Post date: Jul 14, 2020 4:7:11 AM
this article seems intended for couples seeking divorce. for example ..
"High adrenaline emotions, particularly anger, create profound illusions of certainty, due to their amphetamine effects. The amphetamine effect creates a temporary sense of confidence and certainty, while narrowing mental focus and eliminating most variables from consideration. That's why you feel more confident after a cup of coffee (a mild amphetamine effect) than before it, and it’s why you’re convinced that you’re right and everyone else is wrong when you're angry."
however, it contains possible insights that are helpful, for those of us seeking objective truth; this seems to correlate with symptoms of confirmation bias [1]:
"Certainty itself is an emotional state, not an intellectual one. To create a feeling of certainty, the brain must filter out far more information than it processes, which, of course, greatly increases its already high error rate during emotional arousal. In other words, the more certain you feel, the more likely you are wrong in some respect."
going back to the perspective of relationships, divorce, and marriage [2] this seems to me good advice that is hard to implement. my own experience suggests that there are rarely easy fixes in life that truly matter in the long run.
"Never judge an interaction in a love relationship merely by who's right. Instead, ask yourself how compassionate and kind you are in the interaction. Spend less effort trying to control your partner's thinking and more trying to understand and appreciate differences in your perspectives."
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[1] for those not paying attention, yes: this justification is itself a possible instance of confirmation bias. in other news, it is hard to be certain.
[2] oddly enough, when writing this triple, i was thinking of "people, hell, and angels," the title of a recent jimi hendrix album. if you're a jimi fan, then i highly recommend it: it gives insights into other established songs and albums and overall sound.