For example, if students are constantly forgetting to bring their homework to class then let the ones that remembered it use it on a quiz to show the other students that it pays off if you are responsible.

I use this one a lot for KCLC right now in dire situations if I need a student to do something, but they aren't wanting to. I give them the options that they have instead of telling them to do one. This makes them feel like they are in control when they really might not be. For example, I would say to a student who is refusing to leave a classroom "You have two options right now, you can either walk out with me or I can go and get Mrs. Morris (like the principle for our KCLC) and she can come and get you." Usually this gets them up and going!

By encouraging them to want to solve their own problems and take accountability for their actions, we are, at the same time, teaching them responsibility and should make sure that tehy know that it comes in many different forms. 

We need to make sure that our students understand our expectations and boundaries from the beginning of class and if they show us that they do not understand them, we have to remain calm even though it may be very frustrating. Kids love to get a reaction out of adults and know how to manipulate that to their own benefits so by remaining calm, we eliminate the power struggle. 

In addition to everything listed above, we need to make sure that we are still being empathetic with our students before giving consequences. They need to understand (especially the littles) that how they are feeling is normal and that it is okay to feel that way, but it is not okay to break the rules and to not listen. Before we give any consequences, it is important to say something like "It's okay to feel that way, but..." or "I'm sorry that you feel that way, but..." and then reiterate your expectations or boundaries that you have set.