FIVe ways to get over a breakup

In this article Ava will be filling you in on the top 5 ways to heal from a breakup.

Top 5 ways to get over a breakup

By Ava McLean

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So you and the “love of your life” just broke up? Maybe you are feeling like you want to do everything in your power to get them back. On the other hand, you may be feeling like you want to glitter bomb his whole house and all his clothes. Either way, break-ups are hard, but there are ways to get through them. I can’t guarantee that some ways are the best choice, but there are also healthy ways to cope. Here is a list of five ways to get over a breakup.

Number one: self-care

The first thing you need, and most important, is to delete all those texts and pictures of your ex. If you have a chance at getting back together, then maybe you shouldn’t delete the pictures, after all. However, if the person is gone, then they are truly gone and you have to let them go. You can’t show that you are hurting, so block them on everything! The second thing you need when you and your person break up is self-care. Do your skincare, stay hydrated (especially with all the tears), and eat your favorite foods. Go out and pamper yourself. Get your nails and hair done. Take a bubble bath.

Number two: read a good book

Go to the library and get a book you are interested in and read it. Hopefully, it is a series and then you’ll really be invested in something other than your lack of a love life. According to Real Simple, “One not-so-talked-about recovery method includes reading breakup books.” Reading a book will comfort and help you with the healing process. Some book recommendations are: When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron, The Breakup Bible by Rachel A. Sussman, and How To Date Men When You Hate Men by Blythe Roberson.

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Number three: hang out with your friends

Wondermind states, “When we’re going through a breakup, our friends can help us feel heard, understood, less alone, and more hopeful about the future.” You don’t have to get into detail about your breakup with your friend. You guys can just make plans to do something fun such as: going to a movie, ice skating, going to the lake, or just being in your room with them. Although it is nice and healthy to release your emotions, you are not being forced to do so. If you want to talk through it, though, it’s always okay to be angry or cry.

Number four: get rid of EVERYTHING that they got you

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Well, maybe not everything, but you could get rid of the letters, prom posters, and flowers. Keep the good stuff, though, like the hoodies, clothes, Squishmallows, and jewelry. Some other ways you could get rid of reminders of them could be as simple as washing your sheets/getting new ones or getting a new perfume. Overall, just get ready for new beginnings and start a new chapter in your life.

Number five: Get revenge

This is not the best idea. It may seem like it will do you good, but it won’t. You could burn their clothes and get with their best friend all you want, but that just shows that you do care. You need to be the bigger person and heal by yourself, without getting into something new. Take as long as you need because truly it takes time to get over a breakup. Always remember that you and your partner probably wouldn’t have gotten married and, if you did, motivation author Brandon Gaille states, “High school sweethearts that get married while still teenagers only have a 54% chance of having their marriage last 10 years.” So live your life as a teenager while it lasts. Don’t waste your years seeking a good relationship. Let it come your way.

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