LGBTQ GenSex Resource
A person’s sexual orientation is usually determined by age 9-11 years. This means that most kids as early as middle school already know their sexual orientation. Questioning youth may not have a label or name for how they feel but most likely know to whom they are attracted.
A person's gender identity is usually formed by age 3-5 years. Thus, most school-aged children know if they are a boy or a girl, or somewhere in between, by early elementary school. Young children may not have a label or a name to explain how they feel but most likely know what gender they are.
A person may not always know that they are trans by age 3-5, and/or gay by age 9-11. This doesn't mean that they aren't trans or gay. People can also change their labels over time and come out more than once.
An HRC publication, this guide provides important information for anyone considering coming out and living openly and authentically. It covers everything from race, gender, sexuality, faith, the emotions of coming out, how to make a plan to come out, the risks/benefits of coming out and much more.
A 2019 update to one of PFLAG National's most popular publications! BE YOURSELF offers a supportive and understanding approach to today's most common questions and concerns from youth regarding sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression. .
By The Trevor Project, this guide provides great answers to FAQ's on coming out and links to many more resources on coming out. Whether its the first time someone in middle school is coming out or an already out person is heading off to a new college and wonders how to let people know they are LGBTQ+ this resource offers advice and support.
A publication of PFLAG, this booklet is for anyone looking to learn more about how to support their "out" LGBTQ loved ones. It contains a range of helpful resources and information, expert knowledge, and tells stories of personal experiences.