish to do so. 

Will a volunteer please read the Guidelines for Sharing?

To respect our guidelines around crosstalk, our meeting host will disable the chat feature during sharing. 

[meeting host disables chat]

Please limit your sharing to 5 minutes to allow for everyone to share.  

[ host pastes link to Readings & Resources ]

To share, just start speaking when the last person who shared is done. Who would like to start?

[ Sharing ]

[General sharing ends: 8:05 PST]

The last 5 minutes of sharing are reserved for newcomers and people who have questions about this meeting or about the CODA program. Are there any newcomers who would like to share or questions about this meeting or about the CODA program?

[ newcomer share / questions about program ]

[ if no newcomer share or questions about program ]

That’s all the time we have for sharing.  Our meeting host will now re-enable chat. 

[meeting host re-enables chat]

Our 7th tradition states that every Coda group should be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. The contributions collected in this meeting go towards covering the cost of our $18/month Zoom meeting account.  

If you would like to pay over Venmo our treasurer has posted a link in the chat. 

Our meeting host will again post a link to our Readings in the chat. 

[ host posts link in the chat ]

Will a volunteer please read the first section of the Recovery Patterns? 

Will a volunteer please read the Milestones in Recovery? 

As we bring this meeting to a close, I would like to remind you that CoDA is an anonymous program. We ask that you respect the anonymity and confidentiality of each person in this meeting. We ask that “what you see here, what is said here, when you leave here, let it stay here." 

[ here here ]

I invite each person please speak an affirmation of their choice. There are links to affirmations in the Readings & Resources page or you can make up one of your own. 

[ Affirmations ]

Will a volunteer please read the Promises?

It’s now time for our business meeting. 

[ Secretary leads business meeting. Business meeting lasts until approx. 1:25 ]

That’s all the time we have for our business meeting. 

We will now have a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer.