Aggression
Your child may:
Be observed hitting, kicking, and repeatedly pushing others
Demonstrate Intense anger
Frequently lose temper or have blow-ups
Demonstrate extreme irritability
Demonstrate extreme impulsiveness
Become easily frustrated
Possible Supports or Interventions
Read Alouds
Take Away Privileges or Take Away Unstructured/Free Time
Use a calm and neutral tone in a matter-of-fact way
Give the student choices, for example:
Billy, you can either stop turning around and talking and complete your work, or you can sit in time out during recess, the choice is yours
Clearly state the privilege to be taken away, when it will occur, and for what duration
Discuss briefly with the student what they will need to do differently next time to keep their privilege
Talk One On One
This technique takes a lot of patience, support, self-control and self-talk
Remain cool, calm, collected, and use a neutral tone when students are oppositional, defiant, aggressive, agitated, etc.
When your child is emotionally upset, hurt, etc, use an empathetic tone and body language
Keep responses brief, succinct, and to the point
Avoid lecturing or going on and on
Try re-direction if your child is able to be de-escalated
Use reflective listening “I hear you telling me that he took your toy away”
Ask open ended questions
Use body language that represents openness: If you are sitting, keep legs uncrossed and lean toward the person; If you are standing, keep arms uncrossed and legs open—people often mirror their emotional response with others’ body language
Use humor
Validate student’s feelings:
Aggression: “I know that you got mad after that”
Sadness: “ I can see you are sad about this”
Anxiety: “When you tap your feet, I’m guessing you are worried about the test”
Confrontation: “I need to talk to you about your calling your friend a name”
Teach alternatives:
“Tell me some things you could have done differently” “The next time, you get mad, try walking away and taking a break”
“When you get worried about your tests, try to think of all the tests you’ve taken and done great on”