Hi, BlueFace! This question is a little vague, but I think I can help. There are tons of universal ways to charm crushes that I’d like to introduce you to.
For starters, with girls (and with anyone, for that matter), it’s generally a good idea to avoid being too pushy. Mutual respect and consent is a big deal, and if you can only take one thing away from this response, I ask that this be it. I’m not saying you have to prepare yourself to be let down, but just know that no means no, and if you’re rejected, you need to accept it.
Okay, now that that’s out of the way, what can you do to avoid rejection? This depends a lot on the girl! Some girls are charmed easily, and some take time and patience to win their heart. Small acts of thoughtfulness can be a great way to catch their attention. Find out their favorite snack or treat, and if you see it at the store, get some for them! Offer to carry something for them if their hands are full. Be there for them when they’re having a rough day (ask if they need to vent, if they want advice, if they just need someone to sit with them). Compliments can go a long way, but be careful about exactly what you choose to compliment. The general rule of thumb is to compliment their choices, not the things they can’t control. For instance, compliment their outfit, how they did their hair that day, etc, but don’t compliment their body, because that can be uncomfortable. Take an interest in the things they like! Listen to them rant about their favorite TV show, and play their music when you hang out instead of your own. This one might not be as universal, but one of the sweetest things someone could do for me, personally, is make me a playlist. It could be a way to subtly confess, or just introduce them to something you think they’d like.
When you feel like you’ve gotten close enough (which, again, can take time and patience! Use your best judgment, but don’t worry if it seems to be taking a while), it might be time to confess! Confessing doesn’t have to be a huge deal, but how you go about it can make or break the relationship. If you want to do something grand, get them alone and give them flowers. If you want it to be more casual, just turn to them one day, when you think the moment is right, and just say it. Again, remember what I said before; don’t feel bad if you’re rejected. Maybe it’s the right person at the wrong time. Give them time, but don’t bring it up again unless it’s absolutely eating you up inside. Make sure they know you respect their decision, and you will still be there for them as a friend.
If they decide to reciprocate your feelings, congratulations! You got the girl! Just remember that basic kindness and small acts of thoughtfulness can go a long way. Good luck, and as always, keep me updated! ;)
(Also, side note, can I get some more of y’all using code names? I just think it’s cool.)