It is almost always a mistake to commit suicide. Yet, many people
exaggerate the negative consequences of suicide in the afterlife because
they are afraid someone might kill themself if they were not afraid of
being punished for it. However, exaggerating the negative consequences of
suicide is also a mistake because it increases the suffering of those
who are grieving for suicide victims, and it causes confusion to suicide
victims when they cross over.
Someone who is contemplating suicide needs to understand that suicide
won't solve anything because they are an immortal spirit and it is
impossible to really kill yourself. Furthermore, you can't escape the
consequences of your actions by killing yourself.
Someone who is grieving for a suicide victim, or a suicide victim who
has just crossed over, needs to understand there is no special
punishment assigned to suicide victims in the afterlife.
In the vast majority of cases, people kill themselves due to abnormal
brain chemistry. This was the subject of a radio program on NPR. The
description of the program on the NPR web site explains....
What drives people to suicide? NPR's Michelle Trudeau reports that in
laboratories around the country, neuro-scientists are trying to find
out. They're studying the brains of people who've committed suicide and
comparing them with people who died suddenly. People who commit suicide
appear to have different brain chemistry than others.
However, once the spirit is no longer under the influence of
the physical body, they come back to their right mind.
I've seen mediums bring through spirits who committed suicide on the
John Edward show, and in Spiritualist churches, and I've even brought
through one myself in a mediumship class and it is clear that no one is
automatically condemned to the lowest spheres in the afterlife solely
because they killed themself. There is no special punishment in the afterlife for people who commit suicide.
Spirits who need healing or other types of help when they cross over get
the help they need in the afterlife.
If their suicide causes problems
for others, they will regret it, just like someone with cancer might
regret the burden their illness caused other family members. Even if
the suicide was due to mental illness or for, example, a brain tumor and
there are no karmic consequences, they still might regret the suffering
of their loved ones still on earth.
If you kill yourself to avoid karma (the consequences of your actions)
that is a mistake because you can't hide from your karma. It will catch
up with you in this life or the next. If you kill yourself to avoid
regret over your actions in life you will still regret those actions in
For this reason people who learn about the afterlife are less likely to
commit suicide. It was found that people who have a near death
experience are less likely to commit suicide.
In Lessons from the Light,
Kenneth Ring and Evelyn Elsaesser discuss research showing that
just learning about Near Death Experiences deters suicide.Ring People who learn
about the afterlife and the fact that suicide doesn't help in any way,
are less likely to commit suicide.
The following excerpt, from a description by Sandra Rogers of her
near-death experience, shows that victims of suicide are greeted with
love in the afterlife but also that suicide does not let them evade
I came into the presence of a brilliant, wonderfully warm and loving Light. While I was in the presence of this Light I was shown a review of my life and all the events that brought me to that point.
I was given the choice of remaining with the light, provided I return later to the physical world and experience all that brought me to the point of shooting myself, or I could return now and pick up my life where it was. I was told that I would eventually have the family and love I so desperately yearned for.
John Edward and George Anderson two highly respected mediums both say no one is punished in the
John Edward in his book "One Last Time" in the chapter "Sneaking Peaks" has this to say about suicide:
We are not punished on the Other Side, except by ourselves. We ask
ourselves why we did what we did, and seek to improve.
An example is suicide. I've had people come through who have ended
their own lives, and in some cases they have given me the feeling that
they have a spiritual type of therapy going on around them. Even though
they are all right - they are not in any kind of limbo, as some might
believe - they are trying to understand why they did what they did, and
using it in learning their spiritual lessons. There is also a sense of
sorrow for the people they left behind. This is not to say such
feelings are unique to those who have committed suicide. I have had
many spirits who passed from the physical state in "natural" ways, or in
accidents, come through conveying to me that they are working on those
same kinds of lessons. What matters is how they spent their time on
this side. Someone with minimal human success - spiritual, not
material, of course-will have to work on his lessons on the Other Side.
Our physical lives are analogous to formal schooling. You're better off
doing well in school - you'll have a leg up when you graduate - but even
if you don't do well, or you drop out (suicide), you can still become a
success story. It depends on what you do after you leave school."
George Anderson's "Lessons from the Light" in chapter six: "Suicide" has this to say
The issue of passing by one's own hand is a difficult one for us to
understand, mainly because what the Other Side has told me with regard
to suicide flies in the face of just about every religion. I am not
sure why it would, though, because the hereafter's way makes perfect
sense. As I stated before, nothing is beyond the understanding and
wisdom of the Infinite Light, and no one is punished in the hereafter
for their actions on the earth - they are simply shown the impact of
their actions on those who love them, and the soul must take it from
Because of the volume of mail sent to me on this subject with the same
question, which comes up again and again, I will state simply and
emphatically that according to the souls in the hereafter, no one who
commits suicide goes to Hell. I can say this without reservation
because, according to the hereafter, there is no "Hell" as we have been
conditioned to think about it. The wisdom of the Infinite Light
understands the reasons behind every action taken against oneself or
another. The souls in the hereafter who have passed by their own hand
tell me time and time again that they were not in the correct frame of
mind to consider the gravity of their actions. This in itself is a form
of mental illness, which the hereafter would try to reconcile - not
Here is an excerpt from
Lessons from the Light
by Kenneth Ring and Evelyn Elsaesser which explains how knowledge of the
afterlife deters suicide.
As far as I know, the first clinician to make use of NDE material in
this context was a New York psychologist named John McDonagh. In 1979,
he presented a paper at a psychological convention that described his
success with several suicidal patients using a device he called "NDE
bibliotherapy." His "technique" was actually little more than having his
patients read some relevant passages from Raymond Moody's book,
Reflections on Life after Life, after which the therapist and his
patient would discuss its implicatins for the latter's own situation.
McDonagh reports that such an approach was generally quite successful
not only in reducing suicidal thoughts but also in preventing the deed
Since McDonagh's pioneering efforts, other clinicians knowledgeable
about the NDE who have had the opportunity to counsel suicidal patients
have also reported similar success. Perhaps the most notable of these
therapists is Bruce Greyson, a psychiatrist now at the University of
Virginia, whose specialty as a clinician has been suicidology. He is
also the author of a classic paper on NDEs and suicide which the
specialist may wish to consult for tis therapeutic implications. (14)
Quite apart form the clinicians who have developed this form of what we
migh call "NDE-assisted therapy," I can draw upon my own personal
experience here to provide additional evidence of how the NDE has
helped to deter suicide. The following case ...