2020-01-20
2020-01-20 - Fridays
An inquiry: Share Your Vision of a Culture of Empathy?
How might we deepen and make the empathy circle more meaningful?
How to take empathic direct action?
Empathy
Justice
Skeptical of justice
Individual responsibility
Competition to come to truth
External judgment
Punishment and Retribution
Victim v perpetrator - Drama triangle.
A culture of Empathy is more demanding.
A culture of empathy treats people with respect
Forgive the wrongs. What is wrong?
You say the same thing to two different people and you get different responses.
We all have limits or blind side of empathy
Good justice, is that the person who did a wrong will not do it again.
Empathy is beyond right and wrong.
Victimization:
if you don’t feel like the victim, you can then forgive.
Victim v perpetrator - Drama triangle.
What is an example.
With empathy we understand and connect with the story and feelings of others.
Forgiveness
NVC you don’t apologize, you just empathize.
The concept of forgiveness. Is empathy.
You can’t force forgiveness. Empathy unravels the paint
Forgiveness comes from a world of right and wrong. Reflects on guilt. There is right and wrong.. Forgiveness comes in the package of write and wrong. It is a concept that does not work for me.
A world where forgiveness doesn’t come together with guilt doesn’t come with guilt.
In the school yard, there is a conflict and students say I’m sorry. The grownups only have the solution of saying I’m sorry.. It is to limited.
Undoing the old Culture
We have a lot to do to undo the previous culture
The process of growing empathy is the process of undoing other ways of relating and being.
Deepening the Empathy - the Levels of Empathy
How do we deepen the empathic process.
The reflection.
The depth of the listening. Connecting with the deeper feelings.
Deeper levels have pain. - need to work through it.
If we connect to the deeper levels we get to greatness.
Empathy leads to human potential.
Benefit:
Taking part in an empathy circle gives me energy. I come to the empathy circle tired.. Then I get energy.
Finding balance.
About greatness - being authentic in the face of
Why do we have a static sense of self - blocks authentically
Grief
Envying Sofia and what she feels.
The is a lot of different threads.
Forgiveness and justice.
Going deeper: What is my feeling? My response to what is said.
What do I feel?
What do I feel in response?
Softly listening into one's feelings
Being emotional - what does that mean? Sharing deeper sadness - grief
Being in the body I don’t need to get my point out or argue. It’s not that they don’t matter but the need to say my opinion..
Versus being more intellectual.
A sick sense of power. Wanting power?