My goal for respect is to say kind compliments to everyone. 

Others will know that I am actually accomplishing my goal because I have complemented them.

The difference these actions  will make is making people's day. 

I will do the right thing when nobody is looking.

Doing the right thing.

My goal for effort is to always try my hardest. 

Others will know I'm actually doing it when they see me trying my hardest.

My goal for refinement is to look back on my work.   

Taking longer on my work. That means I'm refining. 

The difference it will make is getting better grades.