The book teaches responsibility through awareness of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
Example: You notice you feel angry every time a coworker interrupts you. Instead of blaming them, you ask yourself why you react so strongly.
There are many universal laws, but seven are focused on here.
Example: You don't need to learn 100 laws—just mastering these seven can transform your life.
These laws help understand how emotions affect life, including alcohol and drug abuse.
Example: Someone drinks to numb shame from childhood; understanding the laws helps them address the root emotion.
Awareness is key: it is the moment with no past or future, before judgment.
Example: You stub your toe. In the first split second, there's just sensation—before you think "stupid table."
Humans have higher intelligence but struggle more than plants and animals to live in harmony.
Example: A tree doesn't worry about tomorrow; a human lies awake anxious about a meeting next week.
The problem is that humans react without thinking of consequences.
Example: You snap at your child when tired, then regret it hours later.
Living with awareness of just these seven laws can change your life dramatically.
Example: Someone who constantly feels victimized starts asking "What am I supposed to learn from this?" and their relationships improve.
Love and fear are the two most powerful emotions ruling our lives.
Example: You either stay in a job because you love it (love) or because you're afraid of being broke (fear).
Only in the present moment can we experience emotion.
Example: You can't feel joy tomorrow—you can only feel it right now, or remember feeling it.
Fear comes from re-living past pain or anticipating future anxiety.
Example: You were bitten by a dog at age 5; at age 30, your heart races when you see a dog, even though this one is friendly.
The choices we make (fear-based or love-based) determine our behavior and future.
Example: Deciding to ask someone on a date (love of connection) vs. staying home (fear of rejection) leads to completely different futures.
Awareness allows us to take control of fears and make loving choices.
Example: You notice you're about to cancel plans due to social anxiety, pause, and decide to go anyway.
True awareness happens in 1/674th of a second when conscious and subconscious meet.
Example: You see a spider—before you even think, your body has already reacted with a jolt.
The purpose of life is for spirit to experience itself as human.
Example: You came to Earth to learn what patience feels like, not just to know the definition.
We are here to discover our true selves and grow in the way of spirit.
Example: A successful lawyer quits to become an artist, realizing she was living her parents' dream, not her own.
The first part of this law: to create, experience, learn, and grow.
Example: You start a business, it fails, you learn about resilience, and you try again differently.
The second part: we are each given a unique gift to give to those who want it.
Example: Your gift is listening without judgment; a friend in crisis seeks you out because only you make them feel heard.
The third part: to be of service (not to be a servant).
Example: You volunteer at a shelter because you love helping animals, not because you feel obligated.
Two kinds of people: those who react and never learn, and those who grow from every experience.
Example: After a breakup, one person says "all men are trash" and repeats the pattern; another asks "what did I contribute to this?" and grows.
We have four aspects: Consciousness, Conscious Mind, Emotional Body, and Spirit.
Example: You are aware you're angry (consciousness), you think "this isn't worth it" (conscious mind), your body feels hot (emotional body), and a quiet part reminds you to breathe (spirit).
The emotional body connects human and spirit.
Example: Tears of joy at a wedding—your body is expressing what your spirit feels.
Spirit experiences joy, love, peace; the ego experiences anger, resentment, hate.
Example: When someone cuts you off in traffic, ego wants revenge; spirit says "let it go, they're struggling too."
Without the human ego, we could never learn and grow.
Example: Your ego's desire to be right causes an argument, which later teaches you the value of humility.
Growth happens when we recognize whether our reaction was human/ego or spirit-guided.
Example: After yelling at your partner, you reflect: "That was my ego feeling threatened. Next time I'll pause."
We live in three worlds: outer (people/places), inner (thoughts/emotions), and the real authentic self (spirit/love).
Example: Your outer world is a busy office, your inner world is anxiety, but your authentic self is calm beneath it all.
Our perception of the outer world is created from inner experiences.
Example: Two people see the same rainy day—one feels depressed, the other cozy. The difference is inside them.
Unawareness leads to inner chaos; awareness leads to creating change.
Example: You keep overspending. Unaware, you blame your salary. Aware, you realize you shop when lonely and find a healthier coping strategy.
Many people blame others and never take responsibility.
Example: "My boss made me angry" vs. "I chose to react with anger to my boss's comment."
Inner quiet wisdom exists, but we must go within to access it.
Example: You're confused about a decision. Sitting in silence for 10 minutes, an answer arises that logic couldn't provide.
We can only give love if we have experienced it in our inner world.
Example: Someone who was never shown affection as a child struggles to say "I love you" as an adult.
Love is first experienced in the mother's womb during the last 4 months.
Example: A fetus feels safe when mother speaks gently—this is the earliest template of love.
Loving yourself is the key to remembering real love.
Example: You forgive yourself for a mistake, and suddenly you're more forgiving of others too.
The brain is not the mind; it responds to thought.
Example: Thinking "I'm going to fail" triggers stress hormones in your brain, even if the thought isn't true.
The subconscious mind is in every cell of the body (50-100 trillion cells).
Example: Your stomach ties in knots before a presentation—your cells remember past public speaking fears.
Coordinating conscious and subconscious is a great secret of life.
Example: You consciously want to quit smoking, but your subconscious craves the relief. When you align them (e.g., replace with a healthier ritual), quitting becomes easy.
Beliefs come from childhood programming or suppressed trauma.
Example: You believe "I'm bad at math" because a teacher shamed you in third grade, not because it's true.
We learn from all emotions — joy, love, peace, as well as pain.
Example: A peaceful walk in nature teaches you just as much about life as a painful breakup does.
Your unique talent is something only you can express in your way.
Example: Many people can cook, but only you add that pinch of cinnamon that makes your grandmother's recipe special.
A smile can be a powerful gift.
Example: A cashier smiles at you on a day you're contemplating suicide, and something shifts.
Being of service comes from the heart; being a servant often comes from obligation.
Example: Caring for an aging parent because you love them (service) vs. because "I have to" (servant) feels completely different.
Anything not done in love manifests the opposite of love.
Example: You donate to charity to look good, not to help. You end up feeling empty and resentful.
The purpose of life ultimately is survival — balancing negative energy with positive.
Example: Every act of kindness you do adds a drop of positive energy to a world that's tipping toward negativity.
A thought is the start of everything created.
Example: The idea for the iPhone started as a single thought in Steve Jobs' mind.
A thought is only a possibility until activated by emotion.
Example: You think "I should exercise" 100 times. Nothing happens until you feel excited about getting stronger.
90% of our lives are spent thinking about the past or future (which don't exist).
Example: You spend your commute rehashing yesterday's argument and worrying about tomorrow's meeting, missing the sunrise right now.
You can change your life by changing your thoughts (changing your mind).
Example: You shift from "I'll never find a partner" to "I'm open to meeting someone," and your behavior changes, and then your life changes.
Each thought is followed 1/674th of a second later by an emotional reaction.
Example: You think "my boss hates me" and instantly feel a pit in your stomach before you can even question the thought.
The subconscious (50 trillion cells) only feels — it doesn't use logic.
Example: Logically you know a plane is safe, but your body still sweats and your heart races at takeoff.
To change behavior, get the subconscious to feel good about the new thought.
Example: Instead of "I have to stop eating sugar," try "I feel so clean and energetic when I eat fruit."
Using imagination, you can reprogram your subconscious (e.g., quitting sugar).
Example: The author imagined sugar damaging her organs. After two days, her hand couldn't lift the coffee cup to her mouth.
The most important thought you will ever have is the next one.
Example: You just had a negative thought. The next thought you choose will determine whether you spiral or recover.
Everything in your outer reality is an effect; the cause is a thought, then feeling, then action.
Example: Your cluttered house (effect) was caused by the thought "I'll clean later," the feeling of overwhelm, and the action of procrastinating.
Cause and effect + action/reaction + learning = Karma.
Example: You lied to a friend (cause), they stopped trusting you (effect), you learn honesty (lesson) — karma is complete.
Karma is a lesson learned; if not learned, it repeats.
Example: You keep attracting controlling partners until you learn to set boundaries.
The emotional attachment behind a thought is the driver of choices.
Example: You logically know you should save money, but the emotional comfort of buying something new drives you to spend.
Every cell holds memory of every experience and how you responded.
Example: Years after a car accident, your shoulders still tense up when you hear squealing tires.
Unconscious reactions can create dependence on substances or behaviors.
Example: You had a drink to relax after a hard day. Your cells remember the relief. Soon you need a drink every day.
By changing thoughts and feelings, you can change effects and consequences.
Example: You reframe "I'm failing" to "I'm learning," and your anxiety drops, so you perform better.
What you give out from the magnetic energy of your heart returns to you.
Example: You greet a neighbor warmly every day. One day your car breaks down, and they're the first to stop and help.
"What goes around comes around."
Example: You help a junior colleague learn a skill. Years later, their recommendation lands you a dream job.
Action is the result of choice (conscious or unconscious).
Example: You automatically reach for your phone when bored — that's an unconscious choice.
Even not acting is an action.
Example: You see someone being bullied and say nothing. Your inaction has consequences for that person.
Consequences teach responsibility.
Example: You forget to pay a bill and incur a late fee. Next month, you remember.
Real knowing comes only from experience, not concepts.
Example: You can read 100 books about grief, but you don't truly know it until you lose someone.
Every word spoken is an action affecting others.
Example: You tell your daughter she's "too sensitive." She carries that for 20 years.
Offering help with love means accepting rejection with love.
Example: You offer to help a struggling friend. They say no. You say "I respect that, let me know if that changes," without feeling offended.
Any action from your true essence creates good for all.
Example: You speak up at a meeting not to show off, but because the idea will genuinely help the team. Everyone benefits.
The universe is a magnetic field — like attracts like.
Example: When you're in a good mood, you notice friendly people and parking spots open up. When you're angry, everything seems to go wrong.
The heart's magnetic energy is 5000 times more powerful than the brain.
Example: You can logically know someone is bad for you, but your heart still pulls you toward them.
Love attracts love; fear and hate attract the same.
Example: A fearful person sees threats everywhere and finds them. A loving person sees kindness and finds it.
When you give love, you receive the knowledge of what love is.
Example: You care for a sick parent. Even if they don't thank you, you understand love on a deeper level.
Giving kindness makes you feel kind.
Example: You hold the door for a stranger. You feel a little warmer inside, regardless of their reaction.
Harmony within creates harmony without.
Example: When you're at peace with yourself, arguments with your partner decrease dramatically.
Sometimes you agreed to an experience before birth as part of learning.
Example: A woman with a difficult child wonders "why me?" — perhaps she chose to learn unconditional love.
Asking "What do I have to learn from this?" changes everything.
Example: You get laid off. Instead of despair, you ask the question, and realize you hated that job. You finally start your own business.
Fear creates more fear; your story can become your reality.
Example: You constantly tell yourself "I'm unlucky in love." Your fear makes you act distant, pushing people away, confirming your story.
Good works done for personal gain (e.g., getting into heaven) mean nothing.
Example: Donating to charity solely for a tax write-off leaves you empty; donating anonymously because you care fills you with joy.
You cannot leave anything behind until you love it.
Example: You can't stop being angry at your ex until you accept what happened and find gratitude for what the relationship taught you.
What you focus on stays; what you stop focusing on leaves.
Example: You obsess over a physical pain, and it intensifies. You get distracted by a movie, and you forget the pain exists.
Letting go of the past requires acknowledging and accepting it.
Example: "Yes, my father was abusive. That happened. Now I choose to move forward" — not "I'll pretend it never happened."
Holding onto anger only hurts you, not the other person.
Example: You're furious at someone who has no idea and is living happily. Your anger is a poison you drink, hoping they die.
90% of our internal pain is self-created by refusing to let go.
Example: You replay a mistake from 10 years ago every night. The mistake lasted a minute. You've created 10 years of pain from it.
In difficult times, ask: "What is possible right now?"
Example: Your flight is canceled. Instead of rage, you ask "what's possible?" — you find a train, or enjoy an unexpected night in a new city.
To attract something, give up attachment to the outcome.
Example: You apply for a job. Instead of obsessing, you say "I've done my best, whatever happens is right" — and you're calmer, which helps your interview.
Don't monitor others' obedience to your "rules."
Example: You stop checking whether your adult child texts you "goodnight" every day. Your anxiety drops.
Worry creates its own painful reality.
Example: You worry your partner will leave you. Your insecurity starts fights. They leave. Your worry created what you feared.
Detach from poverty consciousness to attract wealth consciousness.
Example: Instead of "I never have enough," think "money flows to me easily." Your behavior shifts, opportunities appear.
Gratitude replaces pain.
Example: You lost a job. Instead of bitterness, you list three things you're grateful for from that job. The hurt softens.
Nature functions with effortless ease — be like a flower.
Example: A seed doesn't strain to become a rose. It just grows. Stop forcing your career; allow it to unfold.
Four components: knowing, acceptance, responsibility, defencelessness.
Example: You know you're angry (knowing), you accept it (acceptance), you don't blame your partner (responsibility), you don't argue you're right (defencelessness). The anger dissolves.
Acceptance means acknowledging "this is how it is right now."
Example: "It's raining. I can't change it. I'll take an umbrella" instead of "Why does it always rain on me?"
Responsibility means blaming no one (including yourself).
Example: You forgot an appointment. Instead of "my assistant is useless" or "I'm an idiot," you say "I forgot. Next time I'll set an alarm."
All problems contain seeds of opportunity.
Example: Your car breaks down. The opportunity: you spend a day reading in a cafe instead of rushing, and you meet someone interesting.
Defencelessness means not needing to be right.
Example: Your partner says "you never listen." Instead of defending "yes I do!", you say "tell me more." The argument ends.
Everyone has the right to be who they are on their own journey.
Example: Your sibling chooses a different religion. You stop trying to convert them and respect their path.
You can love someone without condoning their behavior.
Example: Your son stole something. You love him completely while still making him return the item and face consequences.
