2020-01-08

Empathy Cafe: Share Your Vision of a Culture of Empathy?

The empathy circle as a mini culture of empathy

• • It takes time

  • What is the level of empathy in this group? The relationali

Culture of empathy and Individualism and relationality.

• • What is the metaphor?

  • The empathy circle as a mini culture of empathy

  • Individual and relationality fit together. There is a relationship between the two. As the individual is heard they are more open to the whole.

  • The individual in harmony with the society.

  • (An awareness of the whole - perhaps it's perspective.)

  • (There is a different perspective, points of view. Able to move between them.)

  • What are the core principles and commonalities?. Common humanity, mutuality

  • Cof is both individual and relational.

Moving from competition to collaboration

Moving from Justice to Empathy

Bill

• • A culture of empathy - a more personal vision

  • All politics is local

  • Need to tell a different story.. The empathy circle is experiential, the vision.

  • The empathy circles makes a connection from the personal to the others.

Bob

• • Trying to invite politicians to take part in Empathy Circles

  • Get the most from daily relationships.

  • Doing empathy circles at church. Message of empathy

  • Empathy and Death

    • A friend has died,

    • Want to listen to her empathically

    • Olga - she is connecting with me.. She wants me to live her values

  • Feel the best when contributing to others.

  • Empathy is key for transforming self centeredness to caring for each other.

  • Deeply troubled. By Trump, is extremely self centered. How do we convert him to a more empathic way.

  • How to change things.. Making fun of people is not going to help. Using empathy is the way of changing in a constructive way. Has dignity. Valuing connection.

  • Focusing on the individual experience. It is about honoring the individuals experience that gets integrated into the relational experience. The individual feels heard in the group. Fully hears the individualist experience into the relational and it is an ongoing process. The individual is not separate but part of the whole. Openness and transparency are part of the culture.. Bill is working to integrate the different ideas that have come up and is open to correction.

  • Empathy circle integrates.

Karolina

• • Starting a new group. How will it succeed? Many groups fail.

  • Authenticity, relationality,

  • Don’t see the problem with authenticity and empathy

  • Don’t see a contradiction

  • Having

Richard

• • Connecting to the earth - measuring your connection

  • People have a felt sense of the earth

  • Use technology to build connection.

  • I like that when the thread goes around. It starts with individuals. Society values and rewards the individual.

  • We live in a society, that promotes individualism over community.. Advertisements promotes the the ividualism.

  • What does individualism, relationality and empathy feel like?

  • Being individualistic to authenticity. Authenticity is an expression of individualism.. Have to do it in a loud way. I have to express. I have to express myself on everything. Can feel the exhaustion.

  • People who are silent and are listening. Feel some empathy or compassion for the people who may feel frustrated.

  • Social media is made to listen, it is designed to generate more and more expressions / clicks

Dualistic Paradoxes (scribble notes)

Individualism => Authenticity => (Loud) expression

Vs vs vs

Collectivism Empathy Listening in silence

Could resolve to

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Experiences of Attunement to Authentic

(dis)connection Personal Truth Presence

Excited by empathy marathon. Have a joyous and rebellious quality

Feel some quiet and silence. Maybe just enjoy everyone's presence without talking.

The structure is to talk - o be rebellious with structure. Just be quiet and not talk.

This is the structure and leave and change the structure.

Empathy and authenticity. - I want to express how empathic I am… it becomes a structure.. I have to feel special.

I want to create some special feelings. There is a need for authenticity and to feel special.. How can we somehow.

I feel heard feels like a ritual. Being playful with it.

A Culture of Empathy and the relationship feelings.

Sofia

• • Authenticity and empathy.

  • Karolina.. I can be empathic and authenticity are the same thing.

  • Authenticity. What is the real feeling that I have. And the other person has. (not the judgments, etc.)

  • K. Some days I am less empathic.. Then I feel less authentic

  • Having an authentic relationship.. Sharing what are true feelings.

  • Authenticity and reactivity - reacting to someone. Not giving them the time to really listen to what they have to say.

  • People get frustrated because the have to listen first. I want to be authentic. I want to be able to react.

  • We are practicing and deepening the feeling of Authentic Presence.

  • Reactivity and empathy

    • There is an emptiness, a space (presence, feel the connection?)

    • Reactivity is no space.

  • What would society be if everyone felt heard.

  • Stuck on individualistic topic. Society has gone from a very group oriented and to individualistic..

  • We have to integrate the individual and s

  • The empathy circle practice melts us together.. It models the integration of the individual.. Everyone’s individual self is appractice. Everyone can feel included, I can be myself here. There is a need for people to be authentic.. It can be ego centric, if there is too much focus on what I am thinking or feelings, instead of the others. If we are too much authentic and free, we lose the connecting.. We need the bridging. We need

Edwin

• • A culture of empathy and

    • Authenticity

    • Individuality and relationality.

Ana

• • The slowing down

  • The speaker and listener is more conscious of what is being said

  • It take out the reactivity and creates peace

  • What is authenticity when you are always

  • Reactivity takes away from authenticity

  • Slowing down creates a sense of groundedness.

  • The simplicity of the format. Brings a lot of clarity. Without doing a lot of questioning and analysis

  • (empathic deep presence as a deep form of authenticity.)

Bills Visoning Synthesis

A Culture of Empathy: Relationship of The Individual, Society and Culture

A culture of empathy holds the awareness of the level of empathy in society as well as the individual. Able to integrate the two. To have an awareness of the whole as well as for all individuals to be heard and seen. Want every voice to be heard and not suppressed.

What are premises and feelings of individualism

The empathy circle as a tool and a mini culture of empathy

• • A balance of the different.

  • Balancing belonging and autonomy

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