Healthy Communication

Open communication involves sharing thoughts, feelings, and concerns honestly without fear of judgment. It creates a safe space where all people feel seen and respected. Using open communication can help resolve or prevent conflict, and strengthen bonds. 

Actively listening is a skill that involves fully focusing on your partner(s) or loved ones’ words, emotions, and needs. Some active listening skills include: thoughtful attention, eye contact, and responding with empathy. 

Assuming we know what our partner(s) or loved ones are thinking or feeling can lead to misunderstandings and create tension. Instead, asking open-ended questions and seeking clarification allows for productive and honest conversations. 

Using "I statements" in communication helps express feelings and needs without blaming or criticizing the other person. For example, you could say "I feel hurt when..." instead of "You always...". This encourages more constructive conversations and reduces defensiveness. 

Boundaries help define personal limits, ensuring that everyone feels valued and understood. Clearly communicating boundaries—whether emotional, physical, or mental—allows you to feel safe in your self and relationship. Maintaining boundaries requires revisiting and adjusting them as your needs evolve. 

The Counseling and Student Development Center offers couples counseling as well? Your partner does not even need to be a UHM student! Inquire about starting couples counseling at  808-956-7927.