Faithfully Yours

march 2021 Date night topic

Grab

Is there an instance where you had a need that your spouse was not able to satisfy? How did it make you feel?

Grace

Read : 1 Corinthians 16:14

“Do everything in love.”

Love is all about giving without expecting anything in return. When our needs are satisfied, it is very easy to find joy in our marriage. When our needs are unmet, we may unknowingly look for ways to satisfy it outside our marriage.

We need to learn to understand our spouse’s basic needs so we can fulfill them. When our spouse is happy and fulfilled, there is no reason for him/her not to make us happy and fulfilled too. We also need to learn to communicate our needs to our spouse, not expecting that they would know or understand how we feel.

Source: His Needs, Her Needs by William F. Harley Jr., PhD

Gather

  1. Make a list of the ten (10) emotional needs. Rank each emotional need that he/she needs the most. The wife can choose from the list of the emotional needs of men and vice versa.

  2. Discuss the top 3 needs on your list. Be honest with your answers and keep an open mind when hearing the needs of your spouse. Discuss also how you can help fulfill each other’s needs in the future.

Go Forth

Pray for each other’s needs. May God grant you both a selfless and giving heart to look at the needs of the other person before your own. Lift up your relationship to the Lord.

Commit to have a regular couple time daily (even for just 15 minutes of uninterrupted time when the children are asleep or in school) and weekly for your couple date night.