Below is a useful summary about  Emotion Coaching from Lisa Cherry:

EMOTION COACHING WITH CHILDREN AND YOUNG PEOPLE

Emotion  coaching is about developing in ourselves and others the best possible responses to the behaviours of children and young people 'in the moment, intervening with the child as the behaviour is happening. In order to do this, we have to develop out own Emotional Intelligence and connect with our own inner clam.

In order to use emotion coaching techniques most effectively we need to become more aware of how adults respond to children and young people.

Gottman identified that when children were experiencing strong emotions - which often expressed themselves in behaviours which adults found difficult to deal with  - then these provided the best opportunities to learn how to deal with those emotions.

Showing empathy for the emotions and then providing positive guidance as to how to move forward are the two key skills demonstrated by parents whose children had fewer behaviour problems, achieved well in school, and were most emotionally stable.

• The style shown by a parent/carer/teacher that is largely Emotion Coaching looks like:

• Having a regard as emotions as as time for intimacy and teaching

• An awareness of the child's  emotions

• Valuing the child's emotions

• Making time to talk about feeings with them

• Trying to find out why the child is feeling the day they do

• Helping the child to be aware of the their feelings, label and express them

• Avoids criticising or labelling them (for example, not calling them stupid, shy, mean or silly)

• Has an awareness of their own emotions

• Is able to remain calm and help their child/young person problem solve

These children and young people are more likely to grow up able to manage theri emotions and learn to problem solve when dealing with life situations.

Emotion Coaching is an approach that focuses on the development of emotional regulation through supportive relationships.  It can benefit not only CYP but also parents/carers and professionals, to better understand and regulate their emotions, in order to manage strong feelings and take ownership of behaviour. 

Emotion Coaching offers practical steps for responding to behaviours and is linked to key attachment concepts, such as the importance of connection.

Emotion Coaching is an evidence-based approach that provided an understanding of the neuroscience behind behaviour.