"Love Day"🙄

2/18/25

👋🏽Hello Friends!👋🏽 

Valentine's Day is one of those days when I never know how I'll feel by the end of the day.  

As a single woman who wants to be loved by the one she loves, seeing all the lovey-dovey posts on social media wasn't really thrilling.  

Not to mention, this year marked the 5th year since my friend died by suicide (Feb 16, 2020). So, the combination of the two of those can make it a challenging time.  

As I spent another Valentine's Day single and romantically alone, I tried to reframe my thoughts of using this time to be okay with being alone and to work on my relationship with myself. (My therapist will be so proud)  

I'm my own Valentine.  

Throughout Valentine's Day, I was doomscrolling on one of my social media platforms and saw a graphic called "other kinds of love" created by @introvertdoodles that I instantly loved. On the side of this graphic states, "You don't need to be in a romantic relationship to live a life filled with love." You better bet I was quick to share that post on multiple accounts (I have an account for my blog, personal life, and cosplays).  

I know I'm not the only one in a lower spirit in these past few days; it's simply the fact that it's Valentine's Day - the day of love. The day to remember how alone and unlovable you really are  

My wise mind says false, but my emotional mind says truth. There's always a war zone between these two in my head. Just imagine the devil and angel on a character's shoulder in those characters; yeah, that's how that is for me in my head. Instead of telling me right and wrong, it's between irrational thoughts and rational thoughts.  

🧠What's Wise Mind?  

Wise Mind is a technique in the Mindfulness Pillar of DBT. Wise Mind is the between the Emotional and Rational Mind. The term "Wise Mind" was created by the DBT founder, Marsha M. Linehan. "In wise mind, individuals are aware of their emotions, but they also consider facts, logic, and their long-term goals. Wise mind is considered to be optimal functioning and can be practiced and cultivated through mindfulness practice" (dialecticalbehaviortherapy, 2025). 

Learn more about Wise Minds: Wise Mind: DBT Skills, Worksheets, Videos, Exercises 🧠 

As I looked through this "other kinds of love" graphic, it made me feel a little less unlovable because of the different types of love around me. I have two adorable dogs who always want to be loved and petted by me and multiple servers of internet friends. All of these show me love on a daily that (I, of course, appreciate and am very thankful for) doesn't always settle in my brain as the same tier as romantic love, which is what I want the most. Being in the more "love yourself" mindset and seeing this post has made me feel a (small) step closer to complete self-love and being truly okay without having a romantic partner.  

If you are/were feeling low during this "love" holiday time, save this graphic and count all the different types of love you have. I hope this helps you (even if it's just a little bit) like it has helped me.  

Until next time, friends! 💝 

‐Jade

1st year already? 🤯

2/18/25

👋🏽Hello Friends!👋🏽 

Oh my gosh...  

Can you believe it's already 1 year since Inside Jade's Mind was born?  

February 17, 2024, was the start of another step in my healing process. BPD has changed my life and has been hard to manage a lot of the time. This blog has helped me to talk openly about my BPD and my experiences in a way that provides a sense of resilience. In a sense, this blog is a more professional version of a diary for me.  

I never look at the blog stats, but since it's been a year, it's time to break it down.  

With Inside Jade's Mind, I post my blog content on four different sites: Padlet, WordPress, Tumblr, and my Google site. 

🎉Within the last year, I've gotten: 

370 views and 86 visitors on padlet 

163 views, 81 visitors, and 15 likes on WordPress  

I've also had views from the United States, United Kingdom, Sweden, Ireland, Australia, the Philippines, Mauritius, and Pakistan. 🎉 

Wow, this is so amazing, and I can't thank everyone enough!  

This year, I hope to spread more education, awareness, and resources to everyone who comes across my blog. My goals for this blog aren't going to change; I just want to spread awareness of BPD and show the world that we are not our negative stigmas; we are so much more.  

This year, I want to provide a resource guide and show you everything I use daily, from books, apps, workbooks, comfort items, etc.  

I'm looking forward to another year (and more) providing content about living with multiple mental health conditions, and I hope you will continue joining me on my healing and advocacy journey!

Until next time, friends! 💝 

‐Jade

Impulse Control? I kinda know them🤔

2/10/25

👋🏽Hello Friends!👋🏽 

Two symptoms of BPD are "inappropriate, intense, or uncontrollable anger—often followed by shame and guilt" and "periods of intense depressed mood, irritability, or anxiety lasting a few hours to a few days. 

🧠What to learn more about BPD symptoms? 

Learn more here: https://www.nami.org/about-mental-illness/mental-health-conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/ 🧠 

Sometimes, controlling my irritability can be really difficult for me. I usually see this in my romantic relationships and with my family. I sometimes see it with my friends and at work. 

Sometimes, I'll snap at others in an argument, which usually indicates shutting down and being impulsive. 

I know that in my last relationship, when we would fight, I would say some mean things to him, and there came a time when he told me that he had to tell himself that if I said something hurtful, I most likely didn't mean it. That broke my heart a little bit. I wish I could explain why I can't control it and it's impulsive, but I can't. 

I also can't excuse my actions and behaviors simply because they are impulsive, and I can't control them. People sometimes think that I try to make excuses, but I usually explain (and overly explain) why I did it. I try to take responsibility for what I've said and done, which took some time to do since taking responsibility meant admitting that I did something wrong, and that was something I grew up thinking meant that I was just simply a bad person. 

One growth I'm extremely proud of is retraining my brain to take responsibility when I see my faults or if I hurt someone. Also, if I take responsibility and admit my mistakes, that doesn't mean that I'm a bad person; it just means I made a mistake. 

Even though I have grown, I'm not done—not even close. I believe that we are all a work in progress and that we should never stop trying to be better than we were yesterday. Even with noticeable growth, I have setbacks, and that's okay. I still make mistakes and impulsively say or do things. Just the other week, I didn't control my annoyance and impulses and said things that got me in (a little bit) trouble. 

It happens. It's hard not to feel like a failure when I experience setbacks, but I'm currently working on changing that automatic negative thought. 

Until next time, friends! 💝 

‐Jade