What do I do when I, or someone I know, may be experiencing a mental health emergency or crisis?
There are a variety of steps and actions that can be taken to assist a person who may be having a mental health emergency. Mental Health First Aid recommends an approach they call ALGEE.
A: Approach, Assess (for risk of suicide or harm), and Assist
● Approach the person about their concerns
● Find a suitable time and space where both people feel comfortable
● If the person does not initiate a conversation with you about how they are feeling, you can say something to start a conversation
● Respect the person’s privacy and confidentiality
L: Listen Non-judgmentally
● When someone is telling you about their challenges and struggles, it is important to set aside judgments about them or their situation
● Most people experiencing distressing emotions and thoughts want to be heard before being offered helpful options or resources
● A person may not want to open up to you until they feel you care enough or are trustworthy and willing to listen
● People may also downplay their problems, particularly if they feel guilty about upsetting you or disappointing you
● Some have trouble opening up for fear of the vulnerability and being perceived as weak
● Your goals in listening non-judgmentally are:
○ Allow yourself to really hear and understand what is being said
○ Make it easier for the person to feel they can talk freely about their problems without being judged
○ Respect the person’s culture, which may be much different than your own
● To accomplish this, you will
○ Use “I” statements and non-judgmentally state what you have noticed; for example, “I noticed that you look like you may be feeling a bit sad about something.”
○ Ask questions, but don’t push; “did something happen?” or “Is there something going on to make you feel this way?”
○ Be in the present with them, without comparing to your own experience; “A conflict with a coworker can be tough.” Saying something like, “I know exactly what you are going through,” may not be helpful as we can never know exactly what this other person is experiencing and we all experience things differently - this sort of statement may shut down a conversation.
○ Be accepting, even though you may not agree with the person; if the person says that going to work is too much to handle, empathize with their frustration - it is not the time to convince them otherwise or to take specific actions to fix the issue
○ Repeat back what you hear to make sure you have a mutual understanding
○ Be positive with any feedback given
● Being aware of your own verbal communication skills, as well as your nonverbal cues, can help you be a better listener. It is important to note that some neurodivergent folks may not present or comprehend the same non-verbal cues neurotypical people may while listening non-judgmentally - such as prolonged eye contact, sitting still, etc.
● While listening and in conversation with someone about their mental health:
○ Ask questions that show you genuinely care and want to understand
○ Check your understanding by restating what the person has said
○ Listen not only to the words said, but how they are said; tone of voice and other cues can give extra clues about how they are feeling
○ Be patient if the person is struggling to communicate
○ Do no be critical or express frustration at the person or their symptoms
○ Avoid giving unhelpful advice; “get a grip,” “cheer up,” “calm down.” If this were possible, the person would have done it already.
○ Do not interrupt when they are speaking
○ Remember that pauses and silence are okay! The person may need time to think on what has been said or may be struggling to find the words they need
G: Give Reassurance and Information:
● Start by offering general reassuring statements, such as “thank you for sharing your experience with me, I appreciate your trust, a lot of people have reported similar experiences and have found support from a professional who knows treatments that may help.”
● Know your local resources
○ Yale Mental Health and Counseling
○ Magellan
○ Optum EAP
○ 988 Suicide and crisis line call or text
○ Text 741741 Crisis text line
○ Call 211, Connecticut Crisis Response line
○ Call 911, federal life threatening emergency line
○ Krista Dobson, non-clinical counselor for DGSD students
○ SHARE Center
○ Good Life Center
○ Chaplain’s office
E: Encourage Appropriate Professional Health
● Many do not consider professional help from a therapist, psychiatrist, social worker, counselor, or otherwise because they feel (or are) inaccessible. At Yale, all students and staff have mental health care coverage included in their insurance, so coverage should not be a concern within our community; professionals are equipped with resources that others are not to help a person develop healthy coping strategies and work through the challenges they are facing
E: Encourage Self-Help and Other Support Strategies
● Ask the person if there are any self-help strategies in the past they found helpful when they were having a mental health challenge; such as deep breathing through a panic. If they need support for these self-help strategies, offer it
If a person appears to be at risk of harming themselves or others, this is a serious emergency and you should seek help immediately.
Tell the dispatcher the person is suicidal or at risk of harming themself or others, so they can send officers with specific training in crisis de-escalation and mental illness
Do not leave the person alone