Jeff

Empathic Listening Feedback: Jeff Nagata

2014-08-15

It felt really good to feel like there is this big space that

I can just say everything that is on my mind into.

Empathy is one of the most important things to do,

it can transform everything.

I really like empathy.

Are you interested in:

* being a listener? (x) yes ( ) no ( ) maybe

Why?

* in taking part in Empathy Circles? (x) yes ( ) no ( ) maybe

Why? has a quality of productivity to it.

* empathic design? ( ) yes ( ) no (x) maybe

Why? time issues

[Empathic listening - a real meaningful way to take a refreshing break]

How did the empathic journey feel?

It felt really good. It felt really good to feel like there is this big space that I can just say everything that is on my mind into. Sometimes just saying everything out loud helps make things real and just even that process itself, of just saying everything out loud, that is bottled up in my head feels, really liberating.

It was a feeling of release. Like there was air building up in this bottle and all of a sudden the cork got pulled out and it got released, and it felt like a huge weight got lifted up because of that.

[idea: ask for a metaphor, what is a metaphor of what the experience was like?]

This is also a unique circumstance that the thing that I was talking about was actually about this project itself. So it felt good to know that I'm creating more clarity between the both of us about where I am in relationship with this project. So there was also a sense of relief, like that I am starting to create an understanding, so that I can move forward, so we can more forward in the best way possible with a share awareness. There is a relieving feeling. That felt really good.

How did the flyer work for you?

I really like the flyer. I think this would be really appealing and different from what you would usually expect from something like this.. no judgments, advise......

I think it is really unique.

What about the 15 min time limit on the flyer?

15 minutes feels reassuring. Especially if you have this time pressure and to know the time is already set to something like 15 minutes, which isn't too long. Makes it seem like a real meaningful way to take a break. But not in a way that your wasting time, or zoning out but like something that is refreshing, which is the point of a break but at the same time it actually adds something.

[Empathic listening - a real meaningful way to take a refreshing break]

[take a refreshing empathy break]

Take a tall glass of empathy. I like this.

How do you feel about the space?

Sometimes it feels a little self conscious, because we are surrounded by all these people. And between you and me is no judgments...... but I can sometimes feel from the surrounding area. even thought there might not actually exist but I king of making it up in my own head. And I saw on the Tuesday email that you tried an private space and I really liked that idea. I

think that would make it feel more brave.

Brave is a word Darchan introduced instead of safe.. Protective and limiting .. brave space is different in that it's creating a space where even when there's friction created, it's still OK.

Everything else feels nice.. the space feels open and warm.

Would you want to be a listener? yes

Why?

Empathy is one of the most important things to do,

it can transform everything.

Empathy is one of the most important things to do, it can transform everything. It sometimes it can feel like it's an extra thing you have to do but then... the way empathy just transforms everything, it gives you a new lens to see everything.

And it actually makes your life 1,000 times better after you've gone through it and actually experienced how deep you can connect with someone. It just makes you think of life differently and you see some many things that you couldn't see before in terms of how you related to people and how people relate to you. It creates so much meaning in your life, it kind of like, reorients your values and how you think about the world in a really positive way. So the act of listening is really positive too. It's not like I'm sacrificing myself to listening to someone. It's like we are both working together to create that really meaningful experience and I think it's really closely attached to my reason for existing.

So the act of listening is really positive too.

It's not like I'm sacrificing myself to listening to someone.

And also creating that space where you can say things that feel really important and meaningful to you to someone else, I don't think you get that chance very often, because there are so many roadblocks. Like me and my brother, when I went went back, for our whole lives we both felt like, weird to say stuff like "I love you" and stuff like that to each other.. But then when I took everything I learned about empathy back to San Diego, by the end of it, when we left, I told my brother like, I'm really glad I have you in my life. Life would be really worse if you weren't there. It's something I've always wanted and to say for my entire life, but I didn't know that I wanted to day it until we created that space together. Once you are able to say something like that to each other it completely transforms the relationship and it's really powerful.

Yeah, I really like empathy.

Empathy Circle: Would be interested in an empathy circle.

Time: working out the time

why?

I think it would be a productive

I think it would be a productive way to... it adds on to what I said, and add a productivity factor. Where it's empathy, it creates more empathy and solves other problems too that people are having. It addresses tangible issues that people are having. It does both at the same time. It's one way to make the time feel really valuable.

Who is the most empathic person you know?

You are. I think you're the closes to a person being empathy itself. It sounds funny. You can just tell that empathy is at the core of who you are. I mean you are making your entire life centered around actually doing work around empathy. You could be doing anything else right now but your sitting here like with this Free Empathy sign. And I think that action is important too. I think you're the most empathic person I know.

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