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Counselor Check-in
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May 11-15
May 11-15
Theme of the Week: Final Note on Resilience
Theme of the Week: Final Note on Resilience
“Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.”
~ Pelé, Brazilian Athlete and Humanitarian
At times we take success for granted. It is as if when success comes we forget all the hard work we put into achieving it. This forgetfulness can cause us to think that success comes easy. If we forget what we put into something the next time we face a hard time we can get discouraged and feel like a failure. During these times we must help our children remember the hard work they put into achieving success in the past and help them to apply it to their current situation.
“Dictionary is the only place that success comes before work. Hard work is the price we must pay for success. I think you can accomplish anything if you're willing to pay the price.”
~ Vince Lombardi
How to Use Past Success to Confront Current Challenges
How to Use Past Success to Confront Current Challenges
Defining Success:
Help your child define what success means to them.
Is success simply based on whether or not they get a good grade or accomplish a task?
Or can success come even when it might look as if we failed by the standards of others?
Past Success:
When faced with a difficult task it can be helpful to help your children think of a time when they had success in the past.
What strategies did they use?
Is there anything they did differently than those around them who weren’t as successful?
Of the strategies they listed, are there any that can be applied to their current situation?
Integrating the theme into the Home:
Integrating the theme into the Home:
*As we discussed in previous lessons – heightened emotion and rational thinking cannot exist in the brain at the same time. If your child is flustered or frustrated they may not be able to come up with answers to the above questions. Help them find ways to release their frustration and calm down before attempting to find a solution. If they are not in a calm mind their frustration level may increase.
Calming Activities
Younger children:
Sesame Street: Common and Colbie Caillat - "Belly Breathe" with Elmo
DANIEL TIGER'S NEIGHBORHOOD | What Do You Do with the Mad that You Feel? Song | PBS KIDS
Get outdoors
Taking a break
Older children;
Yoga
Mindfulness
Go for a walk
Exercise
Deep breathing
Take a break
Listen to calming music
Resist the urge to fix it or do it for them
Sometimes we have the answers for the questions above and it would be very easy to just give that to our children. However, we must resist the urge to fix it when our children are struggling or take the task and do it ourselves. Everything in us as parents causes us to want to make things better for our children, but doing so would rob them of the chance to build great life skills.
If they don’t practice those skills now when there is a safety net they will be forced to learn them while trying to navigate an adult world.
You can’t learn to cook by watching someone else do it. You actually have to get in the kitchen and work a recipe yourself. You might get burned, but each time the wound heals and you learn from it.
In the same way our kids can’t learn by watching us solve their problems.
Additional Resources on Resilience
Additional Resources on Resilience
Website Resources:
(PK – 12th) Parent Guide to Resilience – Why Try
(5th – 12th) 7 Challenges Successful People Overcome
(5th – 12th) Building Brain Attention Skills
(3rd – 6th) Growth Mindset Activity
Articles for Parents:
ADDITIONAL TECHNOLOGY APPS/RESOURCES
ADDITIONAL TECHNOLOGY APPS/RESOURCES
Breathe2Relax is a portable stress management tool which provides detailed information on the effects of stress on the body and instructions and practice exercises to help users learn the stress management skill called diaphragmatic breathing.
Calm is another mindfulness app. These guided meditations are perfect for complete novices through seasoned practitioners, and you have your pick when it comes to how long you can dedicate to the app each day. In addition to an assortment of daily meditations, Calm features nature sounds and sleep stories.
Stop, Breathe, and Think is your daily mindfulness app that also prompts you to input how you’re feeling. Select your mood when you open the app and it will suggest the meditations, yoga sequences, or acupressure that could serve you best in that moment, from deep breathing exercises to body scans to visualizations. The check-in feature also allows you to track your moods and progress, so you can examine what you feel most and focus on taming or understanding those anxieties better.
What’s Up? uses techniques from both Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance Commitment Therapy to help users cope with issues like anxiety, depression, and anger. The app offers a diary feature with a scale for rating your emotions, a “catastrophe scale” to help you put problems in perspective, breathing techniques, and an interactive question game to keep you feeling grounded during stressful moments.
Mindshift app helps manage and decrease anxiety for people of all ages, and is used across the world.
Colorfy Pouring your attention into the beautiful designs can distract from your anxious thoughts and help calm you down.
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