Beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder, and while beauty is right at the center of attraction, there is more to attractiveness than meets the eye. Many might be lead to believe that all you need to attract a man or woman is mere physical beauty but just like in trying to seduce, while this might be true in some rare cases that have become a vastly antiquated way of approaching the subject matter.
Other than beauty, there are other traits you need to exhibit in order to come across as more attractive before the man or woman of your dreams. These include but not restricted to intelligence, shared interests, empathy, commitment, and loyalty to name a few.
HOW TO BE MORE ATTRACTIVE TO A MAN
1. Shared Interests
Shared interests are key when trying to look attractive to a man. What are your interests and how passionate are you about your job? Have you ever heard the statement “I love a man in uniform”? well that also applies to men. Men love a woman in uniform and generally a woman that has a skill or is excellent at her job. There is something about the taboo of sexual relations in the workplace that is appealing to most men hence the thought of that alone is enough to whet their appetites. So don’t be afraid to show your more technical or academic side to get what you want. It could be the deciding factor.
2. Exhibit intelligence
It may seem irrelevant to the subject matter but trust me, most men are not attracted to a lady that is not intelligent and unaware. When a man speaks with a lady and she seems to know a lot about a lot of things it sends a message to his brain that this is a special person and a potential partner. From your initial conversation, a man can already tell your level of intelligence and exposure. Imagine you are both having a conversation at a bar and something comes on the television and your commentary on the issue is completely devoid of any logic or awareness, that can be a major turn off and if it continues throughout the conversation, then you are never going to get beyond drinks. Intelligence is sexy, and may just be the key to looking attractive to the guy of your dreams. So next time you come across the national geographic channel, any news outlet/documentary channel, even just a book on any topic, then sit back and learn a thing or two.
3. Show Empathy
The importance of empathy in a potential relationship cannot be over-emphasized. The ability to see things from the man’s perspective will go a long way in making you appear attractive to a man. There are many situations in which empathy comes to play. While having initial conversations, he might bring up the loss of a parent or sibling, he might talk about a job he lost, or even about a tragic incident in his past. In such cases, your ability to understand his pain and stand by him, giving him words of encouragement and more, will help make you appear attractive before him. If he did not notice you before, he definitely will after this. Men have strong emotions even if it feels like they feel nothing most times. So your ability to listen, understand and help him through his pain makes you an essential and potentially integral part of his life. Who knows, you might be the savior he has needed for the longest time and nothing is more attractive than someone you can rely on.
4. Commitment
The idea of commitment is very important when trying to attract a man. Every man values commitment because it provides some sort of anchor or stability in their life. A man needs to know that if they commit to you, they will receive the same. So when you are trying to be attractive to a man, always make sure he knows and sees it is all for him and him alone. This is not the time to openly flirt when any man you come across. This inevitably gives the man the idea that you are not really interested in him and he would never truly find you attractive. Also on your path, you should exercise some patience as well. This is because it might take some time before the man shows some commitment to you because he wants to be sure. This means that this is not the time to ask the “what are we?” or marriage-related questions. Doing this might end up being counterproductive to the development of the relationship. In fact, your not showing much interest in those questions will make him want to commit more so he does not lose you. After all, who does not like a good thing?
5. Loyalty
Loyalty is a solid trait in any relationship and the bedrock of a solid partnership. When a man knows that they can trust you or that you are a trustworthy person, there is a form of attractiveness attached to it. That feeling of security in the fact that you have got their back no matter what happens, the feeling that they can rely on you come rain, come sunshine. Loyalty goes a long way in making you appear attractive before a man. There is a statement “she belongs to the streets” used for ladies that cannot stay with one man. This statement, as derogatory as it sounds is also a turn-off for most man and as a lady, you do not want to be associated with such. Simply put, if you are associated with that statement, you will never truly be attractive to a man and you do not want that.
6. Physical Beauty
We would be lying if we said that physical beauty has no part to play in attractiveness to a man. It has its part to play so always make sure you look your best especially before the man you want to attract. Dress well, maintain proper hygiene and wear a smile and you are on your way to getting the man of your dreams.
HOW TO BE MORE ATTRACTIVE TO A WOMAN
Trying to attract a woman can be a daunting task if done wrong. After all, while attracting a man might not be straightforward, it is much easier when compared to the task of trying to attract a woman. One has to be careful with the approach taken because any little mistake can lead to a very embarrassing situation and trust me, no man wants to be caught with their pants down figuratively speaking.
There is a popular misconception that all you need to attract a woman is either be wealthy or be handsome or even a combination of both. While this might work on some ladies, you are going to end up disappointed if that is your entire approach to appear attractive before a woman.
Some of the essential traits required to be more attractive to the woman you want include but are not restricted to one or more combinations of the manner of speaking, non-verbal communication, self-worth, confidence, and dress sense to name a few
Now let’s go more in-depth on these traits we have mentioned above, starting with:
1. Manner of speaking:
The way you speak to a woman says a lot about your intentions to a woman. Now to achieve this, you want to speak to her in a commanding manner and exert a little bit of your masculine charisma. This doesn’t mean you should shout at her, this will only lead to an embarrassing situation. What you want to do is the opposite, you want to speak to her in a low sexy baritone voice, brimming with confidence and desire, and watch her melt before your eyes. Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man with a smooth sexy voice.
2. Psychological Techniques:
There are several proven psychological tips on how to land your dream woman. I would recommend an ebook called "LOV_EX". This book gives you tips on how to conquer the heart of a woman step by step by using psychological techniques. The methods of the system are based on fundamental psychology but all knowledge and tricks get conveyed in an easily understandable way.
3. Non-verbal communication:
Body language has long been a tool for humans to communicate attraction to each other. Knowing the right signals to read and being able to read hers is of utmost importance. Try and relax, it is a piece of simple but effective advice, if you are too agitated, it connotes eagerness and that wouldn’t necessarily help your case. You want to appear to relax and in control. Cool, calm, and collected, that’s the way to go. Your facial expressions are a dead giveaway of your confidence levels so make sure you aren’t making any funny faces because that could make you look really unattractive.
4. Self Confidence and Self-worth:
The statement “If you don’t value yourself, no one will value” comes to mind when the subject of self-esteem is brought up. This is because irrespective of your looks, a woman will always admire confidence in a man. A man that is comfortable in his skin and knows his worth. Don’t be afraid to go for what you want and more often than not, you will succeed. Value yourself and he will value you.
In placing value on yourself, you want to make sure you don’t look too eager. Playing “hard to get” in this scenario will be a huge help. You want her to know that despite the fact that you want her and she is a prize, you also are a prize as well. Anything other than this will appear desperate on your path. Show her you are as valuable as she is in the relationship but there is a limit to this. The limit is that you might come off as smug, overly proud, or straight up not interested in pursuing something serious. This will inevitably leave a dent in your prospects and you do not want that. Hence, while exhibiting this trait, ensure it is done in moderation.
5. Stand out, don’t be a simp
This is a very important point and most guys fall victim to this. Worshiping a woman in an attempt to please her or make her attracted to you is counter-productive. A woman place on a pedestal will never know your worth. Let her know you are not like other guys that cower in her presence. Never be afraid to speak your mind because she won’t always be right. There will be other guys in her life and you should never complain about them else you come across as insecure. Rather cultivate your relationships with your friends especially those of the female variety. She should not be the focal point of your life and all your activities and actions should not revolve around her, because spoiler alert, hers does not revolve around you. You leave her today, 20 guys are waiting to take your place. So she needs to know your value, care for her and show love to her but always maintain your standards.
Remember, every woman out there is unique so you may require one or more of these ideas to appear as attractive as you want before them.