Look To This Day - Kalidasa
Look to this day:
For it is life, the very life of life.
In its brief course
Lie all the verities and realities of your existence.
The bliss of growth,
The glory of action,
The splendour of achievement
Are but experiences of time.
For yesterday is but a dream
And tomorrow is only a vision;
And today well-lived, makes
Yesterday a dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well therefore to this day;
Such is the salutation to the ever-new dawn!
Making Friends
Start with a compliment because a compliment is a non-awkward way to start a conversation.
Start first, text, email, or call first. Give your contact information to people. Initiate the contact.
Give it a year of putting yourself out there.
If they don't text back or call back, let it be. Don't get upset or take it personally. Sometimes it says more about them then it says about you.
Find your tribe. Put yourself out there in activities with people who have more in common with you.
It takes about 3 or more casual interactions to create a friendship.
Friendships come and go and all have 3 things in common: proximity, timing, and energy.
Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels Impossible & What to Do About It - Mel Robbins
Create a third place. Learn the Art of Conversation and Persuasion | Art of Charm AJ Harbinger
It's not always you, sometimes it is them.
Shyness is being overly concerned with your own thoughts and how you think people perceive you.
Social Skills
Conversations follow a question, response, comment on response.
Don't interview.
Ask questions about them.
Let them have airtime.
Don't brag
Make eye-contact but remember to blink.
Don't focus on the next thing you plan to say while they are talking.
Don't talk too much.
Remember their name.
Start off with a compliment or comment on the situation.
Avoid fan-tom.
Executive Functioning Skills
Systems don't work if you don't use them.
One size does not fit all.
Use your phone apps because you always have your phone with you. - speech to text, google docs/Word, read web pages, read books, youtube videos quick way to learn, to-do list app, calendar
Use a timer
Use alarms
It is hard to schoolwork after 7, your brain shuts down. Use your personal clock and plans things around your productive time.
Sugar and caffeine can make it tough to concentrate.
Not socially acceptable to have a phone in your hand, but you can write in a notebook.
When in boring situations, use that time to plan or multi-task.
You can accomplish anything if you take 15 minutes a day.
You learn better if you do something everyday for a period of time rather than spend a couple of days studying for hours.
Acknowledge when organizational systems are taking too much time.
Staying organized is important but for many people, just having less stuff to do or less stuff to organize is best.
Keeping everything together is best.
User airtags.
Outsource when you can.
Write for 15 minutes a day for long writing assignments and write a soliloquy.
Note Taking
Note taking can be tough.
Start with questions in your mind and try to answer them.
Create your own short-hand notation.
Use electronics whenever possible to keep track of notes.
Read through your notes every night and you will memorize the material. This will prevent you from having to study before a test.
Write notes to help you look like you are paying attention.
In college, you can write in your books. Underline using a pencil or pen, don't use highlighters because they don't really do anything.
Notes don't mean anything if you don't ever look at them again.
When teachers lecture, they are lecturing on topics that are most important to them. Knowing what is most important to them will tell you what is on the test.
Time Management
Meditation
Goal Setting
Money Management/Financial Literacy
Communication Skills
Organization Skills
Stress Management
Public Speaking
Emotional Regulation