There are many different types of meditation used for many different
purposes. One very common type of meditation is to sit quietly and
concentrate on one thing such as the pleasant feeling of relaxation
produced by breathing gently, or on various sensations in your body, or
by repeating a mantra possibly in rhythm with your breath. You focus your
attention in one of these ways, and when you notice your mind wandering,
you bring it back to the focus of attention.
If you notice an unpleasant thought or emotion during meditation, it
is important not to push it away, otherwise you may develop the habit of
repressing thoughts and feelings by your practice of meditation.
Instead of pushing away unpleasant thoughts and emotions, relax, open
yourself to them, observe them, and notice the feelings in your body
associated with them. Then after observing them clearly in a relaxed
way until they lose some of their force, go back to the focus of the
meditation. If you experience very strong unpleasant emotions you can
go back to concentrating until you feel relaxed again. Each person
must find their own correct balance between
observing emotions and concentrating. There is more on this topic below. (It is not unusual for strong emotions to arise
during meditation. Some people may not want to deal with them and might
prefer to practice
instead of meditation.)
Counting The Breath
An excellent meditation technique useful for beginners and experienced
practitioners alike is counting the breath. To do this,
breathe in a relaxed way smoothly and gently from the diaphragm
without pausing after inhalations or exhalations. Notice the pleasant
feeling of relaxation it produces. If you feel like smiling a little,
it is good to do so, holding in a smile tends to suppress feelings of
happiness. As you do this, count the breaths up to ten. Say the
numbers inwardly like a mantra in rhythm with your breathing. After
ten, start over again counting from one. You can count both inhalations
and exhalation or just exhalations. Try not to lapse in to the state
where you count with half your mind and the other half is wandering off.
Try to devote your full attention to the pleasant feeling of relaxation,
breathing from the diaphragm,
and awareness of counting. The
difference is like being vaguely aware of background music as compared
to listening intently to a piece of music interests you. If you find
that meditation takes you into a deeply relaxed state where it seems to
take a lot of effort just to say each number inwardly, you can stop
counting and just observe each breath. If you find your mind wandering
then go back to counting.
Some people feel that because they have trouble concentrating, they
can't meditate, or they aren't any good at it. In this situation, it
may help them to change their understanding of what meditation is. It
can be better to think of meditation not as an exercise where you hold
the mind still, but as an exercise where the mind is given a chance to
become still. Like a wild horse put in a pen, when you start a
meditation session, the mind may run around and around in circles. But
just as the horse will eventually calm down and stop running, so will
the mind eventually slow down and become calm if you sit quietly and
persist in meditation. The more turbulent your mind is, the longer it
will take to calm down. (When the mind is very turbulent, it may help to
combine meditation with relaxation
In this view, a meditation session is a process of letting out and
letting go which leads to a calmer and more relaxed state of being at
the end of the session. As you concentrate, you make the effort to let
go of thoughts and emotions by thinking of the object of the meditation
(i.e. a mantra) to displace other thoughts from your mind. As you do
this, you know that letting go is not the only important thing you are
doing during meditation. When you notice you are distracted by a
thought or emotion you also understand that this distraction is part of
another important process - letting out. There is no need to feel any
regret or annoyance that you have lost concentration. When you notice
you have become distracted, you understand that these thoughts and
emotions that arise are an equal part of meditation. Their arising is
part of the process of letting out. After each distraction, the mind is
a tiny bit calmer. It may help to think of it as if there are a finite
number of times you will lose concentration before the mind becomes calm
and you have to experience each of those distractions to get to the
final state of being calm and relaxed. When the mind is very turbulent,
distractions will come fast and furious. No matter. Just keep going
back to concentration knowing that this is the natural way a turbulent
mind becomes calm, and if you are patient and persistent you will find
peace through this process of letting out and letting go.
(Also see, Why is it so hard to concentrate? Sources of distraction and obstacles to concentration during meditation.)
Each person must find the right balance between letting out and letting
go for himself. Too much letting out might cause you to develop the habit of
dwelling in unpleasant emotions. Too much letting go might cause you to
suppress thoughts and emotions and feel tense instead of relaxed.
While you meditate, as you notice distractions and go back to focusing
the mind, there may be a tendency to suppress the intruding thoughts and
feelings. This may lead to developing a habit of suppressing thoughts
and emotions during other times. The way to avoid this pitfall is when
you notice a distraction in meditation, if you find you are also
experiencing an emotion, take a moment to notice the sensations of the
emotion in your body and note to yourself what the thought that caused
that emotion was. As you bring your mind back to the focus of
meditation, you may also allow your awareness to linger on the
sensations in your body that accompanied the emotion.
Meditation Is Not A Panacea
Many people are attracted to meditation because they hope it will help them cope with stress or
calm mood swings. However, if they are suffering from an organic
metabolic imbalance, neither meditation, nor other mental approaches
such as cognitive therapy or self analysis may be the best solution.
- Hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) can cause anxiety and/or depression. Sugar is
the body's source of energy. If there isn't enough sugar in the blood,
the brain may not get enough energy and the body may react by producing
stress hormones which then causes the body to release sugar into the
blood. These stress hormones produce the symptoms we call anxiety.
Another symptom of hypoglycemia is caused when the brain does not get
enough energy and is unable to produce sufficient quantities of
neurotransmitters. In this case depression may result.
No amount of meditation or any other mental exercise will cure such an
underlying metabolic imbalance. Trying relaxation exercises to relieve
anxiety will not supply the brain with more energy. (You might
temporarily reduce the brain's need for energy and reduce the feelings
of anxiety by entering a deeply relaxed state through relaxation
exercises, but this is not really a solution because you can't function
in daily life in a state where you are half asleep.) Trying positive
thinking to relieve depression will not give the brain energy to produce
neurotransmitters. Engaging in cognitive therapy or self analysis may
result in a remarkably well adjusted person who still has anxiety and or
depression. In the case of hypoglycemia, the best solution to anxiety or depression may be to
try changing one's diet to avoid over indulging in refined sugar and refined
carbohydrates (white bread, white rice) as well as avoiding caffeine,
tobacco and alcohol and eating nutritionally balanced snacks to keep
blood sugar level stable. This is explained in more detail at
Stress hormone levels are highest in the morning. This makes sense
since we don't eat while sleeping at night and blood sugar levels can
get low. Exercise increases blood sugar levels. Exercising a little,
just enough to get you breathing faster and your heart beating faster,
first thing in the morning, and then eating a balanced breakfast can
have a calming effect that lasts for many hours.
Magnesium deficiency can also cause anxiety. Two foods that are a good
source of magnesium are peanuts and sunflower seeds.
The effects of diet on moods are numerous. If you are attracted to
meditation for it's calming effects, you may also find it helpful to do
further research on the effect of diet on moods and emotions. Each
person is unique and you may have to experiment to find what works best
The effect of diet and metabolism on moods and emotions has consequences
for meditators and those interested in spiritual development. If one's
nerves are on a hair trigger because of high levels of stress hormones,
then any minor thing that might upset one can cause a stress reaction.
One consequence of a stress reaction is that the mind can become fixated
on the thing causing the stress reaction. (This fixation can result in
symptoms such as obsessive compulsive disorder, misophonia (dislike of
certain sounds), and phobias.) If you are trying to meditate but your
mind is fixated on something that has caused a stress reaction, you may
find it hard to concentrate correctly on the meditation and you may feel
that meditation is too difficult. Also, if one is subject to strong
emotions of anxiety or depression, those emotions can make meditation
more difficult. In meditation one tries to reduce the influence of the
ego by letting go of attachments and aversions. If those attachments
and aversions are the result of this type of metabolism induced anxiety,
depression, or fixation one may become easily confused and think they
are being selfish or self centered and unable to let go and spiritually
immature when in fact they are simply affected by their metabolism.
Understanding why one is having a difficulty like this may help one work
Meditation, as well as relaxation exercises, self analysis, cognitive
therapy, and positive thinking have many benefits and may help one cope
with symptoms of organic disorders causing anxiety, fixation, and
depression, but you should understand mental approaches have their
limits and realize meditation is not a cure-all as you read the rest of
this chapter and especially the sections on "Insight Meditation",
"Kundalini" and "Three Ways To Reduce The Ego". Furthermore, meditation
will be easier and more effective if this type of organic mood disorder
is under control.
Another good meditation technique is to repeat inwardly (not aloud) the following
mantra in time with the rhythm of the breath. This form of
meditation is helpful because the mantra helps you to remember what you
should be doing during the meditation. Breathe from the diaphragm as explained above and say the mantra in time with each
inhalation / exhalation:
Sitting / still
Body / relaxed
Breathing / naturally
Mind / calm
Sitting still is helpful because movement tends to reduce the depth of
relaxation that you can attain. Being completely still is necessary in
some forms of meditation, such as meditations that help you to learn to
be detached from physical sensations and discomfort or some meditations
that induce altered
states of consciousness. However if you force yourself to remain completely still and you are in an uncomfortable posture, you may injure your body.
So, for the purposes here, it is not necessary to be too strict
about being completely still. If you feel like fidgeting or scratching
an itch go ahead, just understand it is better to be still and avoid
Concen- / trating
Calms / the mind
Distractions / are fine
Don't dwell / on them
This mantra helps to remind you how to balance letting out and letting
go. Concentration helps to calm the mind. When distractions arise they
are not a problem. They can be beneficial in that the my be thoughts
that need to arise from the subconscious into the conscious to help you
learn from the past or deal with emotional issues. However too much
focus on negative thoughts and feelings can be counterproductive (this
is discussed further in the section on
so once you become aware of the distracting thought, don't dwell on it
but go back to focusing your attention on the mantra.
Letting go / of thinking
Relaxing mind / and body
Practicing / peace
This mantra is another how to mantra. It reminds you of what to do
during the meditation session. It can be used during sitting
meditation, relaxing while lying down, or as mindfulness practice during
daily activities such as cleaning the home or taking a walk.
"Letting go of thinking"
means that for the time you are meditating, you take break from
worrying, planning or other types of thinking. Let your mind be
entirely filled with and focused on the mantra to give it a rest from
the other types of habitual mental activity. Notice how pleasant it is
not to be worrying about the past or future.
means that if your mind is filled with an emotion, attitude, opinion, or
pose, like hurriedness, annoyance, aversion, attachment, impatience,
anger, sadness, anxiety, superiority, inferiority, pride, shame, or
frustration, try to just drop it for the time you are meditating.
Examine your state of mind. Is it neutral? These mental states can be
so habitual that we don't even notice them or they can sneak up on us
again after we dispel them, so look carefully. Let your mind be
neutral. Notice how pleasant that is.
If you find it difficult to let go of a state of mind, try to think of
something that will fill you with pleasant feelings. You might imagine
you have something you want. It's okay if it is something materialistic
like a lot of money, or a nice house, or a special relationship with
another person. It could be a memory of a time you felt good, maybe
when you were with a cherished pet. It could be anything that happened
that made you feel good. When you think a pleasant thought, notice how
(See the section on
Visualizing a Pleasant Situation
in the chapter on
for more information on how to do this.)
If you are sitting or lying down, relaxing the body may
mean you let yourself go as if you were going to sleep. Notice if you
are physically tense. Try to relax your muscles. If you are moving,
try to move in a relaxed manner rather than with jerky or hurried movements. Notice how pleasant it is to be relaxed.
"Practicing peace" means that you are trying, for a short time, to
cultivate inner peace, or peace of mind. You can do this for a short
time just by letting go of every-day worries and cares and annoyances
and relaxing as if you were drifting off to sleep. Notice how peaceful
you feel when you do this.
With practice, you will find that you can hold this attitude of peace
for a longer and longer time and through more and more stressful
This meditation can be especially helpful when used in combination with
The Benefits of Concentration Meditation
The benefits of this type of meditation include, calming the mind,
helping you to understand the nature of the mind because it can be
understood better when it is calm and you can see what is happening.
You gain understanding of the temporary nature of thoughts and emotions
and other sensations which helps you to have more equanimity since you
understand that ultimately thoughts and emotions are not reality they
change and cannot be trusted. Observing the thoughts that arise to
distract you is also useful since that helps you to understand what is
bubbling up from your subconscious. Concentration in meditation
interrupts the habitual patterns of the mind, of thought, tension,
attitudes, poses, and negativity. The more these are interrupted the
more their hold on you is weakened giving you the freedom to throw off
unconscious ingrained habits, and to choose consciously how to use your
Using meditation to calm the mind can
help you live according to spiritual values
because meditation allows you to be relaxed and peaceful more of the time
and you can more easily be loving, forgiving, tolerant etc.
helps you develop the habit of keeping the mind
calm and focused and the body relaxed during daily activities.
Another benefit of meditation is that when the mind is
calmed by meditation, the practitioner will see from their own experience
that selfishness and negative attitudes, attachments and aversion are
undesirable and unpleasant. It helps the practitioner to become more
aware of these undesirable qualities and allows them to notice those
qualities when they arise. Because of this learning experience that
comes from calming the mind with meditation, the practitioner naturally
begins to change of his own volition and these undesirable qualities
begin to diminish. Meditation is like a microscope used to identify an
infection, not like a tranquilizer use to medicate away undesired
One of the important consequences of this type of meditation is that
it reduces the strength and force of your ego. When you see how
ephemeral the mind is, how flimsy are the attachments we hold on to so
strongly, it makes you less selfish, less self-centered.
This is important because when selfishness is eliminated, love is
what remains. This type of love is not selfish like romantic love, it
is not controlling like parental love, it is not ambitious like the love
of those trying to solve the great problems of the world.
It is a very simple type of love for other people. For example when
you are on the highway and you see someone driving wildly, you wish for
that person that they could have the same peace that you do and you
remember how unpleasant it was when you were in a similar state of mind,
rushing somewhere, feeling out of touch and at odds with other people.
At the grocery store you see the other shoppers and hope they have a
good dinner with their families and enjoy a pleasant evening. When you
are in a crowd you see each person and realize each one is unique and
has a unique experience in their life. All this diversity interests you
and you want to understand and appreciate each person, their ideas,
their values their difficulties and their successes.
When you notice the blessings in your life you are moved to
sincerely pray that others may have similar blessings because the
thought of others doing without causes you fear and anguish.
This is one of the most important aspects of spiritual development.
It is seeing others through the eyes of God, a loving father. You start
by looking at the activity of your own mind but you end up moving closer
Insight meditation is good for helping to increase awareness and understanding of emotions. While you meditate, observe the physical sensations in your body that accompany emotions. This is similar to what cognitive therapists call "defusion". This awareness helps to change your experience of emotions from a "reality" to just another temporary sensation. It also helps you to see how your thoughts create your emotions.
With each emotional state be on the lookout for its characteristic:
Sensations in the body.
Effects on posture and facial expressions.
Effects on breathing and tension in the abdomen and chest.
Tone of voice and manner of speaking.
When you learn to recognize emotions by their own characteristics, you learn they are temporary and you stop believing in them, they have less effect on you and on your experience of reality. It causes you to be less focused on yourself and thus less self-centered. When you understand yourself better, you become more tolerant of others.
Just be aware that you may find a lot of hidden emotions this way so go slow if you need to.
When you learn to be more aware of your emotions in meditation, you
will also find that you are more aware of them in daily life. You will
see more clearly when they arise and what the cause is, so you can deal
with them sooner and they will have less impact on other situations.
As you become more aware of your emotions, you will see that they
are impermanent, constantly changing, they lack any strong foundation in
reality, they are subjective, illusion. However, if you believe you
cannot control your emotions you will probably be correct because you
will not try or you will give up too easily. On the other hand, if you
believe you can control your emotions, you may discover you have some
ability to do so. Learning to control emotions is part of the normal
maturation process that all people go through as they pass out of
infancy. Yet little children do not worry the same way adults worry,
they do not get annoyed at the same things adults get annoyed at. This
indicates that many negative attitudes and mental patterns are learned.
They are not much different from other aspects of personality, like
posture, facial expressions, and tone of voice, that are also learned.
If emotional reactions are learned, it must be true that they can
be unlearned and that different and better ways of reacting and thinking
can be learned in their place.
At this point you may ask, "Should I let my myself experience my
emotions and in that way release them and let them out? Or, would
that just reinforce a negative habit? Should I try to let go of
emotions - just drop the train of thought? Or would that be
Control means the ability to start and stop something at will.
Therefore at times you will find it appropriate to release emotions by
allowing them to express themselves fully in all their characteristics.
When you do this, ask yourself, "why am I feeling this way?". When you
answer, again ask "why?", probing deeper and deeper for understanding.
Are you being reasonable? Are you being realistic about your
expectations of others? Is there a more reasonable or realistic way to
think about the situation? For example, rather than thinking: "that
person is a *!@#$" you might observe: "that person did ___ and I am
reacting angrily". Also, a dislike of strong emotions can compound the
difficulties caused by them so it can be helpful to face emotions in
this way and in doing so lose that fear.
At other times you will find it appropriate to observe your initial
emotional reactions to an event and decide not to go down that road. It
is possible to allow yourself to think a thought and at the same time
not give emotions control over your mind and body. Relax the body and
mind, don't tense up, let go of that mind set, drop any attitudes or
poses you find yourself taking on. Try to see if there is a deeper
cause of the emotion, but sometimes you will see that your emotional
reactions are just habits that you picked up over time, maybe from your
parents when you were very young or elsewhere. If you learned to react
in a certain way, you can also learn to react in a different way. It
can be helpful to relax and repeat a phrase such as, "I don't have to
react this way" or some other phrase based on a better way of thinking
about the situation. Other examples might include "I have plenty of
time" when you are unnecessarily hurrying, or "that person doesn't see
himself the way others do" when you see someone doing something wrong.
Sometimes just resetting your perspective with, "Relax, don't take
things so seriously, lighten up, don't be so intense" can really make a
big difference in your attitude. Always remember to be
relaxed when using a reminder phrase.
If you reach a point where you find that you have done all that you
can but you still can't let go of an emotion, then it is time to ask for
help from a higher source. Try lying down, doing some
deep relaxation exercises and
then self healing.
There is no hard and fast rule on when to practice letting out and
when to practice letting go. Often it will be useful to
practice letting out emotions that have a long history, that you are
having trouble with from your past, that you have been holding in and
need to bring out into consciousness. At some point when you feel that
you have done "enough" letting out of a certain emotion you may decide
it is time to let go of it. Practice letting go of the emotions that
come and go during the various annoyances and inconveniences of the day.
If you find things happening faster than your ability to let go and you
find emotions building up inside, then letting them out may be better.
In time you should find that letting out and letting go are really not
opposites but part of the same process. You may find yourself
thinking about something, noticing an emotion in the back of your mind,
deliberately letting it out into your consciousness to see what it
is, and then letting go of it and moving on.
One method of balancing letting out with letting go is found in
described in the previous section. In that type of meditation you
attempt to concentrate on some focus of attention. When you notice you
are distracted you simply go back to concentrating. When distractions
arise, that is the process of letting out. Going back to concentrating
is the process of letting go. As you meditate this way the technique
itself provides the balance.
How It Works Mantra is one way to keep in mind how to balance letting out with letting go.
If you find you are considering whether to let out or let go of an
emotion you should also consider there are more than just those two
approaches. Ultimately what you should do depends on the cause of the
If an emotion is caused by your internal self talk and is due to an
issue you have analyzed in the past, then letting go and quieting
the mind with concentration meditation may be helpful.
If you have an emotion and you don't know why, then self-analysis may be
If you have an emotion and you don't know why,
another possibility is that the emotion due to metabolic causes.
For example, someone with hypoglycemia may have have emotional
swings simply because their blood sugar gets low. In this case letting
out or letting go will not deal with the root cause. A better approach
might involve modifying the diet to better manage blood sugar levels.
If the emotion is caused by an irrational fear such as a phobia, or past
negative experience, or misophonia, then desensitization through
relaxation exercises may be the right approach.
Insight meditation is used for the purpose of learning to perceive how
and when thoughts and emotions arise. As described above, in insight
meditation you observe the physical sensations associated with emotions.
However, it is possible to over do this. When you dwell on the
sensations that make up an emotion you are in effect practicing to
create that emotion within yourself. If you dwell too much on negative
emotions you may develop the habit of making yourself unhappy. However
this principle can be used constructively. When you think of things
that make you feel good and dwell on the sensations of those emotions,
you can develop the ability to fill yourself with good feelings. See
meditation (above) for a practical method of using this principle.
Believing that emotions are inevitable can have a negative impact on
your life because it may lead you to avoid various activities if you
believe negative emotions will be associated with them. However, if you
believe you can control your emotions you will be open to a wider range
of experiences because you will not be so afraid of the emotions that
may occur. If you change your belief and come to recognize that
emotions are not inevitable, then you may find that it causes you to
change your behavior. You try new experiences and are not put off by
negative emotions and see all that has been explained here is true.
This reinforces your new belief which leads you to try more new things
and change old habits and expectations in a positive feedback loop.
This is similar to what psychologists call "behavior modification".
Since people come into this life to learn from their experiences this
can be a help in one's spiritual development. Letting out and letting
go of emotions also helps one to eliminate a lot of negative thinking
and attitudes thus making one more fit for the higher spheres in the
hereafter as well as helping you to find peace in this life by freeing
you from your self-centered delusions. If you change your beliefs
about emotions you may notice immediate changes in your experiences but
in general this process of learning about emotions will be something
that you develop gradually over a number of years. If you find you
can't let go of an emotion, try to get help from a higher source through
prayer or through self healing.
This article is on my blog: Joy During Meditation
God is love.
People who experience being in the presence of God during near death experiences describe having an overwhelming feeling of being loved.
God is omnipresent.
You can tap into this source of universal love without having a near death experience.
To do it you use your spiritual capabilities - the capabilities that all spirits have and that as an incarnated spirit you have access to even while you are incarnated.
Spirits interact with their world through their mind. They think of a place they want to go to and they start moving there. They are telepathic. They think of someone and their thoughts go off to that person. Spirits use their mind the way an incarnated person uses tools. Spirits create by using their mind.
We also use the word "create" to describe how people use their imagination because it is the same thing.
To create a tap into universal love, use your imagination. Imagine a light beam of love coming down to you from above. Hold your hands in front of you with your palms facing upward to receive it. Relax any tension or tightness you may feel in your chest, open your heart, and let the love flow out into the world.
Try this meditation:
- Invoke assistance
from God or your spirit guides. For example, ask, "Oh God, please help me to connect with
joy and love from the spirit planes."
Imagine a light beam of love coming down upon you from above. Hold your hands in front of you with your palms facing upward to receive it.
Relax any tension or tightness you may feel in your chest, open your
heart, and imagine love emanating from your heart and flowing out into
the world. You can also imagine love flowing from you to a situation
you don't like to desensitize yourself to the situation, or flowing to someone
who might be a problem for you to develop forgiveness and tolerance.
While you are doing steps 2 and 3 repeat
or chant something inwardly or aloud to help you keep in mind that you
are connecting with spiritual love. For example, during step 2 you
might think, "Love is all around why don't you take it?" And during step
3 you might think, "Love is all around why don't you make it?" (If you
know the tune, you may sing it to yourself).
Once you are experiencing the feeling of love you may skip this step if you want to, or you may continue to do it if you prefer or if you find it helpful.
Repeat steps 2 through 4 for the duration of the
If you feel like smiling while you do this meditation, go ahead and smile. It is probably an indication that you are doing it right.
If you find that this meditation is working, if you feel love flowing
through you, you might also try to cultivate a feeling of
connectedness to all things. Imagine an invisible barrier surrounding
you dissolves and you merge with the environment around you, that you and the world around you are all one mind.
There are a few other things you can try to help you connect to universal love:
Try smiling a little bit - but don't force it.
- Breathe deeply and slowly and relax. As you inhale imagine an atmosphere of
love and joy filling your torso. As you exhale imagine it circulating
throughout the rest of your body.
- Try thinking about something you love like a cute animal or a person you are close to.
- You don't need to have a strong feeling immediately during the first instant of the meditation. If
you can get a glimmer of the feeling, you can let it accumulate and build within
you over the period of meditation. This is like filling a glass of
water slowly with a slight stream of water rather than holding it under
a fully open faucet.
- If your mind is turbulent, or upset, it might be hard to tune in to
the feeling of love. In that case it might help to do
and then concentration meditation
to quiet the mind. When your mind is quiet, calm, and at peace, try this meditation again.
If you are happy it is much easier to tune into the love. If you are not feeling happy, try experiencing joy using the method described in this article from my blog: Joy During Meditation
Sometimes you may feel the love coming through your spirit guides. Most
people think of spirit communication as being pictures or logic or
words. But sometimes it is just emotions. Someone may sense a faint
feeling of being loved and not understand what it is and ignore it. But
if they would sit quietly, noticing it, they might develop a stronger
channel for communication with the spirit that is sending them that love.
- If you experience kundalini
energy, try letting it flow. Tapping into universal love seems
to be a way to focus kundalini flow into a positive experience.
You can do this meditation while listening to music. I recommend some songs to listen to while doing this meditation in this post on my blog. You can use lyrics from these songs for step 4.
Sometimes during meditation, something called "Kundalini energy" is
released. This may be experienced as a tingling or feeling of energy
rising up the spine, or it may involve muscle contractions, twitching
and grimacing, or sobbing. There are differing opinions on the cause of
this. One hypothesis is that stress causes unconscious muscle tension
and over a life time that can effect the nervous system. When one
begins to relax and explore the inner realms through meditation, the
conscious mind can become aware of that tension. As this tension
transitions from the unconscious mind to the conscious mind, the
Kundalini phenomena may occur.
Often the Kundalini energy is confused with or thought to cause whatever
emotions a person is experiencing at the time. However, experience shows
that it is actually independent of emotions. When a person is depressed
he may think the phenomena is causing or caused by depression. The same
thing occurs when he is anxious. However when he is neither anxious or
depressed the phenomena may continue to occur.
Often, allowing the phenomena to occur can have the effect of relieving
stress or tension or releasing whatever emotion the practitioner may be
experiencing at the time. For this reason allowing the phenomena to
occur can be beneficial at times. However, if the phenomena is felt to
be undesirable there are several alternatives one can take. One
alternative is to simply stop the meditation practice. Another is to do
a different type of meditation. This might be either a more relaxing
form of meditation or a less relaxing form of meditation. In general,
lying down is the most relaxing way to meditate. Besides lying down,
relaxation exercises can be combined with meditation during a session.
Alternatively, a less relaxing form of meditation that might be helpful
is walking meditation. Experience shows that Kundalini energy flows
when the practitioner is in a state in between that of the normal busy
waking mind and the deeply relaxed state attained through deep
If you are experiencing Kundalini energy and find it troublesome, it
would be wise to investigate it further and seek other sources of
information beyond this article. Kundalini is experienced differently
in different people so you should read as many different opinions on it
as you are able to find. When first experienced, the strangeness and
persistence of the phenomena may be disquieting. However, over time
when one gains familiarity and observes that it is not causing emotions,
one begins to accept it as something that just happens, neither good or
A Still Mind
One reason to practice keeping the mind still with meditation is to learn
from experience that when the mind is still, you don't make emotions. In
a healthy person, for an emotion to arise, there has to be some
conception in the mind to which the emotion is a reaction. You have to
perceive and recognize danger before you feel fear. You have to
remember the past before you feel regret.
When you see that attachments and aversions disappear when the mind is
stilled, that attachments and aversions can be let go by calming the
mind, you are no longer a slave to attachments and aversions. You are
not an emotionless zombie either. You can go through life normally
except you are no longer controlled by attachments and aversions, you
are free. You can still get angry if you want to, but now it is your
Attaining this insight - that by stilling the mind you become free - is
easier said than done. It cannot be accomplished through reason. You
have to develop the skill yourself. It requires time spent in
meditation observing the mind, the bodily and sensory reactions to
thoughts which are the reactions to the distractions that arise as you
try to concentrate during meditation.
Complete absence of mental activity is not necessary. What is necessary
is the skill of being aware of emotions as they arise, of the thoughts
that precede the emotions, and the ability to relax the mind, refrain
from thinking, to let go of all thoughts, for just a moment to let
go of any arising attachment or aversion. This skill is developed by
observing the mind and bodily sensations as you try to concentrate
Letting go involves relaxation. Letting go can mean relaxing your grip
on something. Relax your grip on thoughts. If you find you are
becoming tense or feel repressed from meditation, try to relax more
during meditation. In the beginning, you may have to let strong emotions
have their way until they naturally dissipate to the point where you can
let go of them.
The human mind has a great capacity to deny, hide, and suppress thoughts
and feelings and only time and effort can allow one to bring all that is
occurring in the mind into awareness. As awareness deepens, letting go
of more and more becomes possible, and one becomes more and more free.
The Ego and Spiritual Development
Many spiritual philosophies recognize the ego as an obstacle to
spirituality. Buddhism is one doctrine that offers solutions to the
problem through its meditation practices.
Part of the "ego problem" is due to the physiological fight or flight
reaction. This is the evolved response to perceived threats to safety,
status or territory that occurs in many animals. The result of the
fight or flight reaction is anger or fear or other negative emotions.
You can counteract the fight or flight reaction with relaxation.
Because relaxing meditation or relaxation exercises can help reduce the
flight or fight reaction, it can have the effect of reducing the ego.
This is one reason meditation and relaxation exercises can help promote
To actually diminish the ego, however, is easier said than done. Several
Buddhist practices provide help. These include:
A daily practice of relaxing meditation or relaxation exercises. The
previous sections in this chapter describe
in more detail and the chapter on
describes how to use relaxation exercises.
- Development of the habit of trying to do things throughout the day in
a relaxed manner. Sometimes this practice is called "mindfulness" and
may involve doing daily tasks in a meditative manner.
A helpful aide to mindfulness is to use the following mantra in rhythm with inhalation / exhalation:
concen / tration
relax / ation
This mantra can be used during various daily activities such as
cleaning the house, washing the dishes, showering, etc. While you use
the mantra, be aware that "concentration" means to fill the mind with
the mantra to displace negative thoughts like worries or other things
that are upsetting. "Relaxation" should remind you to be as relaxed as
possible. The mantra should be used in a relaxing manner not hurried or
Walking meditation can also be part of a mindfulness practice.
As you walk, inhale for three steps and think "and", then exhale for
three steps and count "one", continue counting to ten. You don't have
to use three steps if that is uncomfortable. Use whatever number you
find most comfortable with the rate at which you are walking. Then
after you count ten breaths, say the following phrases to yourself:
My mind is relaxed and empty.
I am not thinking about anything
Or attached to anything.*
All my delusions have fallen away.*
I am awake to the present moment
Not caught up in my own thoughts
And not caught in any ego traps.
* If either of these two lines reminds you of attachments or delusions instead of helping you to let go of them, then omit these lines.
Then repeat counting ten breaths in rhythm with your steps, repeat the
phrases and continue like that as you walk.
The phrases remind you to let go of whatever thoughts might be in your
mind and to relax your mind and body. Attachments might be any thoughts
that are causing you to be upset, something you want and don't have, or
something that you don't like. Delusions are the thoughts and feelings
associated with attachments. When you are not thinking about those
situations you will not have those delusions. Being awake to the
present moment is not any special state of awareness or special focus of
the mind. It is simply the state of being when you are not caught up in
thoughts in your own mind. Not worrying about the past, future, or deep
in thought about anything in particular. If you are simply conscious of
what you see in front of you while you walk without thinking about
anything else, you are awake to the present moment.
All the phrases have one thing in common. They remind you not to be
wrapped up in your own thoughts. This is the heart of meditation.
Meditation is a practice that takes you out of the delusions you
construct with your thoughts and brings you to a more fundamental
experience of reality. That experience is the perception of reality
through your senses. It is trivial to experience this for a moment, but
the more time you spend in this state, the clearer you will see that the
attachments and aversions you construct in your mind are simply
delusions. This knowledge, when internalized from long practice of
meditation and mindfulness, leads along the path that can allow you to
free yourself of those delusions.
An ego trap is any situation that tricks you into acting egotistically.
It is like a Zen koan that ordinary life offers up to you. In Zen, a
teacher may ask a student to explain mysterious vignette or riddle called a koan.
Often the question is designed so that if the student has not reached a
certain level of understanding, the question will trick the student into
answering incorrectly - often this means egotistically. Life offers
many of these koans or ego traps to us every day. Anything that annoys
you or irritates you might be one. If someone cuts you off in traffic,
or something doesn't go the way you want and you get annoyed, ask
yourself if you are just being too self centered? If you watch out for
these ego traps and start noticing them, you will start to be less and
less annoyed at those types of things and that will help you to become
free from the illusory bonds of the ego.
- An awareness throughout the day as to whether you are tense or not
and making an effort to relax when you notice tension arising. The previous section in this chapter on
can be helpful in increasing awareness of when tension
The walking meditation can be used for mindfulness during other daily
activities or during daily relaxing meditation practice. To do this
breathe naturally rather than in rhythm with your steps. If you have
meditation beads or a rosary you can use them to combine the
concentration-relaxation mantra with the phrases in the walking
meditation. Repeat the concentration-relaxation mantra ten times
(counting with the beads) in rhythm with your breathing, then say the
phrases from the walking meditation and continue in that manner.
This is a life-long process. It is not something you can attain once
and then coast along afterward.
One of the pitfalls of this path is the tendency to use concentration in
meditation to suppress thoughts or emotions. This is not the right use
of concentration. To avoid this, one must be aware of tension - tension
is a sign of suppression. The antidote to it is to increase the amount
of relaxation in the practice.
The correct approach is to use both concentration and relaxation.
Concentration, for example on a mantra, or on a guided meditation, keeps
the mind from dwelling on and reinforcing negative mental habits.
Relaxation counters the fight or flight reaction those mental constructs
may have induced.
Learning from the past and planning for the future are both necessary
and deserve time allocated for them. However, you don't have to be
totally wrapped up in your thoughts all the time. When you make a
effort to spend part of your time living in the moment, you see, by what
happens in their absence, that your regrets and fears can create a
delusion of unhappiness, and you see that the delusional mental state
is self induced and also optional.
However, in some cases thoughts and emotions need to be analyzed
consciously. This is especially true when we don't know why we feel a
certain way. Sometimes, strong emotions need to expressed. The proper
balance between analysis, expression, concentration and relaxation is
something that each person must find for themself. It is part of
spiritual development because it allows one to live according to their
spiritual values by reducing interference from anger and fear, the fight
or flight reaction, the ego.
This balance, when developed, has eternal value - it's something you can
bring with you from the earth life to the afterlife. This is one of the
reasons we benefit from incarnating into the physical plane. The
physical plane provides a situation were we have a mechanism for
developing selflessness (lack of egotism) something that is of benefit
to us for all of eternity.
One other interesting point about all this is that these practices can
appeal to anyone because they bring peace and tranquility. Religion,
belief in God, the afterlife or spirits are not necessary for someone to
make progress in their spiritual development.
Three Ways to Reduce the Ego
Here are three approaches to diminishing the ego. These methods can be
used together, they do not invalidate each other and they do exclude
each other. A person can try to develop in all three ways at the same
Recognizing that thoughts and feelings are things we observe arising in
our selves but they are not ourself. This awareness comes from watching
the activity of the mind. When we see that thoughts and emotions are
not reality they lose some of their force and we become resistant to
habitual reactions. By trying to be aware of the present moment we see
how thoughts of the past and future can create a delusion of reality.
Ultimately the benefits of this are through diminution of the ego. It
transforms our sense of self. This is very similar to certain forms of
Buddhist practice and philosophy.
Relaxation Power: In this approach the ego is seen as arising from the
fight or flight reaction. When a person recognizes a threat to their
physical safety, their status, their territory the body generates a
fight or flight reaction. This is a physiological basis for the ego.
The body's natural method of counteracting or recovering from a fight or
flight reaction is through the parasympathetic nervous system. By
"exercising" or stimulating the parasympathetic nervous system through,
for example, relaxing meditation, one can develop relaxation power.
Just as lifting weights can give you muscle power, meditation can make
you better at relaxing so that you can resist and counter the fight or
flight reaction better. This doesn't mean one session of meditation
will give you enlightenment. It means that a persistent dedication to
daily relaxing meditation will help you to reduce the influence of the
ego through your life.
Love: When you feel loved for who and what you are, you can love others
for who and what they are. When you can love others in this way you can
drop fear, attitudes, poses, and self importance. You can accept things
as they are and avoid reacting egotistically. This is because when you
feel loved it gives you a feeling of confidence and of being accepted
and that causes you to become resistant to thoughts of being threated by
other people and by events.
You can feel loved if you can tap into the ultimate source love which is
spiritual in nature. Different people have different beliefs about this.
Some people may look towards God, other may look to their spirit guides.
Either way, to tap into this you just have to calm the mind with relaxing
meditation and open yourself to this love. One way is to use a mantra
such as: "Loving God, Loved by God, Loving others." keeping in mind your
idea of God, your love for God and His love for you. Then you just
extend your love a little bit to include all people. One session of
meditation will not give you enlightenment. You have to practice this
with regular meditation and have realistic expectations that it will have
an effect over the course of your life if you practice consistently.
Some days you may develop a very strong connection to this love and feel
great benevolence towards other people. Other times you may barely get
a glimpse of this love. You have to recognize that other conditions in
your life will affect you too and so you have to be patient and accept
that this process will have it's ups and downs and is something that
develops over a life time.
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