Cornerstone Events

2018-19 Project Cornerstone Book & Event Summaries

Project Cornerstone at Bubb, February 2019

This month’s Project Cornerstone book, Nobody Knew What To Do by Becky Ray McCain, tells the story of how one child found the courage to be an UPstander and tell a teacher about a fellow student who was being picked on and bullied by children in school.

Goals of lesson:

  • Differentiate between “kid-sized problems” that can be handled yourself and “adult-sized problems” that require adult intervention.
  • Identify caring adults who provide support and positive communication.
  • Teach students how to tell and make a report.
  • Use positive self-talk to boost personal power in interpersonal relationships.
  • Role model UPstander responses to support each other.

To reinforce this lesson at home:

  • Be the one your child can come to when they need to be heard.
  • Listen and be aware of situations that need further attention.
  • Stay calm and gather information by asking questions. In most instances, you can help your child identify and state the problem. “So Jack is picking on you at recess. What are some things you/we might do?” Help your child see their personal power is in how they choose to react.
  • Help your child troubleshoot both kid-sized and adult-sized problems. “If you go to the teacher what would happen?” Look at 2 or 3 strategies and consequences and have your child choose one.
  • Reassure your child. Thank them for sharing their worries and tell them that you will be there when they need help. Check back later to see if the strategy is working. If you are not sure what to say or do, reassure your child you will find a way to help and get back to them. Follow through on your promises.

Nobody Knew What to Do by Becky Ray McCain is available from Mountain View Public Library.

Complementary books include:

  • Don’t Squeal Unless It’s a Big Deal by Jeanie Franz Ransom and Jackie Urbanovic
  • Dorie Witt's Guide to Surviving Bullies by Brigitte Berman
  • Just Kidding by Trudy Ludwig
  • Tough! by Erin Frankel
  • What Happens Next by Susan Hughes
  • Zachary and the Magic Spectacles by Rachel Freiermiller Sivek
  • Chapter Book: Number the Stars by Lois Lowry
  • Chapter Book: Paper Wishes by Lois Sepahban

Project Cornerstone at Bubb, December/January 2018

This month’s Project Cornerstone Book, Trouble Talk by Trudy Ludwig, is about the power of words and the ways they can be destructive. The main characters experience hurtful words within the guise of friendship and learn how to turn trouble talk into healthy talk. Healthy talk provides ways to use words in a helpful, constructive manner to build friendships. In today’s technological world, rumors can be spread anonymously and cause wide, irreparable damage. We must make choices to avoid causing harm as digital citizens.

Goals of the lesson:

  • Develop and maintain friendships with healthy talk.
  • Empower each student to be a friendship role model.
  • Stop and THINK (is it True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind?) to avoid trouble talk.

Remind your child the strategies discussed in class:

  • Refuse to listen when friends are gossiping.
  • Don’t repeat rumors or gossip to others.
  • Question the accuracy of the rumor.
  • Say something positive about the target of the rumor.
  • Tell a trusted adult.

Today, rumors and gossip are often spread beyond the bathroom walls and into the digital world, which makes it possible for rumors to spread even further and even more quickly. To learn how to help your kids navigate this online world, visit the website of Common Sense Media at

Trouble Talk by Trudy Ludwig is available from Mountain View Public Library.

Complementary books include:

  • Blabber Mouse by True Kelley
  • Bully by Patricia Polacco
  • The Drama Llama A Story About Spreading Rumors and Gossip by Susan Bowman, Ed.S., LPC
  • Hen Hears Gossip by Megan McDonald
  • Mr. Peabody’s Apples by Madonna
  • The Student from Zombie Island: Conquering the Rumor Monster by Michael J. Moorehead
  • Chapter Book: The Other Boy by M.G. Hennessey
  • Chapter Book: Queen of the Toilet Bowl by Frieda Wishinsky
  • Chapter Book: Unfriended by Rachel Vail
  • Chapter Book: Wolf Hollow by Lauren Wolk

Project Cornerstone at Bubb, November 2018

This month’s Project Cornerstone book, Say Something by Peggy Moss, is a powerful story in which the narrator sees and hears teasing, put-downs, pushing, and other forms of bully behaviors at her school. Because she’s confused about what to do, she doesn’t do anything at first. However, her responses change as she gains understanding and empathy.

Goals of the lesson:

  • To understand that UPstanders say or do something to stand up to bully behaviors and support targets.
  • UPstanders know and practice tools that support peers in face-to-face situations as well as online in the digital world.
  • To move all students from the passive role of bystander to the integrity-rich role of UPstander.

Reinforce this lesson at home:

  • Talk about ways that each family member is an UPstander at home!
  • Review the UPstander Triangle with your family.
  • Role-play different scenarios to practice UPstander behaviors, words you can say, and actions to take if someone needs your help.
  • Say or do something when someone needs help.

Say Something by Peggy Moss is available from Mountain View Public Library or you can watch a video read-aloud here.

Complementary books include:

  • Click, Clack, Moo: Cows that Type by Doreen Cronin
  • Dare! by Erin Frankel
  • The Juice Box Bully: Empowering Kids to Stand Up by Bob Sornson and Maria Dismondy
  • Llama Llama and the Bully Goat by Anna Dewney
  • A Tale of Sir Dragon: Dealing with Bullies for Kids by Jean E. Pendziwol
  • Chapter Book: The Hundred Dresses by Eleanor Estes
  • Chapter Book: Island of the Blue Dolphins by Scott O’Dell
  • Chapter Book: Orphan Island by Laurel Snyder

Project Cornerstone Assembly: The Power of One

On Thursday, November 1, we had two assemblies at Bubb that showed how each of us has the power to become an UPstander and help stop bullying. Several Bubb Cubs got to join the actors as they performed skits showing different types of bullying. Those who played the role of bystanders got the chance to say or do something to either stop the bully or support the target, making them UPstanders! We finished by taking the Power of One Anti-Bullying Oath:

I will not bully others

I will not stand by while others are bullied

I will report and deal with bullying whenever I see it

Because I have the Power of One

Bullying is defined as HURTFUL, INTENTIONAL, and REPEATED behavior by one person towards another where the intent is to cause harm and isolation.

Tattling or Telling? The purpose of tattling is to get someone else in trouble, to take revenge or to get attention for oneself. Telling or making a report lets adults know what is happening when you are a witness to or experience a bullying incident or social conflict and need support.

Project Cornerstone at Bubb, October 2018

This month’s Project Cornerstone book Simon’s Hook by Karen Burnett is a colorful story that compares teases to fishing hooks and tells the tale of how the fish learned not to bite.

Goals of lesson:

  • Help students feel empowered and in control of their responses to hurtful teases and put-downs.
  • Have students learn and practice specific language and techniques to allow them to swim free.

Please ask your child about the 5 strategies that Simon’s neighbor, Grandma Rose, offers to help Simon avoid taking the bait:

  • Do little or nothing—don’t react!
  • Pretend to agree with the hook.
  • Change the subject to distract the bully.
  • Laugh at the hook and make a joke of it.
  • Stay away from the hooks and swim in another part of the sea.

As caring adults in the lives of youth, we can help develop and nurture skills to navigate the rough patches in life. Our ultimate goal is for youth to be able to handle these bumps and ruts on their own!

Simon’s Hook by Karen Burnett is available from Mountain View Public Library.

Complementary books include:

  • Bully on the Bus by Carl W. Bosch
  • Choose Your Life by Karen Gedig Burnett (6th to High school)
  • Chrysanthemum by Kevin Henkes
  • Just Kidding by Trudy Ludwig
  • Chapter Book: Beyond the Bright Sea by Lauren Wolk
  • Chapter Book: Been There, Done That: School Dazed by Mike Winchell and Eglantine Ceulemans
  • Chapter Book: Clayton Byrd Goes Underground by Rita Williams-Garcia
  • Chapter Book: Lemonade Wars by Jacqueline Davies
  • Chapter Book: Pashmina by Nidhi Chanani
  • Chapter Book: The Secret Life of Lincoln Jones by Wendelin Van Draanen

Project Cornerstone at Bubb, September 2018

This month’s book, Have You Filled a Bucket Today? by Carol McCloud, is about expressing daily kindness and appreciation to others.

Goals of lesson:

  • Teach students the 3 laws of bucket filling:
      • Be a bucket filler.
      • Don’t dip.
      • Use your lid.
  • Empower students to intentionally fill their own buckets and the buckets of others with good feelings (warm fuzzies).

Ask your child to tell you more about:

  • Warm fuzzies-What are they?
  • Bucket fillers-How can you fill your own bucket and the buckets of others?
  • Bucket dippers-How can you keep a lid on your bucket and how can you help bucket dippers fill their bucket?

When you “catch” kids modeling positive behaviors...Notice, Name it, and Celebrate it!

Have You Filled a Bucket Today? by Carol McCloud is available from Mountain View Public Library.

Complementary books include:

  • Because Amelia Smiled by David Erza Stein
  • Bucket Filling from A to Z, The Key to Being Happy by Carol McCloud
  • How Full is Your Bucket? for Kids by Tom Rath and Mary Reckmeyer
  • The Original Warm Fuzzy Tale by Claude Steiner
  • Somebody Loves You Mr. Hatch by Eileen Spinelli
  • Your Fantastic Elastic Brain by Jo Ann Deak, Ph.D
  • Chapter Book: Flying Lessons & Other Stories by Ellen Oh
  • Chapter Book: The Playbook: 52 Rules to Aim, Shoot, and Score in this Game Called Life by Kwame Alexander
  • Chapter Book: Wishtree by Katherine Applegate
  • Chapter Book: We’re All Wonders by R.J. Palacio

Project Cornerstone at Bubb August 2018

The Bubb community is gearing up for another fabulous year with Project Cornerstone! This year we will return to the fundamental books in Year A with the theme “growing UPstanders.” Your child will learn strategies for how to deal with teasing and bullying behavior (Simon’s Hook and Say Something), how to be an UPstander (One and Nobody Knew What to Do), the importance of integrity (The Empty Pot), and the power of kindness (Have You Filled a Bucket Today?)

We hope you have a fantastic year!

Monica Teicher, Carol Huang, Shawn Shahin & Estefania Millan (