Respect for yourself comes from you, and when you can identify your feelings about things it's much easier to show that respect.
This is a great list of words that can be used to identify feelings... there may be more to add, but this is a fantastic start!
Knowing what you're feeling, and naming that feeling is a very important step to making a decision about what to do with it, or what not to do.
Take some time to think about what these words mean in describing your feelings.