Put another way, regulation is the ability to effectively manage our thoughts, feelings and behaviours so that we can respond to the physical and social demands of everyday activities.
It is something we may not think about as adults, as we tend to take it for granted, but it is an essential part of how we function from day to day.
This skill is essential in enabling children and young people to access learning.
It also has implications for a wide range of long-term wellbeing outcomes, namely:
physical health
mental health
participation and inclusion
academic attainment
socioeconomic success
quality of life
The content of this site builds on training and development that has already been/ continues to be provided to schools in East Lothian on the topics of Attachment and Whole School Nurture. Learning in these areas, together with an understanding of Stress and Trauma are closely related and inter-connected.
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April 2020 (at the time of the Pandemic)
Kim Golding
Dr. Shanker likens the ability to regulate as a bit like driving a car:
If we aim to maintain a constant speed of 30 mph then we will need to adjust the pressure we apply to the brakes and the accelerator in order to allow for changes in in the road e.g. a steep hill or very gusty wind.
This is a bit like the need to regulate: different environments and activities will place different demands upon us and require differing amounts of energy.
Some individuals may tend to push too hard on the accelerator whilst others may jump between gears too quickly or are slow to break. We all need to master the ability to find the optimum 'speed' or state of arousal.
It is normal and healthy to experience a wide range of emotions as we go through life. Regulation is not about getting rid of emotions but about understanding and managing our arousal state and emotions in a healthy way: the first step is always to validate emotions.
Our autonomic (unconscious) nervous system works together with our conscious use of regulation strategies throughout each day, to maintain a healthy, balanced state.
Babies depend heavily upon their caregiver to maintain this balance. As children grow, they gradually develop their capacity to self-regulate and remain calm, relying less on others around them for support.
Regulation involves understanding and managing our:
Feelings/ Emotions
Thoughts
Behaviours
Children develop the capacity to self-regulate and remain calm through the experience of being co-regulated. At any age, however, we all benefit from support from others. This is particularly true in times of higher stress. In the next section we'll look in more detail at examples of co-regulation and what is typically needed at each stage of development.
Regulation is crucial to learning. When our bodies and nervous systems are in a calm state, the many different areas of the brain required for learning are highly inter-connected and able to work well together. When children and young people are in a calm and alert state, they are able to access their executive functioning skills and are Ready to Learn.
Learning new skills can be demanding, socially, cognitively and emotionally. It inevitably involves dealing with the unknown, taking risks and change. It requires the ability to make and tolerate mistakes.
Can you think of a time you learned a new skill and what it felt like to get started and to make errors along the way?
Executive Functioning skills are essential in learning. These are our higher order thinking skills and include:
Organisation, memory, sequencing, cause and effect, empathy, mind mindedness, reflection, logic, planning, impulse control, risk assessment, etc.
These skills take time to develop and only do so properly when lower brain functions are in a state of calm/alert, alongside mature adults, for considerable periods of time (Bomber, 2011).