Relationships are fundamental to all approaches that support Co-regulation: they form the context within which Co-regulation is made possible. It is through the experience of being Co-regulated that children and young people develop their capacity for self-regulation. Relationships create the space for co-regulation: the attunement and support that calm adults can provide. In this way relationships offer a 'Safe Base'. Relationships are central to our sense of belonging and to our emotional wellbeing. What can you do to support the children/young people in your class to feel known, valued, competent and loved?
Be aware of your verbal communication, body language and tone of voice and 'dial up' a sense of warmth and empathy, open and respectful communication that supports felt safety.
Be attuned to your pupils (noticing and responding to their initiatives). Pay attention and respond with acceptance and curiosity to both verbal and non-verbal communication.
Offer two or three part choices to provide learner's with a sense of agency.
Ensure that all learners experience success to build self-esteem.
Some pupils may benefit from having a clearly identified key person who maintains a key relationship with them and their family.
Enhanced home-school communication can support feelings of emotional safety.
Act on the basis that 'All behaviour is communication'.
Dan Hughes' PACE acronym reminds us of key elements of relationship that are helpful:
P-playful
A- accepting
C-curious
E-empathetic