Here is our 1-day intensive course on Values, Value Elicitation, and Values-Based Transformation, a practical coaching workshop. It blends NLP-style elicitation, ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy), and leadership coaching principles so it’s usable for both personal transformation and client work.

1-Day Course: Values-Based Transformation

From unconscious behaviour → conscious alignment

Outcome of the training

By the end, participants will:

• Know their core values hierarchy (top 5)

• Understand how values drive behaviour, emotion, and identity

• Identify values conflicts causing stress or sabotage

• Learn how to use values to make decisions, set goals, and change habits

• Leave with a Values-Based Life Plan

MODULE 1 — What Are Values 

Core Teaching

Values are:

• Deep emotional drivers of behaviour

• Filters for decision-making

• The answer to: “What is most important to me in this moment?”

Key Insight

People don’t lack discipline — they are following a different value hierarchy than they think they are

Example:

• “Health is important” (stated value)

• But behaviour shows: comfort, pleasure, avoidance (real values in action)

Exercise 1: “Values Awareness Scan”

Ask participants to write:

1. What frustrates me most in life right now?

2. What energises me?

3. What do I judge other people for?

4. What do I spend money on consistently?

👉 Then extract hidden values:

• Frustration = violated values

• Energy = fulfilled values

• Judgement = projected values

• Spending = revealed values

MODULE 2 — Values Elicitation 

Coaching Principle

We don’t “choose” values first — we uncover them through behaviour and emotion patterns

Exercise 2: Peak Experience Elicitation (NLP style)

Ask:

“Think of a moment when you felt fully alive, proud, or deeply fulfilled.”

Then explore:

• What specifically was happening?

• Who was there?

• What were you expressing or doing?

• What mattered most in that moment?

👉 Extract 3–5 values from language patterns:
Common examples:

• Freedom

• Growth

• Contribution

• Recognition

• Love

• Integrity

• Power

• Security

Exercise 3: Pain Pattern Elicitation

Ask:

“Think of a recent moment of stress, anger, or disappointment.”

Then explore:

• What should have happened?

• What was missing?

• What felt violated?

👉 This reveals blocked or unmet values

Example:

• Anger → respect / fairness violated

• Anxiety → security / certainty missing

MODULE 3 — Values Hierarchy 

Core Teaching

Values are not equal — they form a hierarchy

When values conflict, the higher value always wins behaviour

Example:

• “Health” vs “Comfort”

• “Wealth” vs “Security”

• “Love” vs “Freedom”

Exercise 4: Forced Choice Ranking

Give participants 10–15 values.

They must repeatedly choose:

“If you could only keep ONE, which would you keep?”

Then repeat until top 5 remain.

Final output:

• Top 5 Core Values

• Ranked hierarchy (1–5)

Reflection:

• Are my current life choices aligned with this hierarchy?

• Where am I living someone else’s values?

MODULE 4 — Values Conflicts & Self-Sabotage 

Core Teaching

Most “self-sabotage” = values conflict

Examples:

• Growth vs Safety → procrastination

• Freedom vs Commitment → relationship instability

• Achievement vs Rest → burnout

Exercise 5: Conflict Mapping

Participants fill:

Situation

Behaviour

Competing Values

Procrastination

Avoid task

Comfort vs Achievement

Overworking

Burnout

Success vs Health

Then ask:

“Which value is currently winning your behaviour?”

Breakthrough Insight

You don’t remove a value — you reorganise hierarchy or find integration

MODULE 5 — Rewiring Behaviour Through Values 

Core Teaching

Real change happens when:

Behaviour becomes the fastest route to fulfilling a higher value

Exercise 6: Reframing Behaviour

Pick one negative habit.

Then ask:

• What value is this behaviour trying to satisfy?

• How else can I satisfy that value in a healthier way?

Example:

• Overeating → comfort

• Alternative: rest, connection, relaxation rituals

Exercise 7: “If I lived my top 3 values fully…”

Write:

• What would my day look like?

• What would I stop doing?

• What would I start doing?

MODULE 6 — Decision-Making Using Values 

Tool: Values Filter Framework

For any decision ask:

1. Does this align with my top 3 values?

2. Does it strengthen or weaken my identity?

3. What value does this choice serve long-term?

Exercise 8: Real-Life Decision Simulation

Give participants 3 decisions:

• Career move

• Relationship issue

• Financial choice

They must decide using only:

“Which option aligns most with my top values hierarchy?”

MODULE 7 — Integration: Values-Based Life Design 

Final Exercise: Values-Based Life Blueprint

Participants design:

1. Identity Statement

“I am someone who values ___, ___, ___”

2. Non-Negotiables

• What I will no longer tolerate

3. Daily Alignment Habits

• 3 behaviours that express top values daily

4. Warning Signals

• How I know I am out of alignment

Final Insight 

A fulfilled life is not about achieving more — it is about reducing the gap between your stated values and your lived behaviour.