Equity and Anti-Racism
NewYork Times Provides a list of books that can be used to help children learn about racism, racial bias, and protests.
"You can start having conversations about race in preschool, said Jacqueline Dougé, M.D., a pediatrician and child health advocate based in Maryland — children can internalize racial bias between the ages of 2 and 4, according to an American Academy of Pediatrics article that Dr. Dougé co-wrote."
"Teaching children about racism is one of the hardest and most essential things any parent or educator can do. If you’re struggling with where to start, you’re not alone."
"[Silence] breeds a lack of capacity among white people to engage in conversations about race and to respond when racism is happening."
"After a tragedy, you might feel helpless — but your child needs your support. Here's help knowing what to say."
How Might Children React?
Your child might experience fear, shock, anger, anxiety and grief. Your child's age will affect how he or she handles the stress of a tragedy. For example:
Preschool children. Children in this age range become clingy or want to stay in a place that makes them feel safe. Some children might revert to wetting the bed or sucking their thumbs. Avoid criticizing your child for this behavior.
Elementary and early middle school children. At these ages, children might fear going to school, have trouble sleeping and paying attention, or become aggressive. They might grieve in short segments and show persistent concern for their safety.
Upper middle school and high school children. Older children might deny that they're upset. Some children might complain about aches because they're unable to identify what's bothering them. Others might start arguments or resist authority. Some children might experience depression, anger and sleep problems.
These reactions are normal. However, if your child continues to display these behaviors for more than two to four weeks, he or she might need more help coping. If you're concerned about your child's reaction, talk to a mental health provider.
What Can You Do to Support Your Child?
Remain calm. Your child will look to you for cues about how to react. It's OK for children to see adults sad or crying, but consider excusing yourself if you're experiencing intense emotions.
Reassure your child of his or her safety. Point out factors that ensure your child's immediate safety. Review your home safety procedures. Make your home a comforting space for your child.
Limit media exposure. Constantly watching news coverage of a tragedy can heighten anxiety. When older children watch or read news reports, try to do it with them.
Avoid placing blame. If the tragedy was caused by human violence or error, be careful not to blame a cultural, racial or ethnic group, or people who have mental illnesses.
Maintain the routine. To give your child a sense of normalcy, keep up your family's usual dinner, homework and bedtime routine.
Spend extra time together. This can foster your child's sense of security. If your child is having trouble sleeping, allow him or her to sleep with a light on or to sleep in your room for a short time.
Encourage the expression of feelings. Explain that it's OK to be upset. Let your child write about or draw what he or she is feeling. Encourage time with friends. Physical activity might serve as an outlet for frustration.
Do something. Consider ways to help victims and their families. Hold a service related to the tragedy. You might work with your child to write thank-you notes to first responders.
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"NPR's Life Kit spoke with a handful of child development experts about what parents, teachers and other caregivers can do to help prepare and protect kids from all the scary news out there, whether it's fighting overseas, a school shooting, devastating wildfire or a global pandemic."