Parenting 2.0

Which son or daughter do you have the most difficult relationship with?

Read: Proverbs 22:6

As parents, we need to initiate a paradigm shift as to how we see our role in the lives of our children. Because parenthood is a gift, we need to take a more positive outlook in rearing them as a response to God’s call for each of us. How then can we take a more positive approach in caring for our children? Here are some practical steps on how we can empower them to become more resilient, independent, and dependable adults:

1. Create a positive home environment. Nurture a caring and helping attitude among the siblings. Teach them to deal with arguments and disagreements in a loving way. Help them build strong and caring relationships with one another.

2. Be sensitive to the needs of each child. Listen to their needs and respect their feelings and emotions. Be quick to encourage and slow to judge.

3. Believe in them. Help them develop their self-esteem and confidence by affirming their strengths and help them cope with their weaknesses and limitations.

4. Keep communication lines open. Meet them where they are by connect to their likes and interests. Help them connect with their siblings and friends. Let them know that you are never too busy to listen to them.

5. Pray for your children. Lift each and every child to God in prayer. Seek His wisdom on how you can raise them to be the men and women He designed them to be. We may not always be there to protect them, but God will be.

Amidst today’s technological innovations, organic communication, done as often as possible and within an atmosphere of authentic love, care and support, can do wonders for our children and for our relationship with them. They simply need to discover what their God-given talents are, and to process what their strengths and weaknesses are so that they can see on their own, their areas of improvement and further development. All it takes is enough patience, proper guidance, and support from their family, more so, their parents.

1. Which among the tips listed above do you find it difficult to do? Why?

2. What can your spouse do to help you pass that difficulty?

Spent a day with your spouse and discuss how both of you can contribute in creating a positive home environment.