On Death

No matter how old you are, you need to discuss death with your parents, your children (when they are older), your significant others, and any other family you feel you might be involved when you die or they die.
  • Have a will
  • Have a medial power of attorney/Advanced Directive for Healthcare or your state's equivilent
  • If possible have some small life insurance to cover death related expenses
  • Service or not?
    • Specific religious service?
  • Open casket or not?
  • Cremation or burial?
  • Organ donor?
  • Donate body to science?
Whatever matters to you, make it known. It's uncomfortable but it will make the lives of those you leave behind simpler and will make sure you get what you want. Or in the cases of your family it will make dealing with their death less stressful - which is important when it will already be such a stressful event on its own.

A handy site to help you http://www.gyst.com/

My Choices?

So if all this is so important to me what are my choices?
I have a will, a DNR with my MPOA, i have life insurance, i do not want a service, i do not want a viewing so casket moot point, i want organs donated and body to science and cremate the rest.

Live life

Visit your friends, your family, or at least email them or call them, you never know when they will be gone, don't regret it.

Tell people you love that you love them.

Tell people who have impacted your life, your career, etc, what impact they had - you never know when they will be gone or you will be gone and it is important for people to know the impact they have had on the world.

Death with dignity

Please read about the the mission of the Death with Dignity National Center - support them if you can. All states should have rules that allow anyone who wants to die, no it doesn't kill people it's a choice. I know I would choose not to suffer.


More information about death

Check out the good death if you are fascinated and want to know more. http://www.orderofthegooddeath.com/

For Virginians

Advance Directive for Healthcare (http://www.vsb.org/site/public/healthcare-decisions-day) is what you want to have in place to designate an agent in the event you're unable to make decisions yourself and also to describe what powers that agent has and, if you wish, how you expect that agent to handle things. It's a nice standard form in fairly simple language and it indicates the needed signatures, etc.

An advance directive can also be registered in a database in VA, so it's accessible as necessary. https://www.virginiaregistry.org/

The state bar also has a page quickly explaining last wills. http://www.vsb.org/site/publications/wills-in-virginia/