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What is grief?
What is grief?
Grief is a strong feeling of sadness that happens when someone loses something or someone very important to them, such as the loss of a family member, friend or pet. This is different from regular worry or sadness (e.g., worrying about a math test or feeling sad after losing a game in gym). When kids and teens are grieving, the caring adults in their life can really help. Parents, teachers, and other trusted grown-ups can provide comfort, understanding, and tools to cope with the difficult feelings of grief.
How can I help a child who is grieving?
How can I help a child who is grieving?
Here are some ways parents and educators can help children and teens who are grieving:
Listen to and validate their feelings:
Normalize their feelings. Let them know it's okay to feel sad, angry, or confused about the loss.
Don't try to "fix" their grief, just be there to listen.
Use correct medical terminology in dicsussions.
Share memories:
Reminiscing about the person or thing that was lost can help the child feel connected to what they miss.
Look at photos with them.
Allow them to keep an object with them that connects them to their loved one.
Have commemorating rituals.
Plant something in memory of the person or pet.
Try to keep routines the same:
Sticking to familiar daily activities and schedules can provide comfort during this difficult time.
Help with any practical day to day needs.
Encourage self-care:
Suggest healthy ways for the child to take care of themselves, like getting enough sleep, eating nourishing foods, and taking breaks when needed.
Encourage journalling, drawing, painting, or other outlets.
Allow time and space to grieve:
Don't rush the child to "get over it."
Grief has no timeline - let them express their emotions however feels right.
Connect to supports:
Help the child identify caring friends, family members, or teachers they can talk to about their grief.
Connect them with other children who have had a loss.
Consult with professionals when necessary.
Resources
Resources
Grief.pdfGrief Handout
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References:
References:
Chen, C.YC., Panebianco, A. Interventions for Young Bereaved Children: A Systematic Review and Implications for School Mental Health Providers. Child Youth Care Forum 47, 151–171 (2018).
Edgar-Bailey, M., & Kress, V. E. (2010). Resolving Child and Adolescent Traumatic Grief: Creative Techniques and Interventions. Journal of Creativity in Mental Health, 5(2), 158–176.
Gao, M., & Slaven, M. (2017). Best practices in children's bereavement: A qualitative analysis of needs and services. Journal of Pain Management, 10(1), 119.
Haine, R. A., Ayers, T. S., Sandler, I. N., & Wolchik, S. A. (2008). Evidence-based practices for parentally bereaved children and their families. Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 39(2), 113–121.
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