Life is a process of awakening.
I have been providing guidance and psychotherapy for individuals, couples and families for 30 years. Rather than labelling/reducing mental "illness," I focus my clinical work on facilitating mental "health"--guiding people to move from disconnection to reconnection, from polarization to balance, from fragmentation to integrated wholeness. Specifically, my current approach is "intersubjective, mindful, experiential, process-oriented, dialectical, integrative, and transformational." While initially trained as a generalist, working with a wide range of clinical issues, over the past 15 years, I have developed special concentration on trauma recovery work, especially on relational trauma/C-PTSD, which is often manifested in habitual escape from inner experience (dissociation), chronic anxiety/depression (autonomic/emotional dysregulation), addictive processes, fragile/inflated sense of self (shame/grandiosity) and fragmentation, repetitive relational struggles, etc. The ultimate goal of my job as a psychotherapist is to help you discover, strengthen and trust your “inner gauge,” so that, eventually, you will turn to that inner wisdom for answers without the need for my assistance. I am more than happy to assist those who are willing to do the work.
整合 (integrative wholeness) 是我從事心理治療的核心概念,1+1=3,它包含 (1) 靈活運用與整合諮商理論與技術,避免削足(個案個別需求)適履(某特定理論);(2) 重整多面向的內在經驗 (例:意識/潛意識,想法/信念,感覺/情緒,生理/身體反應,行為,人際互動模式等),(3) 協調長期處於"恐怖平衡"中的內在家族(例:內在「天使」、「惡魔」、 「法官」、「受傷的小孩」等);(4) 促使(前述)內在因子與重要外在因子(例:工作/事業,家庭/婚姻,性別/性向,社會文化等)達到健康的動態平衡 (homeodynamics)。
健康的治療關係,即「互為主體的關係」 (intersubjective relatedness),是心理治療工作的必備土壤,需要耐心的用「安全」、「信任」、「平等」、「相互尊重」這些肥料細心呵護、滋養,才能讓種在土壤中「改變」的種子,生根、發芽,成長、茁壯。
內觀 (mindfulness) 是改變的起點。內觀,簡言之,就是看清此時此刻,真正的活在當下,它其實是我們每個人與生俱來的能力,卻常在日復一日社會集體意識催眠與洗腦的過程中,不知不覺地被「反芻過往、憂慮將來」的習慣所取代。重拾內觀的能力,不但能提昇自我覺察,加速改變,更能幫助我們在人生的大風大浪中「定錨」。
心理治療的歷程向來是瞬息萬變。雖然它需以科學實證為基礎,但它更需心理治療師臨床的直覺判斷,隨時根據個案的需求與反應即時、適切地介入。我近30年的實務經驗一再印證,唯有協助個案不斷地親身體會「經驗上的轉化」(experiential transformation),意即幫助個案實際「體驗」他的認知、情緒、身體知覺、行為與人際互動的模式,才能幫助個案達到深層、持久性的轉變。而轉變是一連串「正」、「反」、「合」(dialectics)的過程,例如,於治療初期接納、肯定個案照顧他人的能力(正),慢慢協助個案培養自我照顧的能力(反),最後達成自我照顧與照顧他人的動態平衡(合)。又比如,善用個案的「認知」智商 (cognitive intelligence)(正),同時漸進式地開發個案的「情緒」智商 (emotional intelligence)(反),幫助個案結合理性與感性的智慧(合)。慢慢啟動陰陽合一的自然流轉,與「一生二,二生三,三生萬物」的無限循環,逐漸跳脫各式頭腦二元對立(例:好壞、人我、上下等)極端地拉扯、無謂的內耗。