r/AmItheProblem

Description

Like a certain reddit community, r/AmItheProblem is a catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or if you're the problem.

Task

Read the prompt below and respond among your squad with either "YTP" (you're the problem), "NTP" (not the problem), or "ESH" (everyone stinks here) and justify your decision in at least 1 additional statement.

Prompt

AITP because I won't complete tasks at work that are NOT MY JOB?

Used to love working here... Boss and I had a very close relationship. I got my work done, and whenever I had an issue, suggestion or complaint he'd always find a way to accommodate me. I helped him, he helped me. I did everything I could to keep him out of trouble, and he was lenient if I ever needed something like a day off or an extension on something. Even on a personal level we clicked. I helped him move once, I was the best man in his wedding, he watched my cat when I was on vacation.

About 3 months ago new management took over and my boss was demoted. Still works for the company but I no longer report to them. They hired this new woman to replace him. With the management changes, she now manages me and 6 other people (my old boss only managed me and 3 other people).

My new boss and I do not have the same relationship that my old boss and I have. That part doesn't bother me, I know the days of getting away with things are now over. But the BIG problem with this woman is that she constantly assigns me her other subordinate's tasks. Bring a document to the COO and have him sign? Not my job. Call one of the venders and obtaining account information for our company? Not my job.

The first two or three times I obliged, each time people looked at me like an idiot, as if I wasn't trained for the tasks that are NOT MY JOB. After the 3rd or 4th time, I finally started telling my boss I'm not doing any tasks that are not my job. Ever since I made that ultimatum to her, she has given me the cold shoulder. She hasn't been checking on me for anything, not asking if I got tasks done by the due dates, or asking me for info that she needs.

Her write ups on the other hand tell a different story. She wrote me up for being 1 minute late from lunch, and a verbal warning for not having proper attire (I wear a hat a lot, this didn't bother her or anyone before). I think she is trying to get me fired because her feelings were hurt.

So here's my question. Was I in the right for telling her I'm not doing other people's jobs? Or should I get over it and be nice?

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