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“Success is measured over the course of a lifetime, not at the end of a semester.”
“When the winds of change blow, some people build walls and others build windmills.”–Chinese Proverb
What we've been told success is:
College degree
High paying job
Hustling non stop
Fancy materialistic items
What success really is:
Peace of mind
Loving your job
Staying healthy and strong
Making a positive impact on others
The world taught many of us that success is about status.
A big salary.
Endless hustle.
Luxury possessions.
Looking impressive to people who barely know us.
So people spend years exhausting themselves trying to “make it,” while quietly losing their peace, health, relationships, and joy along the way.
But real success feels very different.
It is waking up without constant anxiety.
It is having a mind that can rest at night.
It is being healthy enough to enjoy your life, not just survive it.
It is doing work that does not destroy your soul.
It is having a few genuine people who truly care about you.
It is being able to look in the mirror and feel proud of the person you became.
Some of the richest people are emotionally empty. And some of the happiest people live very simple lives.
Because success is not measured only by what you own. It is measured by how peacefully you live, how deeply you love, and how positively your existence touches others.
At the end of life, inner peace will matter more than public approval ever did.
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What is the purpose of lire?
The wise monk's astonishing answer to the rich man.
A rich man once asked a wise monk:
“I have money, success, comfort, and everything people dream of… yet I still feel empty inside.
What is the true purpose of life?”
The monk smiled gently and asked him:
“If you owned the entire ocean, but could not drink the water, would your thirst disappear?”
The rich man replied, “No.”
The monk nodded softly.
“That is the problem with many people’s lives. They spend years collecting things that impress the eyes… while starving the soul.”
The man became silent.
The monk continued:
“You were taught that life is about achievement, status, money, and becoming ‘successful.’ But no one taught you how to feel peaceful once you finally arrived.”
The rich man lowered his head.
“Then what gives life meaning?” he asked quietly.
The monk pointed toward a tree outside the temple.
“Look at that tree. It does not compete with the trees beside it. It simply grows quietly, gives shade, bears fruit, and exists fully as itself.”
Then he looked back at the man and said:
“The purpose of life is not only to achieve. It is:
To awaken.
To love deeply.
To grow in wisdom.
To reduce suffering around you.
To experience life fully before it disappears.”
The rich man whispered,
“But why do so many people still feel empty?”
The monk replied softly:
“Because they search for fulfillment in things that cannot stay forever.
Money fades.
Beauty changes.
Status disappears.
Even life itself is temporary.”
Then he added:
“In Buddhism, we are taught that peace comes not from having more… but from needing less. A meaningful life is not measured by how much you own, but by how deeply you loved, how peacefully you lived, and how gently you treated others.”
The rich man sat quietly with tears in his eyes.
And the monk smiled one final time:
“The purpose of life is not to become important in the eyes of the world… but to become fully alive in the present moment before your time runs out.”
Source: Buddhism FB
What Is STARR Method for Reflection?
What Is STARR Method for Reflection?
The STARR Method, STARR Technique or STARR Interview Technique is often used by students when reflecting on their own actions, for example in a reflection report for an internship.
The method is also used by professionals in coaching, research and job interviews. STARR helps to answer questions about competencies accurately and completely and ensures that you become successful in, for example, conducting a job interview.
STARR is an acronym for:
S: What was the Situation? Describe a specific situation or challenge in which you applied a particular skill.
T: What was the Task? Explain what your task was in that specific situation and what was expected of you.
A: What Actions have you taken? Tell specifically what steps you took to accomplish the task. Emphasize the specific skill you applied.
R: What was the Result? Describe the outcome and results of your actions. Here, focus on the positive results and emphasize what you accomplished.
R: What have you learned through Reflection? Explain what you have learned and how you can handle a similar situation differently or better in the future.
Many questions in a job interview, or any other type of interview, start with: Describe a situation where…, or: Share an example of a project where you…. Many people experience these kinds of questions as difficult. The STARR Method helps to formulate a complete answer.
STARR Method: Reflection to PDP Goal
STARR Method: Reflection to PDP Goal
Many people know exactly what they have done at work or in a project. But it becomes difficult when you have to explain it in a job interview, appraisal interview, or evaluation. You tend to talk too long, be too vague, or miss the point. The STARR method helps you to describe your experiences in a concise and convincing way. You describe the Situation, your Task, your Action, the Result and then your Reflection. This allows you to show not only what you did, but also why you did it and what you learned from it. For managers, this is a useful framework for making examples concrete during coaching and assessments. For employees, it provides guidance on how to present themselves more strongly and make their growth visible.
In this article, you will discover what the STARR method is, what the model is intended for, and how to apply it step by step. You will learn how to choose strong examples, what questions to ask for each part, and how to prevent your story from becoming too general. You will also receive practical tips and examples that you can use immediately for a job application, performance review, or portfolio. Enjoy reading!
Why a STARR Method is important
Why a STARR Method is important
Employers do this because they are looking for proof of certain skills. Examples of skills and competencies favored by employers are: analytical skills, creativity, problem-solving skills, communication skills or teamwork.
The following questions may sound familiar when it comes to job interviews:
Tell me about a situation where you had to complete a task with a tight deadline and how you handled it.
Do you go beyond what is minimally expected of you? Can you cite an example of this?
How do you position yourself in conflicts? Describe a conflict situation you have experienced?
STARR method for personal growth
STARR method for personal growth
The STARR method is often associated with job interviews and performance reviews. This makes sense, because it helps to describe a situation in a clear and structured way. But the power of STARR goes beyond selection alone. It is also a practical tool for reflecting on your own behavior, choices, and areas for development in your daily work and private life.
By regularly using the STARR Method to look at specific situations, you gain more insight into patterns. You see what you automatically do in tense conversations, when under pressure at work, when collaborating, or when you are successful. Not to judge yourself, but to become aware of what is already going well and where you would like to act differently. In this way, the STARR method becomes a tool for reflective learning.
The method lends itself well to everyday moments. Think of a difficult meeting, a mistake in a report, a conversation with a customer, a presentation, a conflict, or a situation you are proud of. By briefly writing down that situation with the STARR Method, you can see what choices you made, what the outcome was, and what alternatives there are for next time.
STARR is therefore directly linked to personal and professional development. Instead of thinking in general terms such as “I need to communicate better” or “I want to be more assertive,” you work with real examples from your own practice. This makes development goals concrete and realistic. What’s more, you can use the results in Personal Development Plan discussions, coaching, peer review, or self-reflection at the end of the week.
When STARR is used not only as a mandatory form in a job application, but as an integral part of learning in the workplace, its effect grows. Small, regular reflections make you more aware of your strengths and the areas where there is still room for growth.
STARR in work and career
STARR in work and career
The STARR method is not only useful during job interviews. In daily work and career development, the STARR method can provide a lot of structure to conversations and evaluations. It ensures that experiences do not remain vague, but are translated into concrete behavior, results, and learning points.
In progress and assessment interviews, the STARR method helps to look back together on situations from the past period. An employee prepares by briefly working out the five components for each situation. The manager can ask further questions using the same structure. What exactly was the situation? Who had which task? What did you do? What was the result? What did you learn from it? This makes the conversation more concrete and less non-committal.
In coaching and peer review, the STARR method works as a fixed line of conversation. A professional presents a case and describes it using STARR. Colleagues or coaches ask in-depth questions within the same five steps. This keeps the conversation focused on observable behavior and effects, rather than just opinions or general statements. This accelerates insight and makes it easier to formulate next steps.
The STARR Method is also valuable in PDP and career discussions. By analyzing previous projects, successes, and difficult moments with STARR, it becomes clear which talents are strongly present and where there is potential for development. These insights form a good basis for new learning goals and development agreements. STARR shows what someone has already demonstrated in practice and what experiences are still lacking for the next step.
For managers, the STARR method provides a framework for organizing discussions and feedback. For employees, it provides a way to highlight their own contributions and identify their own learning points. In this way, STARR becomes a common language in work and career. Not only for looking back, but also for planning ahead in a more focused way.
When to use STAR vs. STARR
When to use STAR vs. STARR
Use STAR for straightforward behavioral questions where the focus is on actions and results. For example: “Tell me about a time you hit a challenging deadline.”
Use STARR for questions where the interviewer might be probing for self-awareness, growth, or lessons learned. For example: “Tell me about a time you made a mistake at work and how you handled it.”
To get the most out of the STARR method, keep these tips in mind:
Do’s:
Do’s:
Take a moment to think about your answer before diving in.
Use specific examples from your experience.
Be concise while including all the key details.
Use “I” statements to focus on your role in the situation.
Include Reflection where it makes sense—what did you learn, and how have you applied it since?
Don’ts:
Don’ts:
Don’t rush into your answer without organizing your thoughts.
Avoid hypothetical examples—stick to real experiences.
Don’t assume the interviewer knows the context—be clear and specific.
Avoid overly vague “we” statements that downplay your individual contributions.
How the STARR method helps you stand out
How the STARR method helps you stand out
Interviews aren’t just about proving you can do the job—they’re about showing how you think, adapt, and grow. The STARR method helps you craft responses that are not only clear and structured but also thoughtful and memorable. Whether you’re prepping for your first engineering interview or aiming for a senior role, this approach can help you confidently highlight your skills and experiences. By adding that final “Reflection” step, you elevate your answers from good to great, showing interviewers that you’re not just capable—you’re constantly evolving.
5 Components of STARR Method and Interview Questions
5 Components of STARR Method and Interview Questions
Below you will find several sample interview questions that are related to the different parts of the STARR method. Don’t use the answers to all questions in the interview, because then the answer will be way too long. Instead, select only the most relevant interview questions, then answer and incorporate them into the answer.
S1. When did this take place? [recall]
S2. Where were you? [locate]
S3. Who else was involved? [identify]
S4. Who was only watching or indirectly involved? [name]
S5. What was the first sign that something needed your attention? [recognise]
S6. What was happening at that moment? [describe]
S7. What had already happened before this situation started? [summarise]
S8. Was there pressure, confusion, conflict or a deadline? [examine]
S9. What do you think causes this type of situation to happen? [investigate]
S10. What made this situation worth mentioning? [justify]
T1. What was your role in the situation? [identify]
T2. What result were you trying to reach? [state]
T3. Which part of the work was clearly your responsibility? [locate]
T4. Who had the final responsibility? [name]
T5. Who did you need to work with directly? [list]
T6. What did others expect from you? [describe]
T7. What did you expect from yourself? [express]
T8. Was the division of roles clear from the start? [examine]
T9. Which parts belonged to someone else? [distinguish]
T10. Where was that division unclear or uncomfortable? [differentiate]
T11. Who influenced the situation from the background? [investigate]
T12. What would be an alternative approach to this task? [propose]
A1. What did you actually do? [tell]
A2. What was your first step? [recall]
A3. What did you say to the people involved? [recite]
A4. Why did you choose that step? [explain]
A5. Did you try to repair, improve or calm the situation? [execute]
A6. What did you change while the situation was still going on? [modify]
A7. Where did you have to improvise? [adapt]
A8. How could this action be used to handle a different issue? [transfer]
A9. What did you do yourself, instead of leaving it to others? [differentiate]
A10. Did you stay with your first plan, or did you change direction? [compare]
A11. What went well in your approach? [assess]
A12. What felt less strong afterwards? [critique]
A13. What is a counterargument for the action you took? [argue]
R1.a How did the situation end? [state]
R2.a Was the task completed? [recognise]
R3.a How did others respond afterwards? [describe]
R4.a What changed because of your actions? [compare]
R5.a What part of the result came from your own contribution? [differentiate]
R6.a Were there consequences for the team, customer, project or planning? [investigate]
R7.a What worked better than expected? [appraise]
R8.a What did not work? [assess]
R9.a Looking back, was the result good enough? [judge]
R10.a What generalizations can you make from this result? [conclude]
R1.b Did you receive feedback from others? [recall]
R2.b What is the one point you do not want to forget? [select]
R3.b What do you take from this experience? [summarise]
R4.b Can you use this lesson in another task, role or team? [transfer]
R5.b What did you learn about your own behaviour? [examine]
R6.b What literature, scholarship, or theories align to or explain this experience? [relate]
R7.b What does this example show about your strengths? [assess]
R8.b Where do you still need to grow? [evaluate]
R9.b Do you agree with that feedback? [justify]
R10.b How do you feel about the result now? [reflect]
R11.b What would you do again in a similar situation? [plan]
R12.b What would you handle differently next time? [design]
R13.b What steps shall I take to advance my career based on this? [formulate]
Pitfalls of the STARR method and how to avoid them
Pitfalls of the STARR method and how to avoid them
When working with the STARR method, there are a number of recurring pitfalls. By being aware of these in advance, the quality of reflections can be improved and the method becomes truly educational.
A first pitfall of the STARR method is that a lot of attention is paid to the situation and the task, but little to action and results. The description of the context is then expanded, while one’s own behavior is elaborated on only to a limited extent. It helps to force yourself to dwell longer on the A and the R in particular. What exactly did I do? What did I say verbatim? What was the concrete outcome?
A second pitfall is that it mainly describes the behavior of others. The emphasis is then on what colleagues, customers, or managers did. This can be a relief, but it yields little learning. A simple test is to ask how many sentences begin with “I.” A STARR reflection only becomes truly personal when your own choices and reactions are central.
A third pitfall is that only difficult or negative situations are chosen. This gives a one-sided picture and can be demotivating. It is valuable to also analyze successful moments with STARR. What made it go well? What behavior do you want to show more often? Success reflection helps you to consciously use your strengths.
A fourth pitfall of the STARR method is that answers are formulated too neatly and completely, especially in a job application context. This results in an ideal story that says little about the real doubts or considerations. For development, honesty is more important than perfection. Identifying small hesitations or mistakes makes it easier to choose realistic next steps.
By taking these pitfalls seriously and discussing them where possible, STARR remains a living tool. Reflections become more concrete, honest, and useful for personal and professional growth.
Useful and practical tips for applying the STARR method
Useful and practical tips for applying the STARR method
Don’t spend too much time describing the situation and the problem; keep it short and concise. In many cases, employers are more interested in what you did in that situation and what you learned from it.
Practice answering job-specific questions using the STARR reflection based on the job description.
If you are a student: make sure you don’t just share examples of situations at university or school. Almost all students do this. Employers also want to hear about what you do and learn in other aspects of your life.
Always describe the situation in the first person. This allows you to focus on your own role in the situation.
Ask yourself open-ended questions in addition to the sample questions provided. This will give you deeper insights that are important for writing a comprehensive reflection report.
Describe the situation objectively in advance, without making any value judgments.
Don’t just look at problems and things that went wrong. Be sure to mention successes as well.
Ask other people to look at the reflection with you. This will ensure that you view the situation from as many angles as possible.
Use the STARR method regularly so that you become proficient in it. It is a very effective way to analyze your own development on a regular basis.
From reflection to development goal: combining STARR and SMART
From reflection to development goal: combining STARR and SMART
The STARR method helps you look back on one specific situation. The method reveals exactly what happened, what you did, and what the result was. This is an important first step for development. The next step is to translate those insights into future-oriented behavior. The SMART goals method ties in well with this.
After a STARR analysis, you can ask yourself three questions. What do I want to do differently next time in a similar situation? Which behavior do I want to show more often because it worked well? Which one point of attention is now most important for my development? The answers to these questions form the basis for a concrete development goal.
You can then translate this development goal into SMART form. Make it specific and measurable by describing exactly what you are going to do. Make it acceptable and realistic by checking whether it fits your role and agenda. Make it time-bound by choosing a clear period or date. In this way, STARR becomes the starting point for insight and SMART becomes the tool for planning steps.
An example. A STARR reflection shows that you quickly become defensive in difficult meetings. Based on this, you formulate a SMART goal. In the next two months, I will ask at least two in-depth questions in every tense meeting before I give my opinion, and at the end I will ask for feedback on my conversation style. In this way, a single lesson from one situation grows into a conscious development path.
STARR as a regular rhythm, not a one-off exercise
STARR as a regular rhythm, not a one-off exercise
The STARR method works best when used regularly. A one-off, extensive reflection is valuable, but real development comes from small, recurring moments of pause. STARR can form a simple rhythm for this.
One option is to briefly look back with the STARR method after every major event. Think of a presentation, an important customer meeting, a difficult meeting, or a mistake that had an impact. In ten minutes, you can fill in the five steps in keywords. That is often enough to capture the essence.
A second option is to have a fixed weekly reflection moment. At the end of the week, choose one situation that has stayed with you. This could be a success or something you found difficult. Work through that one situation with STARR and note down one learning point. This takes little time, but over a few weeks it provides a valuable overview of patterns and development.
The STARR method can also be used as a rhythm in teams. For example, every month, the team can take a short moment to choose one case and go through it together. This makes reflection part of the normal working week instead of something extra. STARR is then no longer a school assignment, but a regular habit of learning from daily practice.
STARR as a working method in education, coaching, and teams
STARR as a working method in education, coaching, and teams
The STARR method lends itself well to use as a working method. Teachers, trainers, coaches, and managers can use the five steps to make conversations and meetings structured and practical.
In training courses, the STARR method can be used for internship supervision and professional assignments. Students present a situation, write a short STARR and discuss it in pairs or small groups. The structure helps them to move from separate stories to focused reflection. Teachers can look at concrete behavior, analysis and learning points when assessing.
In coaching, one core situation can be the focus of each session. The coachee prepares this using STARR. During the conversation, each step is explored in depth. What really happened in the situation? What other actions could have been taken? What result would have been desirable? Finally, together they look for a new approach for a similar situation in the future.
In teams, the STARR method can be used for joint review of projects or incidents. The team describes the situation and task together, identifies what actions were taken and what the result was. Each team member is then given the opportunity to share their own reflections. This makes it easier to make agreements for improvement and to understand each other’s perspectives.
By incorporating STARR in these ways as a working method, a learning culture is created in which practical experience is systematically utilized. Learning and working become more closely aligned.
STARR in combination with other reflection models
STARR in combination with other reflection models
The STARR method excels at describing concrete behavior in a specific situation in a structured manner. Other reflection models place more emphasis on feelings, meaning, or broader patterns. Combining STARR with other models provides a more complete picture of what is going on and what is needed for further development.
Reflection models such as that by Korthagen help us to look beyond mere actions and results. They also focus on feelings, beliefs, and core qualities. After a STARR analysis, one of these models can be used to examine more deeply what lies beneath the visible behavior.
Models by Gibbs or Borton also offer additional questions. They explicitly invite us to explore what a situation does to someone, what meaning is attached to it, and what alternatives there are. The STARR Method can then serve as a factual foundation on which these in-depth questions are built.
For professionals, students, and managers, this combination offers the best of both worlds. The STARR Method provides clarity and structure in the case. Other reflection models open up the conversation about perception, motivations, and longer lines of development. Together, they form a powerful package for serious personal and professional growth.
Recommended books and articles about the STARR method
Recommended books and articles about the STARR method
These books and articles provide you with a solid foundation in the science and practice of structured behavioral questions such as the STARR method. The sources show why the model works, how it can be applied professionally, and how you can use concrete examples to sharpen your reflection and selection questions. This creates clarity about behavior, development, and performance.
Adler, R. B., Rosenfeld, L. B., & Proctor, R. F. (2018). Interplay: The Process of Interpersonal Communication. New York, NY: Oxford University Press. → Connects communication models with behavioral reflection and demonstrates why structured formats such as the STARR method are effective in interpreting behavior.
Buckingham, M., & Goodall, A. (2015). Reinventing Performance Management. Boston, MA: Harvard Business Review Press. → Discusses why structured behavioral questions and reflection help with performance development, which underpins the rationale behind STAR.
Campion, M. A., Palmer, D. K., & Campion, J. E. (1997). A review of structure in the selection interview. Personnel Psychology, 50(3), 655–702. → Discusses why structured interview techniques, such as STAR, are valid and reliable for predicting performance.
Huffcutt, A. I., Roth, P. L., & McDaniel, M. A. (1996). A meta-analysis of the validity of interview in personnel selection: Implications for practice. Personnel Psychology, 49(1), 125–153. → Makes it clear that interviews with structured behavioral components, including STAR, have higher validity than unstructured formats in terms of predicting job performance.
Huffcutt, A. I., & Arthur, W. Jr. (1994). Hunter and Hunter (1984) revisited: Interview validity for entry-level jobs. Journal of Applied Psychology, 79(2), 184–190. → First empirical studies demonstrating that behavior-driven interview techniques, such as STAR, are strong predictors of future performance.
Levashina, J., Hartwell, C. J., Morgeson, F. P., & Campion, M. A. (2014). The structured employment interview: Narrative and quantitative review of the research literature. Personnel Psychology, 67(1), 241–293. → Substantiates the effectiveness of structured behavioral questions and demonstrates why methods such as STAR have significant cognitive advantages over free-form interviews.
Posthuma, R. A., Morgeson, F. P., & Campion, M. A. (2002). Beyond employment interview validity: A comprehensive narrative review of recent research and trends over time. Personnel Psychology, 55(1), 1–81. → Provides an overview of trends in interview research and confirms that STAR-type questions are more effective for behavioral assessment.
Stone, D., & Heen, S. (2014). Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well. New York, NY: Viking. → Helps you understand how to use reflections such as those from STAR to share and receive feedback, making the model useful in development.
Seijts, G., & Latham, G. P. (2005). Learning Through Experience: The Leadership Development Pipeline. San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass. → Describes how structured reflection (such as STAR) can be part of leadership and career development.
Yurchenko, M. (2019). The STAR Interview: How to Tell a Great Story, Nail the Interview and Land Your Dream Job. Independently published. → This book explains in concrete terms how to use the STAR method in job applications and interviews, with clear tips and examples that make the model immediately applicable.
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