Self Harm

Self-harm is when someone intentionally hurts themselves as a way of coping with difficult emotions, stress, or overwhelming situations. This behavior can be deeply concerning for parents to discover or suspect, and it's important to know that self-harm is more common than many people realize, particularly among teenagers.

Self-harm is typically not a suicide attempt, though it does indicate that your child is struggling with emotional pain and needs support. Young people may engage in self-harm for various reasons - to feel relief from emotional numbness, to cope with intense feelings, to feel a sense of control, or to express pain they can't put into words. Understanding that self-harm serves a purpose for your child, even if it's harmful, can help you approach the situation with compassion rather than panic.

While discovering that your child is self-harming can feel frightening and overwhelming, it's important to know that with appropriate support, young people can learn healthier ways to cope with difficult emotions. Early intervention and professional support make a significant difference, and recovery is absolutely possible.

This page provides information about recognizing signs of self-harm, understanding why young people might engage in these behaviors, how to respond supportively if you discover your child is self-harming, and when to seek professional help. We've also included resources for families and information about the support available through our school counseling services.

If you're concerned that your child may be self-harming, remember that reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not failure. Our school counselors are trained to support both students and families through these difficult situations, and we can help connect you with appropriate professional resources when needed.