• The following list of questions can be used as starting points for you to have a conversation with yourself. By talking about what you like and dislike, some of the values in the Values List might start to pop out at you more clearly!

• Our suggestion is that you can run your eye down the list of descriptors in the Values List and circle 4-5 values that you feel matter most to you.

• If you find yourself circling too many or too few values, it might be helpful to journal or chat with a trusted friend/loved one, using the following questions as prompts.

• Don't feel like you need to answer every question! Notice which questions you feel more excited to respond to and be curious about why you feel the way you do!

• Remember to check in with yourself from time to time, since values might change depending on context or when significant changes happen in your life!

What are my values?

1. Who do you care about? How do you feel when you meet them or are around them?

2. Who do you like to spend time with? Who do you feel comfortable being around?

3. What gets you fired up? What's your go-to affirmation or treat for yourself?

4. Who or what inspires you? Who do you look up to?

5. What infuriates and frustrates you? What type of people or situations make you feel mad?

6. What makes you feel sad? What do you look like when you're very sad?

7. What makes you feel scared? What tends to make you feel anxious before you even do it?

8. What do you enjoy? What does joy look like to you?

9. When do you feel most grateful or appreciative? What kind of things do they tend to be?

10. When do you feel like you’re living life your way? When you are doing what?

• We use 'facilitator' here in quite a loose way - it can refer to being formally hired or acknowledged as a facilitator in a project, or it can refer to being informally someone who is trying to move things along in a group context. Within an arts collective for instance, where there is likely no clear 'leader' or 'head', everyone is probably facilitating the collective's conversation to some degree.

• As noted in the earlier section, your values may be different from context to context, so it can be worth taking some time to reflect on your values as a facilitator. Apart from applying this lens to the questions above, here are some additional questions that you might find helpful to reflect on the positionalities and power dynamics involved, as well as on your 'toolkit' for holding space.

• • If you are facilitating/organising the group, what are some of your values as a facilitator/organiser? What kind of encounters do you want to happen?

  • What kinds of values do this specific group of people have? How well does everyone know each other's values?

  • If you are facilitating/organising the group, what are some of the main practices that you use? (Tip: some suggestions can be found in the Diving In sections around the site!)

  • In what ways do I share (or have a different) identity, experience, culture, capacity and/or economics with the others in the group? How am I creating space for difference to exist? If there is little difference, why?