I Wish

At the end of every meeting, we hand out a questionnaire for feedback on the meeting. Everyone fills it out and then we go around and share. We ask,

I Like...

I Wish...

What if..

This is a compilation of participants: I Wish...

Process

• or more insights into how to make the process more meaning full for everyone

• that we could fins a good way to switch between different modes

• randomize the groupings

• we could hear people out fully without interruption

• there was a bit more explanation on the techniques. but it was good that NVC see techniques in action

• more dialogue/feedback

• I would like to see a more structured opportunity for folks to engage in dialogue between empathic listening.

• how do we have more feedback about the listening process with listeners and speakers?

• there was less structure

• the tables weren't so close together so we didn't feel distracted by nearby voices

Try Other Processes

• more time to try other empathic approaches - empathic singing, more creative energy

  • we could incorporate empathic design

  • we could cover the design aspect

  • we have space for role play

  • there was time to do role plays because the meet my needs for learning and engagement.

  • we had time and space to do the empathic design process

More Feelings and Needs

• there were more integrations of needs in the reflections

• there was a topic related to feelings.

• we could practice "are you feeling, because?

• the reflection included what the person might be feeling

• there was more interpretation of what the speaker might be feeling or experience

Less noise

• the venue was less distracting, I like the idea of an Oakland meet up, Bike-ability is a big plus but this place is noisy.

• I could have heard everyone more clearly when I ws the silent listener. (restaurant noise)

• a quieter place

• there was not so many people and so much noise

• quieter environment

• we had a quieter place

• not as noisy of a venue

• it was quieter and les chaotic and more personal

• there was less noise and more physical warmth (it's cold in here) cold day..

• more quite and calmer space

• it were quieter

• quieter environment would be good

• more quite, less cafe chaos, more calm space

• the space would have been a little less noisy

• the venue was less distracting, I like the idea of an Oakland meet up, Bike-ability is a big plus but this place is noisy.

• I could have heard everyone more clearly when I ws the silent listener. (restaurant noise)

• a quieter place

• bit quieter space

• that we could be in an environment wit out all the EMF fields.

• the space was quieter

More People would do this

• the skill of active reflective listening was enthused more available in younger populations of society

• I had learned this growing up.

• this was more available at many environments

• this it was required to get through school levels

• more of this.

• more people talked about deeper issues

• more people were interested in experiencing this.

Themes - Topics

• we had more topics to drive the conversation sometimes

• for discussion topics that might be written to create connections around specific needs/feelings

• there was a topic related to feelings.

• we pursued more on today's topic

• I could come up with better topics to talk about

• we discussed respect v disrespect vs empathy more. we only went around the table w/ reflective listen.

• more themed discussions

• away of recording all the insights about empathy and respect

• we could get more clarity about the power struggle and status aspects for respect / disrespect.

• at times we could delve deeper into a topic (feels very good to be communicating so harmoniously in this way)

• we could have even briefly touched on the subject creativity - inspiration - depression and human centered design

• the topic of the meeting had been made more obvious (creativity and depression)

Feeling

• I felt a little calmer

• I feel a sense of community and mattering all the time and not just when I've been listened to

• this was more emotional then cerebral because I feel too busy playing back the recorder in my head than actually taking a moment to process that emotional and empathize.

• I wasn't so tried was able to stay in a place of connection versus ego for longer

• that there was more reflection about what eh speaker might be feeling with check ins

• I was less fatigued so I could be more fully present

Meet all people

• I could have spent time with the other 3 (circle)

• to meet more people

• this could happen longer, so that I could have opportunity to listen and have a discussion with every person in this group

• interact with everyone

• I could have heard and shared with the remainder of the group

• I could have longer time to connect with everyone

Timing

• We developed a one minute warning on timing

• We ended more promptly

• that when we have 3 groups we set times for group sessions so that we can have 3 sessions each with adequate time

• the meet up ended on time so as to e respectful of everyone's others commitments

• we could be more organized in sharing time equitably

More Time

• we had more time, a full day a week for various kinds of empathy * talking and * sommatic

• It was longer - there were more people

• we could do this more often during the week

• We had more time, 2+ hours. It takes a while to start getting into the groove of the dialog,

• we had some more time, maybe 30 min

Practice More

• I could practice this more often and take it outside this venue

More connection

• more connect

• I could connect with everyone

• connecting, better, faster, stronger how?

Practice more

• I could practice this more often and take it outside this venue.

• I could do this more often and that other would learn to do the same in order to create a more peaceful environment among our society

More depth

• we started by bringing all of our anxieties and hang ups to the table, so that we could be more present

Keep Developing

• we keep developing empathy building processes

• more insights into how to make the process more meaning full for everyone

Better self expression

• I could explain myself better

Do Empathy

• I could to this more often - it's a very heartfelt activity. Maybe a private setting would make it even more intimate.

• I could speak empathy speak with all my friends/family

• I had the opportunity to speak and get more empathy today

Better, other Location

• we had a convenient fixed location with good access to Bart, parking, etc.

• warmer inside on a cold day.

• We had a more quite setting like someone's house

• we could meet at the HUB and have a big quite space to meet

Other Days

• it was daylight mid day on the weekend.

Empathy Buddy

• I had an empathy partner to check in with during the week

Feel Community

• I feel a sense of community and mattering all the time and not just when I've been listened to

More Depth

• we could go more into depth on the topic

Boundaries

• I could count on loads of adequate understanding and support in dealing with the challenges of setting limits with my employee

More emotions, ease, comfort, ease, etc

• I didn't feel so stressed to be a good listener and connecting reflect back

• It wasn't so awkward to find someone to speak too.

• for more comfort, acceptance, flexibility, ease and equality.

Leadership/facilitation

• there were more intra group leadership that an facilitate when we broke into groups

More Prep material

• we had more prep material for explaining how the empathy circle works

Miscellaneous

• that people would become enthusiastic about 'cosmic democracy' and shucking off authoritarianism

• Also I feel there may need to be a safety word if someone is talking about something you have a hard time hearing.

• enough people came early enough to really keep things moving.

• we can continue to have new people integrating well into our meetings

• for more conflicts to mediate

• these lovely people will return

• I had better way for dialoging or explaining about empathic community building

• Also I feel there may need to be a safety word if someone is talking about something you have a hard time hearing.

• I had joined the group sooner

• that we could have such a large group meetings

• I found this sooner

• there were unicorns and stuff like that

• I didn't' have to drive home