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Positive relationship habits: Interact positively with 3 people, Compliment someone's wardrobe or performance, Give a deposit into a Relationship Bank, Share a link to an interesting article, Schedule a time to catch up with an old friend, Commit to leaving work (or turning off your laptop) before 6pm to be home (and present) for dinner, Buy your partner fresh flowers (or a small, thoughtful token of your appreciation) every two weeks.
No significant learning comes without a significant relationship.
Relationships define everything.
Rich relationships occur when our vibrations are very highly in sync. I hope these messages land on fertile soil.
Be in relationships with highly supportive people and be highly supportive in your relationships.
Support good relationships and money will follow.
Duality - every pancake has two sides.
Assertive is better than passive aggressive.
Good fences make good neighbors.
Say "no" to bad relationships.
With regards to cheating or lying – it’s too difficult to play in multiple worlds, so the solution is to behave the same way in both worlds and all worlds. Always be honest and truthful. Trust your character because character is fate.
How can you make your character as attractive as possible in all worlds? Give love. Help people. Express empathy.
Meet your partner at the 50 yard line. In romantic relationships and business partnerships, it is imperative that you clearly define and articulate where the 50 yard line is. The healthiest of relationships consist of two partners who meet at their respective 49 yard lines and shake hands across the 50 yard line. If you find yourself in a relationship where you are doing 80% or 90% of the effort, then it is time to re-evaluate if this person deserves to be in your life.
Invest time in our relationships.
Make time to give love, laughter, and abundance to those closest to you.
It's better to be kind than right.
Bad relationships are like eating greasy, fattening food. They're not good for you and can detract from your momentum in the multiple Pillars of Life.
When you screw up a relationship, ask yourself:
What part did I play in fucking this up?
Can I identify patterns to inform future decision making (i.e., slow may be better than fast)?
How did I self-sabotage? Are there any Upper Limit Problems involved?
What are my character flaws in play?
How can I make this better?
Proper apologies have three parts:
What I did was wrong.
I feel badly that I hurt you.
How do I make this better?
Ladder Theory is the single best resource to understand men and women when it comes to dating and romantic relationships.
A writer who directs his own work has an idiot for a partner.
Idea/vision person + Editor/refiner person = Successfully balanced relationship
I want you to hear that as a "yes"
Believe and trust in one another to achieve shared goals.
Every time you point a finger, there are 3 more fingers pointing back at you.
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
People who come for a reason are there right when you need them.
People who come for a season are there for a few months or a few years at different stages of life.
People who come for a lifetime are always there with us along the journey.
When you can understand and accept past relationships for what they were, when they were, then you can forgive (yourself and others) and remember to savor the special moments together.
Articles
How to Become Insanely Well Connected
How Not to Be a Networking Leech - Tips for Seeking Professional Advice - The New York Times.pdf
Book Reports
MI Book Report - Crucial Conversations - Tips for Talking When Stakes Are High.pdf
How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes
Get the audiobook and listen to 5-20 minutes of it on your way to a networking event at least once a month. You can get your mind into a growth mindset before the networking event and prepare to test 2-3 new networking and relationship building techniques on 3 new friends at the event. Below is the book summary with quick reference notes on the 92 ways.
Goal: 1 networking event each week + 3 new business cards each event = 150+ new friends each year for life
Outcome: ~10% of those new friends provide tremendous value to me, my businesses, my network, or my community several years later. There's no way to predict who is going to come through, so you must cast a wide net.
For example, I met Mary Ellen O'Sullivan (MEOS) at Tech.co's 2015 Celebrate Conference in Las Vegas, NV. She taught me and Forman about the 5x7 Rule.
5 Interactions in the first 7 Weeks = 99% chance you have a friend for life
Interaction #1 = When you meet someone at an event (and exchange contact info)
Interaction #2 = Follow up email within 48 hours. If you get a person's phone number, it is mutually beneficial to text them immeidately with a short message about where you met and what your name is. For example, "Hi it's Mike Malloy. It was great to meet you at WeWork tonight." This immediate message means they receive your contact info. When you follow up for Interaction #3 in 2 days or 2 weeks, the person will see the previous message with your name and remember the meeting location.
Interaction #3 = Send a link to something you found on the internet that reminded you about this person and your initial conversation together. You can include a simple message: "Hey new friend, I saw this link and thought of you: LINK Cheers, Mike"
Interaction #4 = Invite them to go to an upcoming event.
Interaction #5 = Dinner, drinks, coffee chat, lunch, breakfast, phone call, or any combination of 5 Interactions in 7 Weeks to follow the 5x7 Rule.
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