Nonviolent Communication

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This blog was first published on Seats2Meet's online platform Mindz in Dutch.  This blog was written in 2014/2015 after I followed a course about non-voilent communication based on the book: 'Geweldloze communicatie' by Marshall Rosenberg.

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Nonvoilent Communication

Nonviolent communication (Geweldloze communicatie) focuses both on internal communication with myselfself and communication with others. I learnt to get to the core by asking questions and naming the needs of others and myself. What others are concerned, it is in the early stages a guess at the needs and feelings of others, which is a way of showing a form of empathy. Only after confirming that it is correct, I can name them.

Quote Marshall Rosenberg

Marshall Rosenberg (its creator) calls it a way of communicating from the heart:

“We learn to see our relationships in a new light when we use nonviolent communication to listen to our needs and those of our relationships”.

Nonviolent Communication In Practice

These lessons grabbed me by the throat and put my needs flawlessly in communication with others and exposing myself. I recognized myself in behavior patterns defend and retreat when I was faced with condemnations and criticism. And these patterns I can break with nonviolent communication. And if I practice a lot, I can make it a habit. It’s nice that I can make this type of communication my own. It does take time, but then I have something valuable! Practice, practice not only in role-playing games, but also in real life. It is learning by trial and error.

The 5 Elements of Nonviolent Communication Of Marshall Rosenberg

These Five elements are important in nonvoilent communication:

It is important that I clearly express myself and immerse myself in the other by using the above mentioned 5 items. Sometimes someone is not waiting for advice or reassurance, but only a listening ear then nonviolence communication is the way to communicate. Society calls this empathy. Just be there and reflect on what the other says. The person then feels understood and that alone helps incredibly for someone to collect his or her thoughts. Also of interest is daring to be vulnerable. And to distinguish between feelings and thoughts. It is a way of freeing myself from cultural conditioning. There are probable more communication methods that have eyes for nonviolent communication, but this one came along and spoke to me and deserved a blog. It’s a long way to change my method of communication, have mercy on me if I fall again into old patterns:-). An other communication method I like and wrote a blog about is the Jump method.