HERE YOU CAN FIND USEFUL LINKS -
IF YOU ARE CONFUSED AND YOU NEED HELP DEALING WITH THE CULT LEAVING PROBLEMATIC
OR IF YOU JUST WANT TO KNOW MORE:
"SISTER" SITES ON YIDL
MIND CONTROL AND SEXUAL ABUSE
Stripping the gurus FREE ebook link in english / german version can be bought onlin
www.gurumag.com
The Guru Papers- Masks of Authoritarian Power
by Joel Kramer & Diana Alstad
Sexual abuse by clergy- the process of "grooming" that occurs with sexual predators, which is a process where a person's usual defences are gradually disarmed.In the case of BigO there have also been people close to him that have undertaken this 'grooming' on his behalf: LINK
similar sexual frauds of yoga "gurus":
Fake gurus forum
Betrayal of Spirit and Cult Survivors Handbook (Nori Muster) - author is former ISKCON (Hare Krishna) member who was writer for one Hare Krishna journal;
Guru Looked Good (Marta Szabo) - author is an former Siddha Yoga (Muktananda, Gurumayi etc.) member who was working in organizing SY events, seminars and journeys to India;
The Orange Robe (Marsha Low) - author is an ex-Ananda Marga sannyasini (nun) who opened many AM centers around the world;
An Unquenchable Thirst(Mary Johnson) - author is an ex-Catholic nun in the order founded by Mother Teresa of Calcutta. She lived and worked in a convent in USA and Italy;
Holy Hell(Gail Tredwell) - author is a former long-time personal attendant to Amma Amritanandamayi (Ammachi, the Hugging Saint). She lived and worked more than 20 years in ashrams in India, very near to Ammachi.
Cartwheels In a Sari(Jayanti Tamm) - author is a daughter of early Sri Chinmoy's American devotees. She describes her life from being born into Sri Chinmoy's cult as a "specially chosen one", through living a life of trusting disciple, to leaving that cult altogether.
OTHER SOURCES OF RELEVANT INFO
Cult Awareness and Information Center
Great help in recognizing cults and recovering
from being in one.
http://www.caic.org.au/
Fact Net
F.A.C.T.Net (Fight Against Coercive Tactics Network)
http://www.factnet.org/cults/Sri_Chinmoy
Freedom of Mind Center
Steve Hassan's site
http://www.freedomofmind.com/
Mind Control
Article from Harper's Bazaar, by L.Knickerbocker
www.allentwood.com/articles/mindcontrol.html
Rick Ross
Articles about Chinmoy and the SCC,
written by former disciples and others
www.rickross.com/groups/srichinmoy.html
Stripping the Gurus
The American Family Foundation (AFF)
Information about Cults and Psychological Manipulation
http://www.csj.org/
The Informer's booklist
A booklist for cult recovery
www.informer.org/booklist.htm
The Mo Morgan Project
http://momorgan.com/srichinmoy/
University of Texas magazine article:
Gettin' That New Age Religion: Cults at UT
One of the cult leaders written about is Chinmoy
http://www.contumacy.org/9Cults.html
Wellspring Retreat & Resource Center
retreat for former cult members;
information about cults
http://wellspringretreat.org
Captive Hearts, Captive Minds
Psychopathy and the Characteristics of a Cult Leader
http://www.dannyhaszard.com/captivehearts.htm
HOLY HELL - http://edition.cnn.com/2016/09/01/us/holy-hell-buddhafield-searching-for-michel/
The story of EnlightenNext’s rise and fall begs a deeper question: How do well-intentioned and rational people end up in a cult?http://www.theatlantic.com/video/index/501413/life-and-death-of-a-cult/
The following is how former cult members and members of spiritually abusive systems described how they felt when they finally left their group. This may give you some insight into their pain and why there are no easy answers for them :
It Hurts
It Hurts to discover you were deceived - that what you thought was the “one true religion,” the “path to total fredom,” or “truth” was in reality a cult.
It Hurts when you learn that people you trusted implicitly - whom you were taught not to question - were “pulling the wool over your eyes” albeit unwittingly.
It Hurts when you learn that those you were taught were your “enemies” were telling the truth after all - but you had been told they were liars, deceivers, repressive, satanic etc and not to listen to them.
It Hurts when you know your faith in God hasn’t changed - only your trust in an organization - yet you are accused of apostasy, being a trouble maker, a “Judas”. It hurts even more when it is your family and friends making these accusations.
It Hurts to realize their love and acceptance was conditional on you remaining a member of good standing. This cuts so deeply you try and suppress it. All you want to do is forget - but how can you forget your family and friends?
It Hurts to see the looks of hatred coming from the faces of those you love - to hear the deafening silence when you try and talk to them. It cuts deeply when you try and give your child a hug and they stand like a statue, pretending you aren’t there. It stabs like a knife when you know your spouse looks upon you as demonised and teaches your children to hate you.
It Hurts to know you must start all over again. You feel you have wasted so much time. You feel betrayed, disillusioned, suspicious of everyone including family, friends and other former members.
It Hurts when you find yourself feeling guilty or ashamed of what you were - even about leaving them. You feel depressed, confused, lonely. You find it difficult to make decisions. You don’t know what to do with yourself because you have so much time on your hands now - yet you still feel guilty for spending time on recreation.
It Hurts when you feel as though you have lost touch with reality. You feel as though you are “floating” and wonder if you really are better off and long for the security you had in the organization and yet you know you cannot go back.
It Hurts when you feel you are all alone - that no one seems to understand what you are feeling. It hurts when you realize your self confidence and self worth are almost non-existent.
It Hurts when you have to front up to friends and family to hear their “I told you so” whether that statement is verbal or not. It makes you feel even more stupid than you already do - your confidence and self worth plummet even further.
It Hurts when you realize you gave up everything for the cult - your education, career, finances, time and energy - and now have to seek employment or restart your education. How do you explain all those missing years?
It Hurts because you know that even though you were deceived, you are responsible for being taken in. All that wasted time ... at least that is what it seems to you - wasted time.
The Pain Of Grief
Leaving a cult is like experiencing the death of a close relative or a broken relationship. The feeling is often described as like having been betrayed by someone with whom you were in love. You feel you were simply used.
There is a grieving process to pass through. Whereas most people understand that a person must grieve after a death etc, they find it difficult to understand the same applies in this situation. There is no instant cure for the grief, confusion and pain. Like all grieving periods, time is the healer.
Some feel guilty, or wrong about this grief. They shouldn’t - It IS normal. It is NOT wrong to feel confused, uncertain, disillusioned, guilty, angry, untrusting - these are all part of the process. In time the negative feelings will be replaced with clear thinking, joy, peace, and trust.
Yes - It hurts but the hurts will heal with time, patience & understanding.
There is life after the cult.
© 1985, 1995 Jan Groenveld
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Vishwaguru Mahamandaleshwar Paramhans Sri Swami Maheshwarananda Puriji of Panchayati Maha Nirvani Akhara