Possible Family Lines (Research notes)

All my family has a sibiling with similar name die before they were borning.

Jesse Woodson Lynch (1830 - 1911) of Virginia married Barbara Spoon, (born in 1833 in Grainger County, Tennessee) in 1853 in Crawford County, Arkansas. Jesse enlisted in the Arkansas Infantry on November 18, 1861, and was assigned to Co. D of the 17th Division. In the fall of 1863, Jesse Woodson Lynch was in a skirmish where his horse was shot from under him. He was shot in the leg and then bayoneted through his side while pinned under the horse. He recovered at the Army Hospital in Iuka, Missouri, but was reportedly crippled for life. He returned to his home in Benton County, Arkansas on August 17, 1863, and learned that his wife, Barbara Spoon had been killed by Jayhawkers (who supported the Union). Their children, John, David, James, and Susan were being cared for by the neighbors.

According to Family tradition, Jesse the neighbor, Rebecca, and they had one child, Jeffry. Rebecca later found out her first husband was still alive, she took Jeffry, and left.

Most of the Lynch families were pro-union and Jesse found he wasn’t welcome by family. He later moved to Camden County, Missouri, remarried, and raised another family with Matilda Jane Baker. She was born on January 15, 1850, in Kentucky. They married on October 8, 1868, in Dallas County, Missouri (Jesse's third marriage). They became the parents of seven children: Mary Ellen, Sarah A., Matilda Cordelia, Margaret Angeline, Dolly Josephine, Minnie Adeline, and Evaline Lynch. Jesse W. Lynch died November 1, 1911, in Camden County, Missouri, and was buried in the Pleasant Grove Cemetery there.

Jesse's last child with Barbara was born in 1861. He returned home in 1863. His first child with Matilda Jane Baker was 1871. Looking for Jeffry born between 1863-1867, born in Arkansas.

This would make sense for the same family names:

Jesse Woodson Lynch, father of James Woodson Linch. Rebecca McGrew took Jeffry and maybe changed his name to Jesse? Rebecca Cole? Rebecca McGrew? McClure?

The Cole family settled on the Missouri River. St. Louis was a port city and a major hub for the slave trade. Benjamin Lynch ran at "slave pen" where slaves were held for auction or punishment. Jud Beamis documented in a letter in April 1862 that St. Louis still had a mostly successionist feeling and almost all of the old and wealthy families in the area were southern in sentiment. St. Louis saw a population increase of five-fold in 1840-1850. A large population of German's immigrated in 1840's and 1850's and were against slavery, so at the start of the civil war in 1861, which influenced the sentiment of the city.