Self examination behind desire

A lot of self destructive behavior comes from not acknowledging why one feels needs and wants. It's not the desire itself that is the root cause of the behavior that is ultimately destructive it is the identification of that part of the self that is unacknowledged that is the root cause of the desire. The only way to permanently change the self in such a way that the behavior is altered is to look at the desire and then look behind it at the self.

If you tell yourself that feeling such as you do is not wrong, allow yourself to feel it, but, but ask yourself, is who and what you are behind that desire who you really are? Who you want to be? The heart felt answer will leave you more satisfied, happier and at peace than you were before.

If you do not look hard at the desire and what's behind it, you might feel yourself spiraling out of control, weak, and anxious. This will lead you to anger and self loathing and cause all sorts of exacerbated effects not in your best interest. It is easy to confuse the emotion brought by desire and what's behind that desire. It is not an easy one step process. It is an ongoing continual ever evolving step by step process that grows with you. Once you have all this clear in your mind, you wil come to understand that your emotions do not have to rule you. That who you are behind the discomfort can be expressed in ways more in line with who you really are.